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Re: Family House by dantrillion: 11:16am On May 19, 2018
Honestly is not cool living in ur parent house and get marry at dsame tyme but when it comes to ur situation ; my candid advise is for u to suspend dat marriage fever and fix ur life first. if she can't wait for u then she is not meant for u... Women can be frustrating and pain in d ass when it comes to marriage anxiety. Pray hard and work hard and then find ur own apartment n settle down with d rihht woman if she is anyway..... Good luck!
Re: Family House by Nobody: 11:18am On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
Hi guys. need your advice please. this thing is baffling my mind badly.
everyone know how bad and poor Nigeria economy it is. saying no money here and there . am living in family house, face me and slap you . my dad is late but my mum struggle to build the house and she also live there too. the problem now is that my gf is threatening me to go and rent room and parlour outside Cos she wants to settle down soon but I got no money with me now. infact am on sick bed for the past two months and I can't work for now. am just a hustler, trying to make life good and comfortable for myself. and I love this girl like die. she's house materials but this house issues is the only problem am having with her, meanwhile am using room and parlour in this my mum house o. (even is not my happiness to be living in family house too )but no money for now. she's also disturbing me for engagement too inwhich I will be responsible for all the expenses because she's still learning handwork. though age is not on her side but I love her so very much that I can't afford to loose her to another man.
the question now is........... IS IT TOTALLY WRONG FOR MEN TO BE LIVING IN FAMILY HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
am really fed up. come to my rescue guys pls. am fed up .
I am only going to say this once, don't marry any lady due to the fact that age is not on her side or any other bull babes of this generation pull as an excuse to trap dudes with marriage.

If you eventually succumb to her requests and fake a life you cannot currently afford, how will you be able to cater for her and yourself?
Baba, here are 3 things you currently need to GET.
GET well, trust God and GET a job, make your "babe" reason with you and align with your present decisions and if she wants otherwise, BABA, GET as far away from her as possible.

Believe me, the last thing you want is to marry into poverty and launch kids into a world of poverty cool

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Re: Family House by ngwababe(f): 11:20am On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
You didn't say your age or qualification so it's difficult to advise in that regard.

am a hustler and bricklayer. my age is 28 and my girlfriend also 28. and all her younger once had married with kids. that's why she's disturbing me too.


thanks alot for your precious time. I really appreciate it. God bless you


The problem isn't her but you. Free her!
Re: Family House by omojeesu(m): 11:22am On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
Hi guys. need your advice please. this thing is baffling my mind badly.
everyone know how bad and poor Nigeria economy it is. saying no money here and there . am living in family house, face me and slap you . my dad is late but my mum struggle to build the house and she also live there too. the problem now is that my gf is threatening me to go and rent room and parlour outside Cos she wants to settle down soon but I got no money with me now. infact am on sick bed for the past two months and I can't work for now. am just a hustler, trying to make life good and comfortable for myself. and I love this girl like die. she's house materials but this house issues is the only problem am having with her, meanwhile am using room and parlour in this my mum house o. (even is not my happiness to be living in family house too )but no money for now. she's also disturbing me for engagement too inwhich I will be responsible for all the expenses because she's still learning handwork. though age is not on her side but I love her so very much that I can't afford to loose her to another man.
the question now is........... IS IT TOTALLY WRONG FOR MEN TO BE LIVING IN FAMILY HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
am really fed up. come to my rescue guys pls. am fed up .

Not wrong but not wise ultimately in many cases.
Re: Family House by nelsonebby(m): 11:23am On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
You didn't say your age or qualification so it's difficult to advise in that regard.

am a hustler and bricklayer. my age is 28 and my girlfriend also 28. and all her younger once had married with kids. that's why she's disturbing me too.


thanks alot for your precious time. I really appreciate it. God bless you
28 is not bad. Everything takes time

I’m 22 and I have my own apartment
If you don’t have money don’t rush to rent a place abeg.

Get well soon
Re: Family House by mrkel(m): 11:23am On May 19, 2018
There is absolutely nothing wrong in it. I can also relate. That's how my ex told me that should we get married I should be ready to move out of the two bedroom ensuite apartment my dad bequeathed to me. That she doesn't like where she will have contact with my mum. I could recall i told her that my priority is to get a land and build my own house. That I really do not feel comfortable renting a house in my state. Beside my Family house is in the heart of the capital in my state.

Guy any women that do not feel comfortable in your family house should take up the gauntlet by using her money to secure a new apartment.

it now leads me to the question, why do women like dreading their mother-inlaw?

