Ujujoan:

So naturally you assume that just because a woman doesnt want to hang around broke guys then she's jobless

Not necessarily,

CASE CLOSED. Cooouuurt.

So because I can't stand broke men u automatically think I'm jobless myself or I'm broke?? Lol no its an illusion to think rich powerful women don't need rich men. I don't need to explain or prove myself to anyone but its women that say things like 'I have my own money and I don't need a man' that end up in situations like the poster. No pun intended love

@Clintwine

well said bro

u new or you changed ur ID?

ayettymama:

So because I can't stand broke men u automatically think I'm jobless myself or I'm broke?? Lol no its an illusion to think rich powerful women don't need rich men. I don't need to explain or prove myself to anyone but its women that say things like 'I have my own money and I don't need a man' that end up in situations like the poster. No pun intended love

i think ure broke

iyk1:

okay fine, he maybe taking advantage of you, quite unfortunate though
what next, what do you want to do about it
what do you stand to gain or loose if you do something about it
the mere fact that knowledge is power does not mean that power should be used without caution
study him and observe him well
just be careful girl so you wont be unhappy at the end of it all

What are you saying

That she should 'study' a gold-digger? For what?

Beleive me, her life will be better of without a guy that misses her 'puz' . .  and lets her pay his bills  . .  and talks about only himself when they are together!

Jeez, you guys sef! *rooolz eyez*

@tkb ditto

ayettymama:

So because I can't stand broke men u automatically think I'm jobless myself or I'm broke?? Lol no its an illusion to think rich powerful women don't need rich men. I don't need to explain or prove myself to anyone but its women that say things like 'I have my own money and I don't need a man' that end up in situations like the poster. No pun intended love

And sends money to faceless guys! lol

ayettymama:

@tkb ditto

ayettymama

we are friends , we cannot fight

besides, i owe u a bottle of wine when i enter ur area code

Onu gi bendia. @tkb, i knw she aint broke. Shes just stubborn.

Hi, you have rise a very good question, you see in very relationship this type of things do
happen some times.
you have to watch closing

daduke2k:

Onu gi bendia. @tkb, i knw she aint broke. Shes just stubborn.

LOL

He's just using you. And if he's not doing it consciously, he's got

no freaking idea what civility is.

minute:

He's just using you. And if he's not doing it consciously, he's got

no freaking idea what civility is.

Yea? How many guys actually do

Uju no mind them joo this is the reason why I have soo many enemies on nl these men don't wanna hear the truth-- ladies instead of attackin the woman that's quite clear on her standards why don't u go ahead and expect more from the loosers u carry abt?? And men when a woman spks like this u supposed to fix up!! Don't expecta woman to dumb down her standards people move up in life not down!!! Eurgh

Ujujoan:

Yea? How many guys actually do

why do u like to make uninformed deductions?

im sure you have done Msc and you should know the type of fallacy called hasty generalisation
stop spewing this ur jaundiced view about mehn online

its crazy

Thanks for all your help guys!!!!

I know what to do now!


Im gonna dumb him and start looking for someone who is good to me!

This has been a REVELATION!

German1234:

Thanks for all your help guys!!!!

I know what to do now!


Im gonna dumb him and start looking for someone who is good to me!

This has been a REVELATION!

Every girl wants a man that is good to her not one that sponges off her on a full time basis, that is just not on at all!

German1234:

Thanks for all your help guys!!!!

I know what to do now!


Im gonna dumb him and start looking for someone who is good to me!

This has been a REVELATION!

goodluck to u in ur attempt at dumping ur man

tkb417:

why do u like to make uninformed deductions?

im sure you have done Msc and you should know the type of fallacy called hasty generalisation
stop spewing this your jaundiced view about mehn online

its crazy

This one no be book mata jor!

Me and you know say guys too dey Fuk up!

tkb417:

goodluck to u in your attempt at dumping your man

Hopefully dude will take it like a man, All the best German!

SA Goddess:

Hopefully dude will take it like a man, All the best German!

Trust me, he wont be heart broken!

Uju u don't no how the guy will behave ooo unno the bobo needs papers he might even cry crocodile tears and stalk her for a couple of weeks, girl u mite have to find a system to dump him

Ujujoan:

Trust me, he wont be heart broken!

