i know that an abused mother would never want her daughters to suffer the same fate ,but when it becomes vengeful toward menfolk or she doesnt want her daughters not to interact with the opposite sex in her presence then what what can a visitor do or what help can be rendered? i am speaking from experience.some years ago i came across a family where the woman lost her husband.
The husband was an oppressive and controlling man who abused his wife sexually with high demands brutally.
He was a disciplinarian,strict and always angry.shockingly this woman did not report the misdeeds of her husband and she suffered brutally taking it out on the son who attacked her leading to a miscarriage.she was the one who told the son that his dad has forced her to sex and he became angry terminating that pregnancy.
mind u,the son was sexually abused by an aunt he never told the mother.when d dad died the son took charge of the house playing the role as a senior brother but he was seen as violent by his mum.what can we do?

women think theyre the only ones who have been hurt

It's just that we don't embrace the habit of seeing a specialist like a shrink, therapist, etc. She needs to let the hate and anger out and try to move on and live her life and allow her children live theirs.

Then he being abused verbally and emotionally financially by both late dad and alive mother now became angry when years bk his sisters were treated differently by d mother.This boy was not happy that his mother raised him differently strict,hard and with the rod before his sisters were born.his dad refused him to go to his preferred school of choice and also forced him to read a course he never wanted to read.The highandedness and imposing attitude of the father affected all the children but after the death of the father the mother has changed and wants to be controlling all the children to do whatever she wants by force.it has become so worse that they are not free in her presence again while the son has left the home because he became angry that his mother has turned to a men hater.what can be done to solve the situation?