There are many facets to a woman’s psychology
that may prove illusive for some. In an attempt
to shed some light on the more prevalent points of
interest, I’ve outlined nine specific aspects of a
woman’s behavior to help create a better
understanding of why women are the way they are,
and why they do the things they do. This is by no
means an all-inclusive roadmap to women. It is
instead a reel of “highlights” to provide
some insight into the inner workings of a woman.


He’s Just a Friend: Women love having male friends
as confidants, comforters, and “cuddle buddies.”
They serve every purpose a female friend would
with the added bonus of providing a feeling of
safety and security. One of the best things about
having male friends is that they can be wonderful
sounding boards for other relationships. A woman
may feel uninhibited to show a man the
various sides of her that might normally make her
self-conscious or embarrassed. Male friends make
women feel good about themselves, absent the
consideration of ulterior motives.


Let’s Talk About Sex: A woman’s sex drive is
based on her individual and unique physiology. Some
women have highly elevated libidos, while others’
cycle periodically. There are so many biological and
environmental factors that can affect a woman’s
libido that it can be hard to single out any one
culprit for a change in it. One thing is for sure, I
believe every woman is born with a libido and a lack
thereof may be entirely unbeknownst to her and
just as frustrating for her. This all said, the tenor
of a relationship can equally affect a woman’s
interest in sex and intimacy. If she is unhappy in a
relationship it can cause a drastic decrease in
libido, equally so if she were feeling particularly
good in a relationship, her sex drive could be
profoundly elevated.


Mr. Romantic: A woman can truly appreciate a man
who can maintain a certain degree of romance
throughout a relationship. That’s not to say that
passion doesn’t play its part, but a romantic
gesture or two can greatly increase the degree of
passion a woman feels for a man. So in romancing
her you demonstrate your appreciation of her. Her
response will reflect her appreciation of your
effort. Now this generalization is geared toward
serious, mature relationships as less evolved
relationships may evoke varying responses. The
offer of a romantic gesture should speak to the
length and depth of the relationship. In a newer
relationship flowers and cards would be
appropriate. In a more established one, jewelry or
a private getaway might be more suitable.


Mr. Right: A man who fosters a sense of stability,
security and reliability is a man much desired. No
matter how successful, independent or ambitious a
woman may be, she still wants to feel as though her
significant other can and will take care of her.
Independent of a woman’s circumstance, she wants
to be swept off of her feet. She wants to feel the
assurance that she’s in an environment where she
can let her guard down and be fragile and
vulnerable. It’s important in a relationship that a
woman has confidence in her counterpart’s ability
to take the lead. The role each person plays in a
relationship is dependant upon the manner in
which the relationship was initiated. Now how those
roles develop is greatly dependant upon how a man
defines his role at the outset of the relationship
and his ability to maintain a degree of consistency
throughout it.


The Games People Play: Women who engage in
gamesmanship are simply immature. This has less to
do with age and more to do with her level of
emotional and psychological development. Once
you’ve spotted this type of behavior, don’t second
guess yourself. Move away from it, discontinue the
relationship, and keep it moving. Women who play
games can damage much more than a man’s pride.
So don’t become a party to the games, simply step
away from it. Enough said.


The Key is Communication: Women are prone to over
analysis, even in healthy relationships. Many
situations become unnecessarily complicated due to
a lack of effective communication. Women like to
talk. That’s how most women express themselves.
Some women are inclined to use body language as
well, however for the most part, verbal
communication skills are essential in keeping a
healthy relationship “sane.” Consistency can play a
large part in avoiding many unpleasant situations
because it will provide her with a frame of
reference she can trust and needn’t question. Your
best bet in lessening the ill effects of a woman’s
need to overanalyze is to ask her questions about
how she feels and what she thinks. Finally, there
may be some issues that are difficult for her to
talk about. You should be aware of those too! The
only way to be aware, however, is to ask. These
kinds of verbal exchanges can diffuse problems in
the present and future. Remember, patience is a
virtue!


What’s with the Attitude?: A woman’s disposition
can normally be traced back to her childhood, as is
true for the rest of us. This is something you just
can’t get around. The only person you can control
is yourself. You cannot change a woman for better
or worse or instill in her virtues or traits that she
hadn’t already developed on her own. You have to
take a person as you find them, not in light of how
you wish to reinvent them. Respect, ownership of
one’s responsibilities, honesty, faithfulness,
intelligence and the like are all traits most of us
would value in any relationship. However, you have
to recognize that despite the package she’s
wrapped in, her disposition is ALL her own.


Her First: Women never forget their first sexual
partner. The premium on a woman’s virginity in the
United States, as well as other parts of the world,
creates an unfathomable amount of pressure in
choosing not only when, but with whom she’ll share
such a monumental moment. This hypocritical
phenomenon is one of the reasons why losing her
virginity holds such significance. In the end, the
extent to which it matters is unique to each woman,
as is her individual experience. The first time, may
hold a degree of nostalgia full of romantic
overtones. Yet, to others it isn’t held in such high
esteem, for various reasons, and can quite possibly
be considered altogether irrelevant. Regardless of
the circumstances of a woman’s first sexual
experience, it can leave an indelible imprint on her
future sexual encounters. (This is where No. 6,
asking questions, may come in handy.

Tell the Truth: Women are consistently inconsistent – true or false? It’s true! Women are notorious for changing their minds. However, there is meaning to the seeming madness. Life is fluid and amorphous.
The results of our decisions are true, but not
definite. Women, the intuitive creatures that they
are, are cognizant of this and will make
adjustments accordingly. While men may interpret
this as a lack of decisiveness, it’s really a
reflection of how rapidly a woman can and will
respond to changes in circumstances, disposition,
demeanor and emotions. Never underestimate the
significance and consequence of a woman’s
prerogative to change her mind. The ability to
accept this reality is much more valuable than any
attempt to fully understand it.

Women are often referred to as an enigma of the
human species. However, one must consider that
the parts that make up the inner workings of a
woman are often more susceptible to biological and
hormonal factors than men. Yet, we all tend to
better understand with age that while men are
from Mars and women are from Venus, we share
the same planet and can just as well share a
common plane of understanding.

Up next : Understanding the inner workings of a man