Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else. Relationships work out mostly because of our heads not our hearts. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline; because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with. In those times, love will not help you. Self control will help you. Emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life. You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do! But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings and is the great arsenal that do destroy those unhelpful impulses. You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love. We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there; but that can only last for just the first 3 - 6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped and it's now your responsibility to make the relationship work, not love's responsibility. Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment. Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that. That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions. Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough. At some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together. You can scale through the trying times by staying focused and committed. The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them.
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Nice article! How I wish this works for real

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OP, an interesting piece.

oxygenlove:
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i knew you wanted to write cheat, you wrote shi.t and nairaland auto-correct am lol

jude5240:
OP, an interesting piece.

thanks

Good one.. Now I know why Chioma have been cheating on me all these while..

My chest!! Can't take this no more...

Nice write up

these things sounds so easy but is it really easy

chiommy123:
these things sounds so easy but is it really easy

i Don deh fear to quote ppl after coming from a ban vacation recently lol...
They are very easy, as a matter of fact, I've dated my girl for two years now and not even once have I cheated on her nor thinking of cheating on her.

nice write up

dukeprince50:
i Don deh fear to quote ppl after coming from a ban vacation recently lol...
They are very easy, as a matter of fact, I've dated my girl for two years now and not even once have I cheated on her nor thinking of cheating on her.

have you ever had the opportunity to cheat and you turned it down? just asking

chiommy123:
have you ever had the opportunity to cheat and you turned it down? just asking

sure lots of time, you know I use medicated glasses and actually a quiet dude, people just love guys like that even though some of us look like Gorrilas lol, we get the offer, I get in the mood sometimes but never will I cheat, it's not like I'm scared I could be busted but I just felt its not ideal. My chats here also do not look flirty, I'm just preserved. If a guy could stay without cheating, you also could, just give it a try.

dukeprince50:
sure lots of time, you know I use medicated glasses and actually a quiet dude, people just love guys like that even though some of us look like Gorrilas lol, we get the offer, I get in the mood sometimes but never will I cheat, it's not like I'm scared I could be busted but I just felt its not ideal. My chats here also do not look flirty, I'm just preserved. If a guy could stay without cheating, you also could, just give it a try.

am not saying I cheat on anybody. am not in any for now you may not believe it but its true. I hate nonsense sha

any person who knowingly goes about to hurt/disrespect the person they "supposedly" love, certainly does NOT love them (because if they did, they wouldnt cheat).

all the people who "think" you can love and cheat on your partner, better wake the hell up!

chiommy123:
am not saying I cheat on anybody. am not in any for now you may not believe it but its true. I hate nonsense sha

you should be in one, give it a try, its gonna help you later in the future when you get married, your bf may not be ur husband but there is a lot to learn in it which will guide your path and give you an idea how marriage could be, if you chase fancies, you may end up with the wrong guy, except you are very young but if you are in your twenties, having a bf is a good thing