olayemi85:
Each time I make love to my wife, she doesn't show any sign she is enjoying sex, does it mean she is enjoying it but just don't like screaming or moaning during sex. We are Christian we courted for five years with God grace keeping bed undefiled, I married her as a virgin when I too don't really know much about sex than reading about it online and some relationship books we bought in the cause of courtship.


Please I need women with experience to advice me. Does it mean my wife is not enjoying sex or not that is why she doesn't moan or scream. I need candid advice. Thanks in advance

dasparrow:
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Not every woman enjoys sex contrary to what most men believe. In fact, research has shown that most women do not get an orgasm just from dick/penile penetration into the vagina. Google the article from Psychology Today titled "Why so many women don't have orgasm". It is very insightful and sheds light on the issue.


Men and women are wired differently and their bodies are different and respond to sex differently. Women who were sexually abused, raped or molested as children or adolescents often times hate sex but because Nigeria is a country that pressures and shames her citizens into getting married, many women force themselves to get married despite the fact that they don't look forward to the sexual demands that come with marriage.

Some women have low sex drive. The desire to have sex is just not there due to stress, tiredness, not feeling loved by their spouse, depression, etc.

Many women experience pain when the inflated, hard, elongated dick gets shoved back and forth into their fragile vaginas but they don't say anything because they don't want to hurt their husband's fragile ego. They just lay there like a log of wood hoping and praying in their hearts that the man orgasms quickly so that their poor hurting bruised vagina can rest.

So yes, there are many reasons why some women will not moan and groan during sex. I mean why should a woman pretend to enjoy sex when in actuality she doesn't?

Maybe you are bad in bed. Maybe, you don't caress and romance her enough before starting the act of sex. Maybe you are too rough when you are thrusting your hard, inflated, elongated dick inside of her. Maybe, you don't know where her center of gravity is.

Maybe, you don't stimulate her clitoris enough before penetration. Maybe, she is not sexually attracted to you. Maybe she is not just into sex. There could be many reasons.

Perhaps, you should talk to your wife. Ask her what's wrong. Only she can give you an answer. We here on Nairaland can only speculate.

emmchi:
Talk to your wife, ask her which part of are body is she most sensitive to and concentrate on that particular area before the main banging. Start off with a little foul play, go easy on her.

blackpanthar:
BRO... am sad you feel this way because I am so sure your mum didnt moan when your father had sex with her while u were in the same house o

MOANING/SCREAMING/CUSSING/TALKING/ORGASMS is the Marketing Material that MAKES POOORNOGRAPHY SELL and they are all lies.

You married a WIFE not a IndecentStar or SLAYQUEEN or HAARLOT...... enjoy her for her character and stop expecting her to be like the PERVERTs that you have watched or heard about.

SEX in MARRIAGE is called LOVE MAKING not FILM MAKING.... so PERFORMANCE is not the ultimate but rather SATISFACTION IS. AND if you can only be satisfied when she MOANS then teach it to her... you can tell her to let you know during sex if she is enjoying it or what more you can do for her to enjoy it or what she would want u to do..... THESE THINGS OUGHT TO HAVE BEEN TAUGHT IN YOUR MARRIAGE CLASS IN YOUR CHURCH SINCE YOU MARRIED HER AS A VIRGIN.

Pornography gives very UNREALISTIC and DECEPTIVE expectations for sex that kills the purpose of it in the first place.

Bro pls be careful.... you may go and make the shiiitty mistake of WATCHING POORN with her and then she too begins to expect you to have a BIGGER JOYSTICK or to be as RUTHLESS like the male actors or as crazy with positions like them... and as AGE increases you will PAINFULLY LEARN THAT THOSE THINGS DO NOT LAST.

Earthbound:
Sorry about that.


A lot of Nigerian women don't moan during sex. Some even suppress their feeling of ecstasy (as I suspect is the case of your wife). The key is to get her to moan before insertion. Try to be more romantic. Buy ice cream or honey. Pour it on her breast, inner thighs and around the vagina. Lick it all of sensually. Suck her breasts passionately. Also perform mouth action on her. Make her enjoy every bit of it.


If she doesn't moan during this, your problem pass me.

olayemi85:
Each time I make love to my wife, she doesn't show any sign she is enjoying sex, does it mean she is enjoying it but just don't like screaming or moaning during sex. We are Christian we courted for five years with God grace keeping bed undefiled, I married her as a virgin when I too don't really know much about sex than reading about it online and some relationship books we bought in the cause of courtship.


