oyb:


words are wasted on you na. you are reading a a five year old level. i mean, come on, licking is the biggest word in your vocabulary.

take away the spell check on your phone, and you will be typing in monosyllables.

why should anyone waste time trying to communicate with congenital louts?

Says a sex starved pussy whipped nigga who get sexually arouse by merely seeing the f sign attached to an nl Account! lmao!

oyb:


Poco pussy whipper, I take it all back. This here is the real olodo rabata mvp

You're not very familiar with this section. That one isn't okay.
He'll just keep saying the same thing, ignore him.

pocohantas:


The special women in your life are bloody hoes.
All of them, no exception...

this pocohantas... i don't know how old you are..but you really need to be reoriented on how to make friends, and who should be your friend......... if you only keep friends you benefit something from, that makes you a parasitic friend..which needs to be cut off........ and there is nothing like a useless friend. if you call someone a friend there is no way you can refer to him or her as useless because you ain't benefiting from them...... your soo called useless friend today might be your president or a gateway to golden opportunities out there tomorrow .......

you need to have a reshuffle of people you call your friends

lwanga1993:



this pocohantas... i don't know how old you are..but you really need to be reoriented on how to make friends, and who should be your friend......... if you only keep friends you benefit something from, that makes you a parasitic friend..which needs to be cut off........ and there is nothing like a useless friend. if you call someone a friend there is no way you can refer to him or her as useless because you ain't benefiting from them...... your soo called useless friend today might be your president or a gateway to golden opportunities out there tomorrow .......

you need to have a reshuffle of people you call your friends

Undiluted Truth!

lwanga1993:



this pocohantas... i don't know how old you are..but you really need to be reoriented on how to make friends, and who should be your friend......... if you only keep friends you benefit something from, that makes you a parasitic friend..which needs to be cut off........ and there is nothing like a useless friend. if you call someone a friend there is no way you can refer to him or her as useless because you ain't benefiting from them...... your soo called useless friend today might be your president or a gateway to golden opportunities out there tomorrow .......

you need to have a reshuffle of people you call your friends

I'm lost. I never said any of my friend is useless.
If a friend is useful, then you are benefiting from that person. No need for this post riddled with semantics.

Thanks for reinforcing my point...we all associate with people for some usefulness. Thank you

pocohantas:


I'm lost. I never said any of my friend is useless.
If a friend is useful, then you are benefiting from that person. No need for this posts riddled with semantics.

Thanks for reinforcing my point...we all associate with people for some usefulness. Thank you

a friend is a friend..... you must not be benefiting from them before they can qualify to be your friends...... i have friends today who call on me for help.... i always try to assist them as much as i can, buh that doesn't make me a useful friend and make them useless friends..
Its just been a friend in need....... i might be in their shoes in future.....who knows...

lwanga1993:



a friend is a friend..... you must not be benefiting from them before they can qualify to be your friends...... i have friends today who call on me for help.... i always try to assist them as much as i can, buh that doesn't make me a useful friend and make them useless friends..
Its just been a friend in need....... i might be in their shoes in future.....who knows...

I understand the need to sound politically correct, but not today.

pocohantas:
I am not stupid. I don't keep people in my life if they have no use.
I don't hide it either...

Do I look like a host, where parasites attach? Every relationship I am involved in, be it romantic or platonic, same sex or opposite sex...you better be useful.



They don't know how stupid they sometimes sound with their unending attack on the female folks. Why do people make friends if not for some use? Abi does he want to be a useless friend?

Anyway, some of them are actually useless.

u said the ryt thin in a stewpeed way. Cheers

BdorianGray:


Why... Call your bf to sing you a lullaby a thousand times or more

Lol, abeg.

makydebbie:
Lol, abeg.

Good morning..

BdorianGray:


Good morning..

Morning dear.

pocohantas:


I understand the need to sound politically correct, but not today.

Aren't we all the same one way or another...?

