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Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by Nobody: 2:02pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by nairabetguru(m): 2:08pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
Fmartin: wait lemme goan ask olisah metuh |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by Funkybabee(f): 2:08pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
MDsambo: Wonder why some people reason and talk as if na them know all,Na u go tell us ur own and waka why calling other human as a goat becuz of her tradition Oga ooooo 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by starbuck(f): 2:09pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
XhosaNostra: I beg to differ except if you are not igbo |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by Ifeanyi4491(m): 2:09pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
XhosaNostra:Big up 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by Xisnin(m): 2:10pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
Fmartin:You don't have to pay bride price, just find a girl from a family with no attachment to culture. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by LordIsaac(m): 2:11pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
It is a poverty inspired act....held onto, because it profits women. As can be seen from the responses thus far, no logical answers, yet, the practice is in force. You wonder why the superiority complex of a gender over another persists...because, you cannot eat your cake, albeit symbolically, and have it! 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by XhosaNostra(f): 2:13pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
starbuck: Differ all you want. I gave an explanation of what it means to MY people. What does it mean for the Igbos? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by achiever12: 2:16pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
yeyerolling: Because bride price payment is not idol worshipping |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by abuaaliyah(m): 2:19pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
bride price is not much islamically, you would have ask about the traditional bills |
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Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by tete7000(m): 2:21pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
Fmartin: Because it is a tradition, a part of our culture that has an important message and significance. It highlights the value placed on a well brought up girl. She is not meant to cheap, something thrown away like a trash. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by alklas(m): 2:23pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
Our culture demands bride price |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by MrOwonikoko: 2:26pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
XhosaNostra: If she doesn't have new moda and new fada or relatives again nko? What does she have to do? |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by XhosaNostra(f): 2:28pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
MrOwonikoko: Then she becomes the mother. She's there to build or add on to an existing family after all. In times of trouble, then she can consult her family (uncles) if there's noone on the husband's side of the family. |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by Pharoh: 2:34pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
To compensate the family for taking their daughter but the practice serves no practical purpose anymore. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by Nobody: 2:40pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
The origin of bride price. Bride price was established when wedding became a public issue, then the need to beautify the bride before public presentation became essential and the best person to do it was the man who claims to love the woman. At that time it demonstrates how much love he has for her when she appears well beautified. Entertainment then was a public responsibility. If you judge from the initial philosophy you will see that what we have today is a gross violation of not only wedding ceremony but the marriage institution itself. |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by tosyne2much(m): 2:41pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
chocberry:You know what the thread will turn out to be nah |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by youngreezy(m): 2:42pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
XhosaNostra:"dy Prepared Her Just For Her Husband?"anthony Joshua Said Diz Same Tin Dat One Day Hiz Neice Wil Be Sumbody's Wife U Guys Wanted To Chop Him. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by Proudlyblack(f): 2:45pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
TheSuperNerd:You just nailed it I think I am falling in love. Let's fix a date that I will come and see your parents to pay groom's price 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by eyinjuege: 2:47pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
LordIsaac: I wouldnt say it's a poverty inspired act, at least for most cultures who practice bride price. Most cultures i know don't demand much in terms of the bride price. Some collect amounts as low as 1000 naira, some places return the bride price there and then saying they're not selling their daughter. Some people may use it as a money making venture but for the majority, its not seen as such. Personally, i think it should be abolished or returned back to the groom during the ceremony. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by XhosaNostra(f): 2:48pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
youngreezy: Who is the "you" you're referring to? I don't know what his definition of that word is since it can mean different things to different people. I didn't even bother with that thread. Our cultural definition is, you get a competent, functional & self-sufficient human being who can raise a family or take care of a household unassisted. |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by MissRaine69(f): 2:51pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
Best described as payment made in "exchange" for the bride's family's loss of her labor and fertility within her kinship group. It was also a gift from the groom to his new bride's family. In this sense it is a substantial gesture of goodwill in the forging of the new unity of the lineages. The custom is aimed at bringing the two families together, fostering mutual respect, and indicating that the man is capable of supporting his wife financially and emotionally. I heard a story where the in-laws asked for a Mac Book Air amongst other things. Now couples start married life in debt which was never what bride price was about. It’s now an actual financial barrier for young man who struggle with the financial requirements. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by Chochovini: 2:53pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
MDsambo:. SORRY WE Don‘t need any islamic view on this matter here. Their discriminations is overwhelming. For instance, a muslim will never eat of any animal slaughtered by a Christian, and so many other stuffs like that. Can you imagine that? Rubbish. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by dragonking2: 2:54pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
XhosaNostra: Lol. It's smart of you to quickly end the conversation with that guy. Bride price is a traditional thing, yet they always drag their religion to it. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by XhosaNostra(f): 2:55pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
dragonking2: IKR! |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by MaeBlocks(f): 2:57pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
See what I found on Wikipedia concerning Bride price: Africa In parts of Africa, a traditional marriage ceremony depends on payment of a bride price to be valid. In Sub-Saharan Africa, bride price must be paid first in order for the couple to get permission to marry in church or in other civil ceremonies, or the marriage is not considered valid by the bride's family. The amount can vary from a token to a great sum, real estate and other values. Lobolo (or Lobola, sometimes also known as Roora) is the same tradition in most cultures in Southern Africa Shona, Venda, Zulu, Ndebele etc. The amount includes a few to several herd of cattle, goats and a sum of money depending on the family. The cattle and goats constitute an integral part of the traditional marriage for ceremonial purposes during and after the original marriage ceremony. The beasts and money are not always paid all at once. Depending on the wealth of the groom he and his family can enter into a non written contract with the bride's family similar to the Jewish Ketubah, in which he promises to pay what he owes within a specified period of time. This is done to allow young men who do not have much to marry while they work towards paying off the bride price as well as raising a family or wait for their own sisters and aunts to get married so they in turn can use the amounts received to offset their debts to their in-laws. This amount must be paid by his family in the event he is incapacitated or dies. It is considered a family debt of honor. The bride price tradition can have destructive effects when young men don't have the means to marry. In strife-torn South Sudan, for instance, many young men steal cattle for this reason, often risking their lives. In mid twentieth century Gabon a person's whole life can be governed by the money affairs connected with marriage; to secure a wife for their son, parents begin to pay installments for a girl of only a few years; from the side of the wife's family there begins a process of squeezing which goes on for years. |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by Nowenuse: 2:58pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
MDsambo: In Islam? Is Islam your culture? What happened to Hausa culture? Black man copying Arabic culture calling it islamic culture. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by KrystosCJ(m): 3:03pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
BP, the abbreviation and its many meanings Bride Price Blood Pressure Better Person Big P**** Beans & Plantain Add you own Aside tradition, bride price, also known as dowry, is some form of homage made in honor of the family giving away their daughter [or son] for marriage. If you keep asking why you have to pay it, someone may ask you why you aren't serious to settle down properly. |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by nanizle(m): 3:08pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
Fmartin: To compensate the bride's family for the |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by LadyHal1(f): 3:11pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
MDsambo: it is the dowry dats paid to d bride....bride price is to the family 1 Like |
Re: Why Do We Pay Bride Price In Nigeria? by Proudlyngwa(m): 3:15pm On Mar 06, 2018 |
tosyne2much:The real question should be, why are we still paying bride price. 1 Like |
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