Marriages are meant to last forever. It is a life-long commitment to your spouse. The beginning stages of marriage could be very beautiful and not very challenging. Children set in, bills go up and it goes on and on.

Do you ever feel like your marriage is shaky? Maybe you look at your partner sometimes and cannot believe you got married to them in the first place.

Do you think the physical or emotional attraction has faded away? You wonder if you even want to fix the broken parts of the marriage at all.



There is no perfect marriage and a lot of the time we are quick to give up and stop fighting to make things right.

We find it really hard to admit our lack of knowledge and patience concerning marriage. In order to hide this “shame”, we move on quickly, leaving behind all that we hold dear.

Acknowledge the issue
A lot of couples consciously avoid this because of pride or insecurity. It is time to sit with your spouse and talk about the problem. Is the passion fading?

Do you have pointless arguments frequently? Whatever it is, be open to accept that there is a problem and the marriage needs fixing.



Spend time together
Spending quality time with your spouse is necessary. A lot of marriages have issues simply because couples fail to spend quality time together.

Work schedules and domestic obligations could make this a quite difficult. Go out on dates together, at least once or twice a month (without the kids of course!) and reconnect. Intimate picnics and quiet nights out will help put your marriage back on track.

Remember your vows
All marriages have rocky patches but you need to stick it out. “For better or worse” is not just a phrase, it is a reality that you must face.

Understanding that every marriage has to weather the storms at one point or another will keep you motivated to make it through the bad times.



Your marriage is your priority
Yes, I agree that your job pays the bills but your job won’t keep you warm at night, neither will it be a shoulder for you to cry on. Invest in your relationship with your spouse.

Skip the unnecessary work hours and work functions. Or better still; take your spouse along with you on special work occasions.

If you are volunteering for some charity work, carry your partner along.

Find out their interests in doing charity work and encourage them to join you. Consolidate your marriage by doing meaningful things together.