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Re: Family House by chigoizie7(m): 11:24am On May 19, 2018
No, it is not bad
Re: Family House by Codeman01(m): 11:26am On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
Hi guys. need your advice please. this thing is baffling my mind badly.
everyone know how bad and poor Nigeria economy it is. saying no money here and there . am living in family house, face me and slap you . my dad is late but my mum struggle to build the house and she also live there too. the problem now is that my gf is threatening me to go and rent room and parlour outside Cos she wants to settle down soon but I got no money with me now. infact am on sick bed for the past two months and I can't work for now. am just a hustler, trying to make life good and comfortable for myself. and I love this girl like die. she's house materials but this house issues is the only problem am having with her, meanwhile am using room and parlour in this my mum house o. (even is not my happiness to be living in family house too )but no money for now. she's also disturbing me for engagement too inwhich I will be responsible for all the expenses because she's still learning handwork. though age is not on her side but I love her so very much that I can't afford to loose her to another man.
the question now is........... IS IT TOTALLY WRONG FOR MEN TO BE LIVING IN FAMILY HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
am really fed up. come to my rescue guys pls. am fed up .


If she's pressuring you to get an accommodation and she knows ur financial status, she is not who you think she is, how were u able to judge her wife materials? Its not about cooking and washing alone, it's subjected to many things, endurance at all stage, crossing all huddles in wind with you, and many other more, believe me you have a great advantage, you can be managing yourself in your mums house and move to your own house from there if you have a good planning mate as a wife not the one that prefers flamboyant life.
Am suspecting her to be hiding some of her bad attitude which she is bound to display after marriage and she is already felt threatened by your mums presence.

Bros drop her like APC and move on

My opinion though
Re: Family House by ohiku4every1(m): 11:28am On May 19, 2018
My brother
Cut your coat according to the length of cloth U have,

I don't see anything wrong staying in family house, thank God the house was built by your mum, no step brother will disturb ur staying,

If your Mum understand your situation by giving you a room and parlor apartment to resided, who then is the girl forcing you to relocate when things are hard?

Let me tell you this, some girls can be a hidden evil that won't want your mum check mate her plan when executed

My self as a case study, I was madly in love with a very young girl of 22yrs sometimes ago, I tot I hv found my second half not until the day she boldly open up that she won't like to have a mother in law

I uickly confronted her by asking why such eveil utterance, she said some mother in laws are stubborn,

She never even meet my mum them, she don't knw if she is stubborn or not but indirectly, she want my mum dead

I immediately sent her outta my way,

So many girls has one evil act or the other they won't want the mother in law to check mate

The love btw U and ur family must come first


A wife can divorce u to marry another man but U don't have another mother or family

And watch your back well, such girl can start causing havoc btw U and the members of ur family


My brother, never allow love ruin ur family tie


One more time, the love of ur mother first

Thanks
Re: Family House by Gaddafithe2nd(m): 11:30am On May 19, 2018
shallyangel:
OGA GO AND RENT AN APARTMENT. . . I GET AM BEFORE NO BE PROPERTY.

IF AM UR GF, I FOR DON LEAVE U TEHH TEHH!!!

MTCCCHHHEEEEWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!
Give him money now. You think it is easy abi.

OP please focus on your health, later get a job and make sure you have made enough before you can rent a house.

Don't let any lady push you. There are guys earning better than you, but can't leave their mothers because they are widows.
To do wedding sweet, but to maintain the marriage when you don't have money is a problem.

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Re: Family House by kneehighbootz: 11:31am On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
Hi guys. need your advice please. this thing is baffling my mind badly.
everyone know how bad and poor Nigeria economy it is. saying no money here and there . am living in family house, face me and slap you . my dad is late but my mum struggle to build the house and she also live there too. the problem now is that my gf is threatening me to go and rent room and parlour outside Cos she wants to settle down soon but I got no money with me now. infact am on sick bed for the past two months and I can't work for now. am just a hustler, trying to make life good and comfortable for myself. and I love this girl like die. she's house materials but this house issues is the only problem am having with her, meanwhile am using room and parlour in this my mum house o. (even is not my happiness to be living in family house too )but no money for now. she's also disturbing me for engagement too inwhich I will be responsible for all the expenses because she's still learning handwork. though age is not on her side but I love her so very much that I can't afford to loose her to another man.
the question now is........... IS IT TOTALLY WRONG FOR MEN TO BE LIVING IN FAMILY HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
am really fed up. come to my rescue guys pls. am fed up .