Please I need women with experience to advice me. Does it mean my wife is not enjoying sex or not that is why she doesn't moan or scream. I need candid advice. Thanks in advance

Chubhie:
Let the process leading to love making begin three days earlier. Deliberate acts to soften heart and wet the ground.

On D-day, make sure you guys eat the right meals that triggers the right hormones.

The room smelling with the right fragrance that aids the mission.

The induced chilled room temperature.

Good explicit music for the task ahead. Do 80's oldies or R Kelly or Joe.

pre-intimacy for at least an hour. If you stay disciplined after an hour, you've already set her soul on fire.

I shall stop at this basic step. The next stage is transcendental where unification of souls occurs.

Chubhie:
Let the process leading to love making begin three days earlier. Deliberate acts to soften heart and wet the ground.

On D-day, make sure you guys eat the right meals that triggers the right hormones.

The room smelling with the right fragrance that aids the mission.

The induced chilled room temperature.

Good explicit music for the task ahead. Do 80's oldies or R Kelly or Joe.

pre-intimacy for at least an hour. If you stay disciplined after an hour, you've already set her soul on fire.

I shall stop at this basic step. The next stage is transcendental where unification of souls occurs.

blackpanthar:
BRO... am sad you feel this way because I am so sure your mum didnt moan when your father had sex with her while u were in the same house o

MOANING/SCREAMING/CUSSING/TALKING/ORGASMS is the Marketing Material that MAKES POOORNOGRAPHY SELL and they are all lies.

You married a WIFE not a IndecentStar or SLAYQUEEN or HAARLOT...... enjoy her for her character and stop expecting her to be like the PERVERTs that you have watched or heard about.

SEX in MARRIAGE is called LOVE MAKING not FILM MAKING.... so PERFORMANCE is not the ultimate but rather SATISFACTION IS. AND if you can only be satisfied when she MOANS then teach it to her... you can tell her to let you know during sex if she is enjoying it or what more you can do for her to enjoy it or what she would want u to do..... THESE THINGS OUGHT TO HAVE BEEN TAUGHT IN YOUR MARRIAGE CLASS IN YOUR CHURCH SINCE YOU MARRIED HER AS A VIRGIN.

Pornography gives very UNREALISTIC and DECEPTIVE expectations for sex that kills the purpose of it in the first place.

Bro pls be careful.... you may go and make the shiiitty mistake of WATCHING POORN with her and then she too begins to expect you to have a BIGGER JOYSTICK or to be as RUTHLESS like the male actors or as crazy with positions like them... and as AGE increases you will PAINFULLY LEARN THAT THOSE THINGS DO NOT LAST.

dasparrow:
@Post

Not every woman enjoys sex contrary to what most men believe. In fact, research has shown that most women do not get an orgasm just from dick/penile penetration into the vagina. Google the article from Psychology Today titled "Why so many women don't have orgasm". It is very insightful and sheds light on the issue.


Men and women are wired differently and their bodies are different and respond to sex differently. Women who were sexually abused, raped or molested as children or adolescents often times hate sex but because Nigeria is a country that pressures and shames her citizens into getting married, many women force themselves to get married despite the fact that they don't look forward to the sexual demands that come with marriage.

Some women have low sex drive. The desire to have sex is just not there due to stress, tiredness, not feeling loved by their spouse, depression, etc.

Many women experience pain when the inflated, hard, elongated dick gets shoved back and forth into their fragile vaginas but they don't say anything because they don't want to hurt their husband's fragile ego. They just lay there like a log of wood hoping and praying in their hearts that the man orgasms quickly so that their poor hurting bruised vagina can rest.

So yes, there are many reasons why some women will not moan and groan during sex. I mean why should a woman pretend to enjoy sex when in actuality she doesn't?

Maybe you are bad in bed. Maybe, you don't caress and romance her enough before starting the act of sex. Maybe you are too rough when you are thrusting your hard, inflated, elongated dick inside of her. Maybe, you don't know where her center of gravity is.

Maybe, you don't stimulate her clitoris enough before penetration. Maybe, she is not sexually attracted to you. Maybe she is not just into sex. There could be many reasons.

Perhaps, you should talk to your wife. Ask her what's wrong. Only she can give you an answer. We here on Nairaland can only speculate.

olayemi85:
Each time I make love to my wife, she doesn't show any sign she is enjoying sex, does it mean she is enjoying it but just don't like screaming or moaning during sex. We are Christian we courted for five years with God grace keeping bed undefiled, I married her as a virgin when I too don't really know much about sex than reading about it online and some relationship books we bought in the cause of courtship.


Please I need women with experience to advice me. Does it mean my wife is not enjoying sex or not that is why she doesn't moan or scream. I need candid advice. Thanks in advance