olasboy:

I caught a Pastor (Yellow Handed) with a church member (an usher) and I know her (usher) younger sister a choir member who is also TOO close to thesame pastor. I know what I'm talking about because we live in thesame neighbourhood.

Who is tempting who?

Have you ever been in such a situation and how did it happen?

olasboy:

I caught a Pastor (Yellow Handed) with a church member (an usher) and I know her (usher) younger sister a choir member who is also TOO close to thesame pastor. I know what I'm talking about because we live in thesame neighbourhood.

Who is tempting who? I understand we all have feelings, but why should we be deceiving ourselves and mocking the faith? This pastor is married o!

Have you ever been in such a situation and how did it happen?

googles:

[size=13pt]yes !!! [/size]

Siena:

I don't believe you, Ms Googles.

sojuicy:

When I was about 17, and had just finished my first year of University, my uncle introduced me to his pastor hoping that being close to the man's family would lead me to Christ.

I was quite surprised, and yes, naive, when I realised that his kind smiles and reasssuring touches, were deliberate.  No one thought anything of me staying the night to sleep in their house.  He was the first to suggest it to my uncle, who agreed with no problem.  Then he'd get me to wait behind until every one had gone to sleep.  His wife was heavily pregnant at the time.   I remember the first time he invited me to lay my head down on his lap.

And me, mumu, was sure that as a pastor, there couldn't be any sexual motive behind the suggestion.

Did I mention that at this point, he would be wearing just a "wrappa" around his waist?

Before long, his "solja" was emerging from a gap in the wrappa and he was urging me to get orally acquainted.

And this became the norm.  Blossoming from oral to the full shebang there on their living room floor.  Then I'd have to face his wife in the morning who was oblivious to his treachery.  We'd go out and there in the back seat, his hand would make it's way under my dress, or he'd guide my hand towards his open zip to give him a hand job.

There were often pretty young girls surrouding him and visiting his house. This was what he told me when I first got nervous about his wife suspecting. He said she would never think of such a thing because there were always ladies around him.

At the time I figured that he'd targetted me because I was not a believer.  But when I came back to Lagos a year later, stronger in my own faith, and determined that what we'd been doing was really wrong and if he couldn't stop it, I would, he turned on me and gave me a serious verbal lashing when I rejected his moves.  He was so sure I'd come back for more.  He asked me who I thought I was, to think I was above such. He said I was fooling myself.

I ceased all contact with him and his family after that. He is the most callous of all the "men of God" that I have known that messed about like that.

I think he is in politics now. I googled him. Still very handsome. Now, if he played games with me, he would meet his match.

Sojuicy - Older, Wiser,

manmustwac:

very sojuicy story  

sojuicy:

When I was about 17, and had just finished my first year of University, my uncle introduced me to his pastor hoping that being close to the man's family would lead me to Christ.

I was quite surprised, and yes, naive, when I realised that his kind smiles and reasssuring touches, were deliberate.  No one thought anything of me staying the night to sleep in their house.  He was the first to suggest it to my uncle, who agreed with no problem.  Then he'd get me to wait behind until every one had gone to sleep.  His wife was heavily pregnant at the time.   I remember the first time he invited me to lay my head down on his lap.

And me, mumu, was sure that as a pastor, there couldn't be any sexual motive behind the suggestion.

Did I mention that at this point, he would be wearing just a "wrappa" around his waist?

Before long, his "solja" was emerging from a gap in the wrappa and he was urging me to get orally acquainted.

And this became the norm.  Blossoming from oral to the full shebang there on their living room floor.  Then I'd have to face his wife in the morning who was oblivious to his treachery.  We'd go out and there in the back seat, his hand would make it's way under my dress, or he'd guide my hand towards his open zip to give him a hand job.

There were often pretty young girls surrouding him and visiting his house. This was what he told me when I first got nervous about his wife suspecting. He said she would never think of such a thing because there were always ladies around him.

At the time I figured that he'd targetted me because I was not a believer.  But when I came back to Lagos a year later, stronger in my own faith, and determined that what we'd been doing was really wrong and if he couldn't stop it, I would, he turned on me and gave me a serious verbal lashing when I rejected his moves.  He was so sure I'd come back for more.  He asked me who I thought I was, to think I was above such. He said I was fooling myself.

I ceased all contact with him and his family after that. He is the most callous of all the "men of God" that I have known that messed about like that.

I think he is in politics now. I googled him. Still very handsome. Now, if he played games with me, he would meet his match.

Sojuicy - Older, Wiser,

nwabuking5:

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sojuicy:

@Tpiah

I was 17 (maybe 18) when this happened. He was in his 40's. It's sick of any one to assume that the lady, in this type of situation, is the instigator. To me he was just another Nigerian man having his cake and eating it. I didn't feel any more compelled to report him than I would any one else. I wouldn't have wanted to be the one to rip his wife's world apart. Nor be the subject of idle church gossip. I was a guest in their midst - he was the long standing member. Who do you think they would have believed, if he turned round and said I was lying?

At the end of the day, I believe God has a much better way of dealing with hypnocrites in his flock than any self appointed evangelical linch mob could.

A couple of years later, I did tell another person about it. What he did with that information I have no idea. He may have approached the guy quietly - that is the mature way to deal with that kind of situation. Although, as the Yoruba saying goes, Aja t'o fe so nu, ko ni gbo fere olode - The hunter's dog that is destined to get lost in the bush, is deaf to the hunter's whistle.

I do not trust any church pastor to be stronger in resolve not to fall than any other person. I could tell stories of things I've witnessed, been told about, but there is an air of judement and condemnations that the self appointed moral guardians here take upon themselves. I'm not in the mood to fuel their ignorant retorts.

If anything, pastors, elders, any man who does more in church than be a church usher, they are like politicians, with a drive for success that seems to also be mirrored by a high desire for intimacy. Only they are their own watchman. The smart ones treat themselves with distrust - and avoid temptation, avoid being alone with members of the opposite gender, etc.

Sojuicy

To me he was just another Nigerian man having his cake and eating it

sojuicy:

@ honeric01  - If any other guy had asked me to put my head in his lap, I'd have scoffed and refused, so sure of what he was hoping for.   I DID NOT  expect a "man of God" to have such ideas.  It embarrassed me to object, lest I be the one with a dirty mind.  Then when it was clear what he wanted, how on earth does a girl with my level of inexperience match his persuasive cunning?  That guy gets what he wants.   He did then.  And I am sure he still does now.

Sojuicy