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Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Nobody: 12:44pm On May 07, 2018 |
franchasng: It’s a complicated situation anyway. If you go through my 1st post on this thread, you will get to see that it had nothing to do with the aspect of not being ready to settle down. As per finances, haven’t you seen a situation that immediately after marriage, the husband will lose job and there won’t be inflow coming in for a while? It’s all about sacrifice and the individual in question. The way some people marry is also different from others. A man will have all the money and once he’s ready to marry, he proceeds to the village or contacts people to recommend a woman for him. But it doesn’t work that way with another and i fall in this category. Or a situation that when date has been fixed for an event and something happens, won’t there by a postponement to that effect? I quite agree with IamD18 on the aspect of desperation and priorities based on the actions displayed from my own explanations. 1 Like |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Nobody: 5:04pm On May 07, 2018 |
goldcrossxx: Bros, run away from any lady that cannot stay with you through the stormy weather,if you do ,you will always regret it. Marriage is a life time contract,love shouldn't blind you. Forget that girl , she is not worth the stress. 6 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Nobody: 7:25pm On May 07, 2018 |
no matter how rough or smooth a relationship goes,it's how you settle disagreements or misunderstanding that would determine how far you would go. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by GHoJes: 10:22pm On May 07, 2018 |
I thought to give you some things to give thoughts. One thing that is good and common to you both is that the love is mutual; you both termed each other nice. I believe part of the twixt in her thread is to make her anonymus to the public and you. Now you said it all as it is which shows you dont well understand each other, the distance not helping too and lack of objective communication. You said she is domineering, many first daughters are and it is worse if she is a choleric. She mentioned working on flaws, i want to believe they are the ones you mentioned. I thought she was mature fully the way she kept repeating the word but you made me realise otherwise, i can see she is not in her thirties yet and her desperation could also be coming from her birth position, friends marrying. Btw, she said she kept quiting to keep you on your toes, let me add to test your love. It has been working until now. Highly immature but will grow her up as she will see you too have grown. Has it occured to you that it could have been very frustrating for her when you choose to observe her changed attitude from a distance thesame time she wanted to be close to you to show you she is truly repenting. Her background may have made her poorly cope when your finances were down but she need to grow here too. Anyways you have both seen the minds of each other now, something you could have communicated, i hope you take it up from here for good. 9 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by nairaland20: 10:52pm On May 07, 2018 |
lalasticlala , mynd44 Help |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Biglittlelois(f): 9:47am On May 08, 2018 |
wow, two grown ass adult reporting each other on a public forum, i'm speechless. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Lalas247(f): 9:54am On May 08, 2018 |
Two grown adults airing out their relationship issues on a forum .. like y’all should not even be in a relationship to begin with .. Look at all the issues and you are not even married ..... what will both of u gain If you can’t solve this issue privately then you shouldn’t be together ..., with marriage comes other challenges .. behaiviour Will change .. persona will change a bit over time ..what will u do then ? Anyway just read the topic .... not reading that essay save it for your Mrs dear ..... 4 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Xisnin(m): 9:56am On May 08, 2018 |
All I see is a man trying to tie down a lady as an insurance policy. If you were this good, she won't be complaining. 4 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by HomeTutor1(f): 9:56am On May 08, 2018 |
Lalas247:I wonder the type of family both of them want to establish... if you can not handle issues in your relationship then you can not settle matters in your marriage. Please break up and allow Peace to reign before your wahala will feature on BBC 2 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Espada10: 9:58am On May 08, 2018 |
My guy no bother yourself. Anyway, I for one will never believe anything that comes out of a woman's mouth. There is a grave yard filled with stupid men that have done it 2 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by joeeee240(m): 9:58am On May 08, 2018 |
goldcrossxx: YO DUDE. RUN AWAY FROM THAT WÎTCH. SHE IS NAGGING AND FRUSTRATED WOMAN. ANY WOMAN THAT CAN'T RESPECT HER MAN IS COMPLETELY USELESS 4 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Oyindidi(f): 9:59am On May 08, 2018 |
I dey follow like fly |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Lalas247(f): 9:59am On May 08, 2018 |
HomeTutor1:Very disgraceful ... ... |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by thunderbabs: 9:59am On May 08, 2018 |
Girls always wanting to play victim in every case whereas she is the problem. Guys, what i ve learnt is love is no longer real anywhere except with God. Whoever claims to be truly in love except "maybe a few genuine ones" is only in love for som selfish interest. Maybe just to acheive the aim of gettin a husband, wife, enjoying either of the parties wealth, or some other selfish agenda... Buh love is used as cover up. Guys, be wise. And stop debating the "all guys are the same" line when a lady tells you. Stop trying to prove you are any different. Yea, as for me, tell me dt, i will simply nod, yea. Screw hypocrites 8 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by miqos02(m): 9:59am On May 08, 2018 |