She's house materials? Is she cement or asbestos? lol

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Re: Family House by kneehighbootz: 11:35am On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
You didn't say your age or qualification so it's difficult to advise in that regard.

am a hustler and bricklayer. my age is 28 and my girlfriend also 28. and all her younger once had married with kids. that's why she's disturbing me too.


thanks alot for your precious time. I really appreciate it. God bless you

Awwwww. well, explain to her the reason you're living in your mother's house.
Marriage is all about having difficult conversations with your spouse. She is mature enough and I hope self aware at least to know the state of your finances.
She should know she's not dating a moneybag and finances are a little tight.

I apologize if my comment seems repetitive but she needs to be patient with you and understand your situation, at least for now.
Re: Family House by Funjosh(m): 11:39am On May 19, 2018
Your problem is the lady for now, talk senses to her head and if she is not ready to listen free her to go and get married. Get well soon pick up your knife and shovels hustle your way to the top.
Re: Family House by bamoski4real: 11:40am On May 19, 2018
immhotep:

Don't worry.
Herdsmen will soon come and complete your sense for you..

cc lzaa onyeoga shalomc pointzerom iceberg3 madridguy buhariguy itsmeaboki

Behold the face of an impostor, a fraud and a coward.

The good people of benue will never be associated with this fool. Such an insult to the noble attire

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Re: Family House by immhotep: 11:42am On May 19, 2018
bamoski4real:


Behold the face of an impostor, a fraud and a coward.

The good people of benue will never be associated with this fool. Such an insult to the noble attire
Meanwhile in Benue state

cc lzaa onyeoga shalomc pointzerom iceberg3 madridguy buhariguy

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Re: Family House by gonkin(m): 11:45am On May 19, 2018
At a certain age its wrong. Seriously even if the economy is bad and u have hard work, aim towards leaving but dont just leave without financial stability cuz if u leave without doing you sketches then get broke, u may FALL BACK to the family house its very very shameful.
Just bear it in mind that u wanna leave. Balance yourself and if your girl knows she want to marry u she should assist u even if its to get u more income. Some girls are angel while some are demons.

Although if she's the kind of woman that completely relies on u to handle everything, my man better be careful. U will be older than ur age.

Just prepare yourself and make sure your income is stable. 28 isnt bad, but still organize yourself well

Or do u wanna be like most of these lazy Nigerian kids that dont wanna leave their parents home and yet trouble the tenants. Happens alot in lagos all these old papa forming "ILE BABA ME".

Help yourself even if u can't move now save the little u can. 1 room no go kill u. I know your girl is probably ashamed both of you are banging under your parents roof and it doesn't seem right to have a grandchild under the same roof as your parents. Both of you should put heads together. What state do u reside. One room isnt supposed to be too expensive for u, unless you are like me that cant use public loo and kitchen.

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Re: Family House by shankara7: 11:45am On May 19, 2018
benzics:
Just a piece of advice.

First off, Marriage isn't everything, in fact marriage is not an achievement, I don't know the fuss about marriage in this part of the world.

Secondly, please never think of settling down and raising kids when you know you are not living comfortably yourself, don't bring kids into these world to suffer just because you want to feel among the married..

Lastly, work on yourself first, it's never too late, make yourself comfortable, and by that I mean move out of your parents' house, then you can then think of settling down..

I'm just 19, and I'm tired of living with my parents.. You should too wink
A teenager advising a full grown man on what life is all about. OP you see your life?

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Re: Family House by benzion72(m): 11:51am On May 19, 2018
Ladies and mother inlaw are word and opposite and they have forgotten that they too will be mother in law one of this day. My brother regain your health and face your job. A lady cannot start small does not worth it
Re: Family House by fortune1968: 11:51am On May 19, 2018
Please and please run away from this girl she is going to make life uncomfortable for you if you marry her .Though ,for the sake of independence and privacy it is unadvised to live in a family house but I don't think that's d real issue here .The issue is your gf attitude towards your conditions ,your health ,your financial status and the future .This lady will add to your stress .Forget her and be patient .
Re: Family House by oyeb15: 11:56am On May 19, 2018
my girlfriend now my wife made me leave my dads house. it was very difficult then. no job,no money, i try so hard to rent a room outside despite my dad big house. Today, am grateful for dat huge decision cos it changed my life for good
Re: Family House by Hardrive(m): 12:04pm On May 19, 2018
You alone know the extent of the hardship you are facing. You only need to be very patient with you work, see how much you can contribute to making your mother's house complete with the little that you make so that you know you have one leg to stand on.
She is not wise enough to advise you according to what I have read. 28 years Is still young for a Nigerian man to delve into marriage without the means to take care of the responsibilities it would bring.
I want you to ask her this question, what is her relationship like with her mother.
Re: Family House by Femistico(m): 12:06pm On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
You didn't say your age or qualification so it's difficult to advise in that regard.

