so yesterday i was listening to a programme on wazobia fm where they some life issues and a life story of a married woman got my attention so i decided to share the story and hear your opinion's....

A lady was raped some year's ago by a man she dint know, she didin't abort the baby, she kept the baby,she later got married to her husband who knows about the rape and the child but still married her,now her husband has a cousin brother who is abroad for morethan 11yrs who decided to come back home,she later found out that her husband cousin is the father of the rape child after hearing his voice and seeing some birthmark,he is indeed the father without doubt....what should the lady do?
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If she's 200% sure it's him, tell her husband, confront him, I would say report him but I don't know how long the statute of limitations for rape is in Nigeria, although even if it were to be reported on the same day it happened the system would probably be just as useless, it's unfortunate

To me, Nothing! Let her bone and forge ahead.
The past is past. If she dwells on the past, the aftermath would be unbearable to all concerned.

sirBLUNT:
so yesterday i was listening to a programme on wazobia fm where they some life issues and a life story of a married woman got my attention so i decided to share the story and hear your opinion's....

A lady was raped some year's ago by a man she dint know, she didin't abort the baby, she kept the baby,she later got married to her husband who knows about the rape and the child but still married her,now her husband has a cousin brother who is abroad for morethan 11yrs who decided to come back home,she later found out that her husband cousin is the father of the rape child after hearing his voice and seeing some birthmark,he is indeed the father without doubt....what should the lady do?
cc: ibkayee,missjoy22,lefulefu,twoclans,lalas247,makydebbie,pusyiter,henitan24,preetiex

ibkayee:
If she's 200% sure it's him, tell her husband, confront him and possibly report him (don't know how long the statute of limitations for rape is in Nigeria, although even if it were to be reported on the same day it happened the system would probably be just as useless, it's unfortunate)

Lol madam voice and birthmark are not convincing evidences in d law court.

The justice u seek is best obtained if she reported immediately when it happened.

A recorded psychological therapy on this suspect of hers would do or she go d African way

my question is do pple get pregnant after rape/sex,wen dey are early morning pills everywhere!

SirBLUNT in my opinion she should move on.Too much water has passed under the bridge.

There are some scars you take to the grave.

For the fact that a child is in the circle of things ,she should just let it be and focus on bringing up her child to be sucessfull.However she should inform her husband.

Twoclans:
SirBLUNT in my opinion she should move on.Too much water has passed under the bridge.

There are some scars you take to the grave.

For the fact that a child is in the circle of things ,she should just let it be and focus on bringing up her child to be sucessfull.However she should inform her husband.

so she should not tell her husband's cousin that he is the father? what if i the son later find out the truth?

sirBLUNT:
so she should not tell her husband's cousin that he is the father? what if i the son later find out the truth?

Do you think the husbands cousin is intersted in taking care of her son?The only way he would want to take care of the boy is if he does not have children of his own.If i was in the same situation like her i will let it slide,train the child to be a great person in life .

She should leave her husband and marry her husband's cousin na.... Problem archimedes!

Twoclans:


Do you think the husbands cousin is intersted in taking care of her son?The only way he would want to take care of the boy is if he does not have children of his own.If i was in the same situation like her i will let it slide,train the child to be a great person in life .

ofcouse he will be interested,blood is thicker than water irrespective of the circumstance that brought forth the child he will still want his son back...and thats where the problem will start

Hmm na wao.. This question is more difficult than calculus. Hmm the man u love and got married to.. U just found out that his cousin was the one who raped u....hmm. Anyway op for the sake of peace the lady should just let everything slide oo. But then if d cousin somehow recognizes her as d lady he raped in the past and he's bothering her over the child then she should quickly report to her husband and tell him everything without withholding anything back. That's d way i see it.na d husband know how im go take handle the situation.. Though i pray e no strangle im cousin to death.

sirBLUNT:
ofcouse he will be interested,blood is thicker than water irrespective of the circumstance that brought forth the child he will still want his son back...and thats where the problem will start

fact remains if the child will love him if by any crazy Chance he's able to collect d child. But then i am yet to hear of a rapist fighting for d custody of his child.

sirBLUNT:
so yesterday i was listening to a programme on wazobia fm where they some life issues and a life story of a married woman got my attention so i decided to share the story and hear your opinion's....

A lady was raped some year's ago by a man she dint know, she didin't abort the baby, she kept the baby,she later got married to her husband who knows about the rape and the child but still married her,now her husband has a cousin brother who is abroad for morethan 11yrs who decided to come back home,she later found out that her husband cousin is the father of the rape child after hearing his voice and seeing some birthmark,he is indeed the father without doubt....what should the lady do?
cc: ibkayee,missjoy22,lefulefu,twoclans,lalas247,makydebbie,pusyiter,henitan24,preetiex

she remembered birthmark .

Lalas247:

she remembered birthmark .

yes according to the story she scratch him and all that so she remembered him

lefulefu:
fact remains if the child will love him if by any crazy Chance he's able to collect d child. But then i am yet to hear of a rapist fighting for d custody of his child.

maybe they will just settle it in a family way,i just feel for the woman

ibkayee:
If she's 200% sure it's him, tell her husband, confront him, I would say report him but I don't know how long the statute of limitations for rape is in Nigeria, although even if it were to be reported on the same day it happened the system would probably be just as useless, it's unfortunate

Statute of limitations does not apply to crime but only to civil offences

sirBLUNT:
yes according to the story she scratch him and all that so she remembered him

story is shaky
she gave birth and marry so at least minimum a year has past

what type of scratch is that bikonu
even ppl in surgery scars fade after few months talkless of over a year ..

Lalas247:

story is shaky
she gave birth and marry so at least minimum a year has past

what type of scratch is that bikonu
even ppl in surgery scars fade after few months talkless of over a year ..

the boy is even 15years old but if are claims are true then what should she do

sirBLUNT:
the boy is even 15years old but if are claims are true then what should she do

move on... no point digging up.old wounds ..

outcome might not be what she expects ..