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Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by princefunmmy(m): 3:38pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:What Happens to a society without shame? Getting a maga is against the contract of marriage both legally and morally. Let me say it again, equality is not a standard way here but equity where one party must surely do more than the other (but not that one party neglects it responsibilty or feel its too bursdensome and so avoid it) |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by princefunmmy(m): 3:41pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Sterope:I usually don't argue, i only want you to see it from another side |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 3:49pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
dominique: You're a smart man! |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 3:56pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
princefunmmy:If you’re not doing your job as a husband to provide fully for me, yet expect me to cook clean and help you with the bills, I have the right to be separated ted from you. I have the right to find someone else who will make my life stress free. Same way if the woman is not doing her wifely duties, realistically what do men do? Be real with yourself. People always taking about morals, not realising that whether indirectly or directly womanhood has a price. We are all hypocrites. Listen. All I’m saying is, if it’s 50/50, play your role significantly. I may still end up doing more house chores but play your role significantly.Help me to Cook,clean,take care of the kids and I will also help you out financially. If you want to take care of all the finances and my needs, then I will do the rest. There will always be minor exceptions but let the roles be finalised. 2 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by erico2k2(m): 4:14pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
bukatyne:You got it wrong there. Domestics could be deligated in the form of hiring a maid . These days 2018 a woman who has nothing to offer other than the inbtw of her legs has tough times ahead . |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by erico2k2(m): 4:15pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:Who does 50/50 in Nigeria ? In the west yes they do but that's a different society . Nigeria ni equal responsibility btw husband and wife |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 4:16pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
erico2k2:ok ohh |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by erico2k2(m): 4:21pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:But nah true nah,the cold here dey make women brain correct but in 9ja everywhere is HOT and man's not Hot . Marriage is the most u predictable institution in the whole world but there is blessing in marriage I can attest to that . I GAINED more when married than when single but . I married my best friend we dont have rules . We just do it. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 4:22pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
erico2k2:That’s wonderful. Where do you reside? |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by erico2k2(m): 4:23pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:Somewhere in North London |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 4:27pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Proudgorgeousga: Ha this is what i said o She has no point, not all household are run like that, she can speak for her marriage, a lot of couples these days come to an agreement , besides its in Nigeria that we actually have more housemaids than outside country especially in Lagos. I never said it's not a reality compared to the sweeping statement, I only said she can only speak for her marriages and those she knows of. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 4:28pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
erico2k2:enjoying the horrible snow? |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 4:32pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
pcguru1: and I say she has a point because most marriages are like what she describes. The ones that are not like that are in the minority or live abroad. 1 Like |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Sterope(f): 4:39pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Routine doesn't demand less. For house chores, It doesn't get easier unless it is something you enjoy. All these men talk are merely what you think should be. It is not what it is in real time. Men will still be stuck doing the same old boring jobs like their wives. Nothing is going to change. Both parents will continue to adjust their income relatively to their expenditure. Your average home consist of parents who either holds a 8-5 job or runs a business. princefunmmy: 1 Like |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by erico2k2(m): 4:42pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:ahaha Yes,ohh, but I'm sure people in Eastern Europe are laughing at us, they get 10 times this amount of SNOW |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 4:52pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
erico2k2:I know, but we’re honestly not used to this. That’s why everyone is going crazy. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by erico2k2(m): 4:53pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:Apparently, its going to continue till midnight now this one ! |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 4:54pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
erico2k2:Im fed up. I’m stuck in the house because I can’t do anything |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by erico2k2(m): 5:00pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:well it aint that bad, roads are gritted.my street has a slope and its one way, but its all good, snow or no snow, I'm going south London to go drink that pepper soup |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 5:03pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
erico2k2:Lol. Maybe it’s because I live outside London so its bad for me. Save some pepper soup for me ohh |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by erico2k2(m): 5:07pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:AH me Im going Old Kent Rd, this weather deserve hot pepper.Ok will keep two plates 4 U! |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 5:11pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
erico2k2:Alright. Enjoy yourself |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by pedrilo: 5:57pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
dominique:this is a lot of baloney |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by movyyzz(m): 6:16pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
#When the work place had an all men stats employed, men were paid well enough to shoulder solely the financial responsibility of the family. It appears the presence of women amongst workforce reduced men's stats amongst the employed, reduced men's pay, increased men's expenses back home because the housewives seeing how their working counterparts avariciously indulged in expensive lifestyle became lustful of such lifestyle and as such started mounting much pressure on their husband's to provide such ostentatious living conditions for them(the wives). #So you see, the issue isn't that working men can't solely take care of their families, but that their discontented wives, comparing their living conditions with their working class counterparts(who unbeknownst to them have no such responsibility of solely footing their own family's financial responsibilities like their husband's do) is the genesis of all these hullabaloo... #Expensive living is not for married men and married women. Expensive living is for single men and single ladies. One who gets a grasp on this would always be at ease, at peace, happy, and blissful.... #As a matter of fact luxury items ain't for the working married class, but for the single working class.... #So, in essence, the culprit in all these is COMPARISON. Do away with comparison as a married lady(with other single luxurious ladies) and you'll definitely enjoy similar, if not even better, living than your single luxurious ladies.... #So, for a lady, you're either married and humbly contented with your man's income, or you're are single and working and contented with your own income. Having it both ways will only cause grieve and pain for both you and your man... #Hence my insistence that a full time working class lady shouldn't get married but can(if so desired) get a child or children. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 7:22pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
movyyzz: the kind of dumb shìt i read on nairaland sef is scary. 5 Likes |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by Nobody: 7:54pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
movyyzz: When was the time when women did not work? My great grandmother used to work with my grandpa on the farm side by side. And her first child, a daughter, had to help as soon as she was old enough to help. On some days they would leave the house to sell some part of the harvest and contributed to the family's income. Women have always contributed. ALWAYS. Be it as farmers, tailors, teachers or maids. Now I don't know what you mean by a man's income was enough to sustain the family but I do know that people used to live in houses packed to the brim. A chicken was a luxury and the average family did not own a car. If you want to live a simple life, you are free to do so. And for your information, women do not only work for the sake of money. For me it is self-fulfilling to make use of my full potential and it is a pleasure to use my expertise in the world of work. If you have a problem with it, try being a full time daddy and husband and stay at home 24/7. |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by MIKOLOWISKA: 8:18pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
she can offer kpekus Sunexy: |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by MIKOLOWISKA: 8:22pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
ur daddy house must be very comfy remioshy: |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by MIKOLOWISKA: 8:24pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
PietraK: |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by MIKOLOWISKA: 8:26pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:whch man collects 50/50 rent form his wife whyare you spending above your means(rent,pikin,stuff) |
Re: "Being Married In Nigeria Is Inconveniencing" - Lady On Twitter Says by MIKOLOWISKA: 8:34pm On Mar 02, 2018 |
Safiaaa:every guy |
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