am a hustler and bricklayer. my age is 28 and my girlfriend also 28. and all her younger once had married with kids. that's why she's disturbing me too.


thanks alot for your precious time. I really appreciate it. God bless you
Well bro, there's nothing bad if ur gf says u shld go and rent ur own house, she definitely wants her freedom and wanna feel comfortable anytime she's with you,, so it's not a wrong advice.... But i heard u say she's 28 and still learning handwork. What has she been doing all this while? Slaying around? Hmmm gudluk to both of you though
Re: Family House by idu1(m): 12:13pm On May 19, 2018
dgagar:
Hi guys. need your advice please. this thing is baffling my mind badly.
everyone know how bad and poor Nigeria economy it is. saying no money here and there . am living in family house, face me and slap you . my dad is late but my mum struggle to build the house and she also live there too. the problem now is that my gf is threatening me to go and rent room and parlour outside Cos she wants to settle down soon but I got no money with me now. infact am on sick bed for the past two months and I can't work for now. am just a hustler, trying to make life good and comfortable for myself. and I love this girl like die. she's house materials but this house issues is the only problem am having with her, meanwhile am using room and parlour in this my mum house o. (even is not my happiness to be living in family house too )but no money for now. she's also disturbing me for engagement too inwhich I will be responsible for all the expenses because she's still learning handwork. though age is not on her side but I love her so very much that I can't afford to loose her to another man.
the question now is........... IS IT TOTALLY WRONG FOR MEN TO BE LIVING IN FAMILY HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
am really fed up. come to my rescue guys pls. am fed up .





My friend, Stay in your house for now. I call it your house because it's your inheritance. You are 28 you too young to be pressured into marriage. Even of you have the money dont rent any room. Forget shiit.

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Re: Family House by jaychubi: 12:16pm On May 19, 2018
Sense fall on u op

U r 28 n jobless n wants to marry another 28 yrs jobless woman desperately with d excuse of love nonsense

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Re: Family House by Skepticus: 12:17pm On May 19, 2018
ohiku4every1:
My brother
Cut your coat according to the length of cloth U have,

I don't see anything wrong staying in family house, thank God the house was built by your mum, no step brother will disturb ur staying,

If your Mum understand your situation by giving you a room and parlor apartment to resided, who then is the girl forcing you to relocate when things are hard?

Let me tell you this, some girls can be a hidden evil that won't want your mum check mate her plan when executed

My self as a case study, I was madly in love with a very young girl of 22yrs sometimes ago, I tot I hv found my second half not until the day she boldly open up that she won't like to have a mother in law

I uickly confronted her by asking why such eveil utterance, she said some mother in laws are stubborn,

She never even meet my mum them, she don't knw if she is stubborn or not but indirectly, she want my mum dead

I immediately sent her outta my way,

So many girls has one evil act or the other they won't want the mother in law to check mate

The love btw U and ur family must come first


A wife can divorce u to marry another man but U don't have another mother or family

And watch your back well, such girl can start causing havoc btw U and the members of ur family


My brother, never allow love ruin ur family tie


One more time, the love of ur mother first

Thanks

Send me the bitch's number.

I love her type.
Re: Family House by siegfried99(m): 12:21pm On May 19, 2018
MrAnele:
Don't let her pressure you bro... If you don't have money, stay put.. Same thing happened to my cousin he succumbed and now he is back at his family house, broke and the girl gan sef is no more with him.

Meanwhile y'all should check this out

8 Types of Poisonous People You Should Never Keep as a Friend

When e red, them tuwama when e red

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Re: Family House by Gentleface5(m): 12:22pm On May 19, 2018
Raising a home under your mom's roof is never advisable, trust me. you have to LEAVE before you CLEAVE. mind you, before you think of settling down, make sure you have a constant source of income, and a place you call your own.
she can equally push you into success by assisting, supporting and bringing ideas to move forward
Re: Family House by MrAnele(m): 12:24pm On May 19, 2018
siegfried99:

When e red, them tuwama when e red
Duncan mighty na wise one
Re: Family House by MrAnele(m): 12:24pm On May 19, 2018
siegfried99:

When e red, them tuwama when e red
Duncan mighty na wise one
Re: Family House by MrAnele(m): 12:24pm On May 19, 2018
siegfried99:

When e red, them tuwama when e red
Duncan mighty na wise one
Re: Family House by Luminee(f): 12:27pm On May 19, 2018
@topic if you have a wonderful family who deeply cares for you for real, there is nothing wrong with living amongst people who loves you

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