Hmmm |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by joeeee240(m): 9:59am On May 08, 2018 |
Lalas247: HOW DOES BRINGING YOUR RELATIONSHIP ONLINE MAKE MATTERS WORSE? 2 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Eluala(m): 10:00am On May 08, 2018 |
goldcrossxx: If you don't want to join the statistics, run from this idiot as far away as you can. She has already started killing you. You are already having high blood pressure during courtship, what will happen when you are now married and real issues keep coming up? My brother you have been quite naive. LOVE WITH SENSE PLEASE SO THAT YOU WILL LIVE. I have been married for 14 years so trust me when I give you this advice. 12 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Sarang(f): 10:01am On May 08, 2018 |
VampireeM: True |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Lalas247(f): 10:01am On May 08, 2018 |
HomeTutor1: Imagine even if the lady use emotion Create nonsense thread the guy to follow ... tufiakwa ... Real Men are hard to find these days just take Look at op ... smh Exactly they should break up .. |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Espada10: 10:02am On May 08, 2018 |
franchasng: This is actually a good advice. |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Lalas247(f): 10:04am On May 08, 2018 |
joeeee240:Because if you r getting advice from Random strangers a matter between you and a potential wife .. then you should get your head cheacked and examined .... the people he is asking do not know them on a personal level , actually don’t know what really happened just whatever bs both of them type is what we go by ... So when ur parents argue or have a disagreement they go on Twitter and disgrace each other We wonder why relationships don’t last long ........ 1 Like |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Ifebaby16(m): 10:05am On May 08, 2018 |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Mutemenot(m): 10:05am On May 08, 2018 |
Thanks Op, my advise to her in the previous thread was to consult you and have a direct answer if you are ready to move on or not. I have come to realize she's desperate, she just wanted a husband not minding the quality or what comes thereafter therefore I suggest you let her go on with her suitors, the foundation is already faulty n may not be corrected again. 3 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Lexusgs430: 10:07am On May 08, 2018 |
Goes to show, every story has 3 parts. His view, Her view and the True view.... 1 Like |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Acecube(m): 10:09am On May 08, 2018 |
Lalas247:So guys don't have emotion ? 1 Like |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Tobyarab(m): 10:09am On May 08, 2018 |
Don't date a "child" if you are a mature person. you will definitely get a lot of headache.you said that she is nice, caring etc. mind you, anyone who has feelings for you exhibit these traits. consistency is key. that's the difference between a kid and an adult.you wish to marry someone who toys with your feelings? have you not heard about spouses who kill.were they not in "love".wake up men. flee from these red flags. I can tell you are the kinda person who hasn't dated a lot of girls or you are probably shy to approach ladies. don't make no mistake men. introverts are the partners who are likely to be at the receiving end of relationships. therefore, you need a good woman, shine your eyes. 3 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Nobody: 10:10am On May 08, 2018 |
Bros, this begging matter is totally wrong. From experience I can tell you, she is not your wife. Go and marry another woman. You are yet to be married and you are begging to keep her ? Is life a bed of roses ? From your thread and the one you referenced, the woman is desperate for marriage and to be honest, it could also be a complete coincidence; but as a man who married a woman I met when I had no job, if the woman is not content please do not give your self high blood pressure, let her go. At the end of the day, others exist who will be younger or older than her with better qualities. It is not a must to love a person, who cannot see the good in you. Go where you will be celebrated on your bad days and not where you will be tolerated. Marriage is a long journey, do not take toxic companions along, for the sake of increasing your life expectancy, if you wish to live long, heed my advice. 5 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Holywizard: 10:10am On May 08, 2018 |
Sir please don't marry her. She is a cheat. Any time most girls want to cheat they will simply break up temporary with their guys just to be free. I can swear with anything that she is having other partners 3 Likes |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Brimstone1: 10:11am On May 08, 2018 |
Worst thing to happen in a relationship is not when you break up or when your partner dies. It is when you decide to drag your privacy out to be discussed by uncouth, ill-mannered, inexperienced and jobless Nairalanders. Shame on you, Op. 1 Like |
Re: In Response To A Previous Thread Created By Amara Okafor by Lexusgs430: 10:11am On May 08, 2018 |
The way she stated has the only one hanging, smaks of desperation..... Once a lady or guy becomes desperate, and they lose foresight/focus of their relationship. From the word go, he stated marriage was not his ultimate goal. Since marriage was her goal, why did she not just simply walk away? |
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