You stated an opinion and expected it to be accepted as fact. When in reality, it isn't. It is just your own opinion. Your friends jump in your defence, as they always do, and you applaud them for 'seeing the light.' But when another male agrees with the other argument, you accuse them of political correctness.

The same way you don't keep friends who are of no benefit to you, is the same way others do. This is not about political correctness.

zicoraads:

I agree with most of his points. Most. However, the part where he says a guy and a girl cannot be just friends is what I don't agree with. But yes, he used the word 'most' ladies. So he didn't generalize. An average guy would have surely experienced one or two of the thins he posted about. I, for one, have experienced a lot of those points. It takes an intelligent mind to discern.

But I don't agree with the part where you said 'why do people make friends if not for some use'. Not everyone. Maybe for you, there is always something to be gained. But not everyone.

And I would think the attacks always stem from the fact that a lot of these ladies would rather want to gain the whole world from the male, without bringing anything to the table. If you agree to spend on you, then be ready he will want something in return. And we all know it's her 'cookie' he'll want. There is no 'free money' no more.

I have gone out with a lot of ladies. And only two have ever volunteered to split the bills. And in most cases, they initiated the outing.

When some of these guys talk about the female folk, they are talking from the position of knowing. Don't always see it from the position of 'an attack on the female folk.' A lot of ladies in Nigeria have the parasitic mentality. And unless that changes, things like these are the absolute truth.

I have a lot of good friends in my life. Male friends. They are so important to me. I can do anything for them & they for me. We are harmless to ourselves especially when one of us is in a relationship because we all know our places in our lives. We are useful to ourselves otherwise we can't remain friends successfully. I'm not talking about friendship where you exchange sex and money with them all. I'm just trying to tell you that friendship with the opposite sex doesn't always have to include money and sex. I have had a male friend that we were sooooooo close. I go to his house regularly and even cook there. But if I tell you we never as much as hugged, you wouldn't believe it. That's the kind of friendship I cherish. I have had friendships where I have never asked the said guys for finances. Yet, we are so useful to each other. There's a particular friend I have that I gain much more than financial benefits from; other helps rendered.

What am I saying in essence? Friendship with the opposite sex doesn't have to be about sex. And you have to be gaining something from your friends and they, from you otherwise y'all are just occupying spaces in your lives.

pocohantas:


Most accounts created before the NL tsunami have sense, but your own case is a wonder of the world. Better go and take your drugs.

What's Nairaland tsunami?

MissJoy29:

What's Nairaland tsunami?

That was in 2014, I think June, 2014.
NL went off, threads were lost, some backdated, accounts not up to a certain age were lost too.

zicoraads:

Aren't we all the same one way or another...?

You stated an opinion and expected it to be accepted as fact. When in reality, it isn't. It is just your own opinion. Your friends jump in your defence, as they always do, and you applaud them for 'seeing the light.' But when another male agrees with the other argument, you accuse them of political correctness.

The same way you don't keep friends who are of no benefit to you, is the same way others do. This is not about political correctness.

Okay Sir.

MissJoy29:

I have a lot of good friends in my life. Male friends. They are so important to me. I can do anything for them & they for me. We are harmless to ourselves especially when one of us is in a relationship because we all know our places in our lives. We are useful to ourselves otherwise we can't remain friends successfully. I'm not talking about friendship where you exchange sex and money with them all. I'm just trying to tell you that friendship with the opposite sex doesn't always have to include money and sex. I have had a male friend that we were sooooooo close. I go to his house regularly and even cook there. But if I tell you we never as much as hugged, you wouldn't believe it. That's the kind of friendship I cherish. I have had friendships where I have never asked the said guys for finances. Yet, we are so useful to each other. There's a particular friend I have that I gain much more than financial benefits from; other helps rendered.

What am I saying in essence? Friendship with the opposite sex doesn't have to be about sex. And you have to be gaining something from your friends and they, from you otherwise y'all are just occupying spaces in your lives.

