Hello Nairalanders,

I came to this public forum to alight one of the major dangerous problems facing families in general. In the family i emerged from when we are very little everything looks normal until we started growing up. I notice my junior sibling were prefecially treated which pained the hell out of me. Everything i do is nt just right in my parent face to the extent if my junior ones offended me am nt allow to beat or scold them, if i report to my parent am d one that will wrong to the extent my junior ones develop the habit of insulting me regularly .in public, if i touch them i will be beaten and nt be given food and money.

So many i cried secretly most times thinking how will my younger one insulting me blue black without fear and respect, i developed the habit of staying in the bush daily talking to my self (i still do it now that am an adult) everyday i begged God to uproot my from the house, i did so menial jobs to buy my waec and jamb forms without my parent showing any insterest...

i meet my parent severally that i need to learn an handwork they shun me off. I developed hatred for my family begging God to erase it. So many times attempted suicide

I finally gained admission, "i am totally freed" i cried. Each time i remember, i feel worthless and pained.

SO PARENT NEVER SHOW ANY ATOM OF FAVOURITISM IT WILL TEAR THE FAMILY APART! PLS!!

parenting aint easy

Rosarie:
parenting aint easy

it sure aint easy, but being partial makes it worse and difficult

anoda:
it sure aint easy, but being partial makes it worse and difficult

I tell you, mayb parents dnt even think of the vice that it will lead to before indulging in it.

You've passed through the struggles, lessons learnt. What would you do differently once you have an opportunity to start a family?

You see, we are all creators. I expect you to create something different and better than what your parents did. Same way you pass the baton to your unborn babies. This is the law of creation. Evolution must happen.

Chubhie:
You've passed through the struggles, lessons learnt. What would you do differently once you have an opportunity to start a family?

You see, we are all creators. I expect you to create something different and better than what your parents did. Same way you pass the baton to your unborn babies. This is the law of creation. Evolution must happen.

In my entire life neva will i ever, i repeat i will neva exhibit dat character to my children, what will i stand to gain? conflict among my children when they eventually mature? No! NEVER!! children are equal, each deserve, love, care, attention. i hv made gone to homes personally and secretly ask d children, "who do ur daddy like more?" they reply "we dnt know" "what abt ur mummy" they reply "nobody" with smiles. To me favouritism among ur children is more dangerous than a polygamous family. By special grace of God I neva be like my parent! Amen

Baiysam:


In my entire life neva will i ever, i repeat i will neva exhibit dat character to my children, what will i stand to gain? conflict among my children when they eventually mature? No! NEVER!! children are equal, each deserve, love, care, attention. i hv made gone to homes personally and secretly ask d children, "who do ur daddy like more?" they reply "we dnt know" "what abt ur mummy" they reply "nobody" with smiles. To me favouritism among ur children is more dangerous than a polygamous family. By special grace of God I neva be like my parent! Amen

Fantastic mindset! I would wish that you stretch it to accommodate the motherless and fatherless. I can see you've be well trained for your roles. Worry not about provision cos creation has you covered.

I will lurk around and make contact at the right moment.

Chubhie:

Fantastic mindset! I would wish that you stretch it to accommodate the motherless and fatherless. I can see you've be well trained for your roles. Worry not about provision cos creation has you covered.

I will lurk around and make contact at the right moment.

Beautiful Idea with all submission i will definitely take action. thanks

Baiysam:


I tell you, mayb parents dnt even think of the vice that it will lead to before indulging in it.

true talk, they don't giv a fu*k

when my dad caught my bro fighting when we were kids, he just called them, gave them some latches then..........walks away, he didn't ask what the probs was he just flogged and left, this can stirup more anger and hate btw the two brothers

anoda:
when my dad caught my bro fighting when we were kids, he just called them, gave them some latches then..........walks away, he didn't ask what the probs was he just flogged and left, this can stirup more anger and hate btw the two brothers

you will see, no matter how long some of things happen, it will never be erased frm memory