Pls my friends i have a question.two people dated for 8 yrs and eventually got married but d marriage coukd not last a year.what could ve been d cause.pls i need ur view on it

Am beginning to realise that many lovers in this age are loving each other cause it's convinent for them to love the person at that moment, while dating they might not really know each well cause they don't live with each other.
You can only know about a persons character when you live together.

Pre-wedding dating, courtship etc play a great role in you knowing whether to go ahead or not

But some still go ahead after great courtship and still tank the marriage

Shiit happens, Meanwhile.

Some have boo but cannot cheat,
Some can cheat but have no boo,
We have boo and we can cheat,
Glory be to thee o, Lord.

Signed.

Vice President,

Bachelors Club, Lagos Branch.

It happens. People should understand that most things we call love is not love but lust. You can hide all character defects in courtship, but not in marriage. Besides,love alone does not sustain marriage but understanding and tolerance.

Because neither party wanted to be honest with each other. The relationship was no longer there but a wedding was an expectation.

JONNYSPUTE:
It happens. People should understand that most things we call love is not love but lust. You can hide all character defects in courtship, but not in marriage. Besides,love alone does not sustain marriage but understanding and tolerance.

Hiding the real you for eight whole years?

on most occasions that this happened, the partners might have spent very limited time together during the courtship period.

This is why I don't buy the idea of long distance relationship.

Waiting for the elders. Àwọn singles but expertise in marriage counselling

what would be must be n there is nothing any body can do abt it. when u pretend to luv someone when u don't really do.

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Hiding the real you for eight whole years? [/quote....My dear not necessarily hiding persay but the initial love at the beginning of an affair may not be what is actually needed to sustain a marriage.Something more stronger is needed

Humans are multifaceted, complex, constantly changing creatures, partially driven by their innate whims and caprices or emotions and other times by prejudices.
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You strive to understand your partner in marriage, not in courtship. it's evident patience and maturity that would have been needed in the marriage was poured out in their EIGHT years courtship by the both partners.
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Marriage requires two persons coming together with respect for themselves, a bit of mutual compatibility, willingness to be together against all odds and a leap of faith to bring their union to materialization.Any marital union without these vital ingredients is bound to collapse.
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Endurance, discipline borne out of personal beliefs not religion, but could be tradition, and sacrifices are fundamental values that ensures a progressive marriage of which our mothers and fathers had and understood these basic concepts which made their marriages work effectively during their times.

Teedora:
Pls my friends i have a question.two people dated for 8 yrs and eventually got married but d marriage coukd not last a year.what could ve been d cause.pls i need ur view on it

The cause is compatibility.
They are not compatible to each other!
During their dating years, they were never very close to each other.
But after marriage, they become very close (they must be very close to each other after marriage) and realised that they couldn't understand each other or get along well.
So they just end it instead.

There is difference between marriage n courtship.i know people who r dating will argue dis.dnt worry when dey get married dey will understand

You should ask one of both parties what happened, and come back and tell us what really happened.

Most relationships are fake

RuthDaniels:
Too many secrets marriage revealed!

Evening

greiboy:
Evening

Hello Grey...


How are you doing this evening?

RuthDaniels:
Hello Grey...

How are you doing this evening?

Good we thank God
How was your weekend? church?

What sort of stupid question is that, how do you expect us to know?

greiboy:
Good we thank God

How was your weekend? church?

It is fine oooo, not yet over. But I will appreciate it if it can start all over

Service was awesome today, Yours?

RuthDaniels:
It is fine oooo, not yet over. But I will appreciate it if it can start all over

Service was awesome today, Yours?

Sure, but why do wish to start over?

emmm. I went to morning service. So to borrow your words, it was quite awesome too

greiboy:
Sure, but why do wish to start over?

emmm. I went to morning service. So to borrow your words, it was quite awesome too

Don't know, maybe I'm not fully prepared for tomorrow. Lazy me




That's good to read, Which church BTW?

RuthDaniels:
Don't know, maybe I'm not fully prepared for tomorrow. Lazy me




That's good to read, Which church BTW?

Cac revival

Really that makes two of us
lazy ass adults

greiboy:
Cac revival

Really that makes two of us
lazy ass adults

Thanks to you two for nicely derailing this thread.

Hope youre both satisfied now.

Kampack:


Thanks to you two for nicely derailing this thread.

Hope youre both satisfied now.

I am sorry bro I can modify the comments if you wish

greiboy:
I am sorry bro I can modify the comments if you wish

Needless

Indeed amusing.

Kampack:

Needless
Indeed amusing.

Yes I thought you were op