I hope so, heartbreak is the least of his worries, he has to eat      

The guy will be devasted cos his mugu no be mugu no more, and will move on to other mugu, dere dey penty

@tkb, i have been around since 2006, i just look at these posts and restrain myself from participating, except the need be.

And i saw som1 blabbing about how if she makes 10million her husband should make more than that (Are you guys competing or wot?) .
This is why many marriages don't last because it has turned to a competition.


Why do i have the feeling that the poster would end up with the same type of guy.
@german1234, you are definitely going to end up with the same type of guy, because you are surrounded with the same types of Nigerians.
Get out of that league, then you can meet great guys

@ayettymama -  nobody is saying you should go out with a broke guy, but you are either immature or myopic to see the prospects the guy has.
You forget that you know only the now and not the future.

You ladies are not ready to work towards anything, you just want an already made guy and upon that you wouldn't give the guy peace( still treating the relationship as a competition).

SA Goddess:

I hope so, heartbreak is the least of his worries, he has to eat      

lol    

ayettymama:

Uju u don't no how the guy will behave ooo unno the bobo needs papers he might even cry crocodile tears and stalk her for a couple of weeks, girl u mite have to find a system to dump him

You are right!

I think the best way is to act broke and stop giving him money completely, he'll run on his own. You can even make demands you know he can't meet, just for the heck of it!  

clintwine:

@tkb, i have been around since 2006, i just look at these posts and restrain myself from participating, except the need be.

And i saw som1 blabbing about how if she makes 10million her husband should make more than that (Are you guys competing or wot?) .
This is why many marriages don't last because it has turned to a competition.


Why do i have the feeling that the poster would end up with the same type of guy.
@german1234, you are definitely going to end up with the same type of guy, because you are surrounded with the same types of Nigerians.
Get out of that league, then you can meet great guys

@ayettymama - nobody is saying you should go out with a broke guy, but you are either immature or myopic to see the prospects the guy has.
You forget that you know only the now and not the future.

You ladies are not ready to work towards anything, you just want an already made guy and upon that you wouldn't give the guy peace( still treating the relationship as a competition).

From the 'now' you can tell the future!

A guy that is comfortable with living off a woman is no good in my books! Nobody says he has to be rich from the word go! But for him to be happy while a woman pays his bills and the only thing he has to say to her is that he misses her puz . . . Please, no need to crack your brain over this one!

Even if he stumbles into wealth tomorrow, he's still gonna handle it like a loser. Mark my word!

@uju , if you read my previous replies you would see that i condemned the guys attitude.

Am only speaking in totality of the kind of girls one gets to meet these days.
No more gold diggers, platinum don join.

Lol ok Inno no man would complain if I said me and my man must earn the same amt- men don't mind bein loosers nowadays yet they still wanna be the 'head' they wanna be respected they wanna be consulted-- abeg I'm not plannin to be a broke woman in fact my life hasn't even started I can't remember bein broke. . . . . Ever wth will I say entered my brain to now make me look at a broke man?? Abeg call am competition call am wetin u like my husband will be my own inspiration I don't need to look at outsiders ill look up to ma man!! Pleese!! Fix up and stop complainin abt ayettymamas expectations!!

ayettymama:

Lol ok Inno no man would complain if I said me and my man must earn the same amt- men don't mind bein loosers nowadays yet they still wanna be the 'head' they wanna be respected they wanna be consulted-- abeg I'm not plannin to be a broke woman in fact my life hasn't even started I can't remember bein broke. . . . . Ever wth will I say entered my brain to now make me look at a broke man?? Abeg call am competition call am wetin u like my husband will be my own inspiration I don't need to look at outsiders ill look up to ma man!! Pleese!! Fix up and stop complainin abt ayettymamas expectations!!

I don't know where in this world inspiration = = Competition.
But i agree with you on a fact, you deserve the best in life.

Most of us dream of the ideal world - but wake up, you are in a real world, not ideal world.

Am sure most married women would agree with me that a Home becomes a home when the husband and woman complement each other or becomes a house when they compete with each other.( or if english would allow me, Inspirate each other .LOL)