And I'm not saying friendship with the opposite sex must be about sex too. Not every female that comes your way is a potential bedmate. But what I'm saying is not everyone keeps people in their lives because they want to gain from them. That some do doesn't mean others too do the same thing.

Lol. It is sad that most guys are not sensitive to their place in the life of a lady

LivingFree:
Please simplify

This is big English for me...

Ps I'm a sarcastic fool so don't read too much into my replies

Never use negative words at/on yourself my lady. I simply meant you have a coy manner of looking for trouble. Passive trouble maker.

kunleweb:



Never use negative words at/on yourself my lady. I simply meant you have a coy manner of looking for trouble. Passive trouble maker.

Excellent observation

pocohantas:


That was in 2014, I think June, 2014.
NL went off, threads were lost, some backdated, accounts not up to a certain age were lost too.

Ok...didn't know about that. Thanks for the info.

And the guy she kept for marriage only .

zicoraads:

And I'm not saying friendship with the opposite sex must be about sex too. Not every female that comes your way is a potential bedmate. But what I'm saying is not everyone keeps people in their lives because they want to gain from them. That some do doesn't mean others too do the same thing.

I mentioned sex and finances repeatedly in that post cos somehow, that's all I think you mean when you say "gain". These "gains" you are talking about doesn't have to be only those aforementioned two. There are so much to gain from friends like advice, support, counsel, wisdom, a helping hand, kind words, assistance, listwmening ear, etc.

There's nothing wrong in expecting to gain something from friends (now that we have established it's not just about money & sex). And there's nothing wrong in wanting to contribute meaningfully to their lives also. The only problem is that placing too much hopes & expectations on human beings is like the fastest way to be disappointed. But that doesn't mean I'm wrong for keeping friends who I benefit from & who benefits from me no matter how small.

Earlier on, you mentioned helping someone out & putting a smile on the person's face without expecting anything from him/her. But that's different. We are talking about friends who you should be able to count on (to an extent) when inneed of help. Not someone you jjust met & you extended a hand of kindness to.

MissJoy29:

I mentioned sex and finances repeatedly in that post cos somehow, that's all I think you mean when you say "gain". These "gains" you are talking about doesn't have to be only those aforementioned two. There are so much to gain from friends like advice, support, counsel, wisdom, a helping hand, kind words, assistance, listwmening ear, etc.

There's nothing wrong in expecting to gain something from friends (now that we have established it's not just about money & sex). And there's nothing wrong in wanting to contribute meaningfully to their lives also. The only problem is that placing too much hopes & expectations on human beings is like the fastest way to be disappointed. But that doesn't mean I'm wrong for keeping friends who I benefit from & who benefits from me no matter how small.

Earlier on, you mentioned helping someone out & putting a smile on the person's face without expecting anything from him/her. But that's different. We are talking about friends who you should be able to count on (to an extent) when inneed of help. Not someone you jjust met & you extended a hand of kindness to.

But you sha no gimme fish o. Abi that one no follow for gains?

LivingFree:


Excellent observation

purityval:


But you sha no gimme fish o. Abi that one no follow for gains?

I gave you plenty fishes hun. You just wanted chicken which I couldn't afford

MissJoy29:

I gave you plenty fishes hun. You just wanted chicken which I couldn't afford

You know I love chicken buh because of you I was ready to eat fish forever. The fishes, you gave half hearted.

purityval:


You know I love chicken buh because of you I was ready to eat fish forever. The fishes, you gave half hearted.

That's partly true. I only gave the fishes half-heartedly cos I perceived you really wanted & would have appreciated chicken more. And you didn't disappoint my perception

MissJoy29:

That's partly true. I only gave the fishes half-heartedly cos I perceived you really wanted & would have appreciated chicken more. And you didn't disappoint my perception

You,

How you girl

purityval:


You,

How you girl

Good dear. You? Happy Sunday