TurakinNaija:
My candid opinion is that 3 times a week may be way to much for your wife to bear for now. It's possible that she has other issues bothering her outside the comfort of her home or even in her home that may not have anything serious to do with you. It could be work related stress, or issues from her parents cum siblings, or even her multiple work roles as a wife, a mother, a sister and employee etc but open communication with her could unravel the mystery behind her sudden change of bedroom attitude.

Secondly, women at times prefer to cuddle and not necessarily asking for sex, but we men often interprete it as leading one on to have sex.

You also need to check your sex style and mannerism. If you are always doing it to get climaxed while she is left hanging, she may not be interested in sex anymore. It take two to tango, give her the pleasure that she deserves.

hope4nigeria:
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I have sex with my wife everyday and we both enjoy it,except when I'm silk, women are funny, some take their husband to court accusing him of deny them sex, here we have your case,if I were you, I will discuss with her my plan to take second wife so as to refuse her stress

PrimadonnaO:


Let that prick remain in a state of rest!

mimimile93:
actually I was refering to dat ediot MarieSucre who has turned herself to a sex machine. I never knew it's a moniker.

mimimile93:
MarieSucre a.k.a sex object

MarieSucre:


I'm so sorry about your situation. Have you spoken to your wife about it? What was her reply?

IamPatriotic:
Communication
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Communication

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Communication.

debedebe:
from what my wife says and what i see she's a kind of woman that does not like sex all the time... She doesn't see sex as love , expect once in awhile if she feels...

MarieSucre:


I hope you can both go see a counsellor and sort out this issue. Cheers.

ecgreb:
Good morning nairalanders. I have been married to my wife for more than 10 years now and we have beautiful kids. She was the first and only woman I have ever had sex with. Averagely, we have sex 3 times weekly and it has always been fun. I ensure that I carryout my manly responsibilities by providing for the family and trying to make everyone happy. Few days ago, she decline my sexual advances. Later, I ask to know why she did that and she told me that I love sex too much. I was embarrassed. She sleeps nowadays in the children room or in the parlour just to avoid me though she refuses to accept that truth. Please I wish to know ideally how many times couples here have sex with their partners weekly and how I can control my sex cravings towards her. I just wish I can stay away from having sex with her even for two months.

Funnicator:


Erectile dysfunction is not my portion

PrimadonnaO:

Lmao. I don't wish that for you at all.

shortgun:

Have we met? If ur answer is NO... then u don't know me and you can't create a fictional character in my place in ur head.
Maybe u should read my post again, in this part of the world the matrimonial bed is respected, we treat our wives with honour in the bedroom....
we don't tie their legs with ropes,
we don't do threesomes with our wives,
we don't gag them,
We don't force to to perform mouth action,
We don't beat them with horsewhips in name of satisfying a craving.
Note:a man you can't keep with Missionary style ; u can't keep with Dog style.

Frankyboy1:
Change in mood swing,biological and psychological adjustments, mental fatigue,over familiarity can make one get tired of sex.there is no time table for sex, sometimes play d waiting game,give her some space,let her long for it, look good,smell nice nd sexy, tantalise her with care affection nd romance, when she thinks d next line of action os sex, withdraw! Sex sometimes is mental, stimulate her mind,nd let her not know wat next is coming, play d bad boy waiting game,bring some suspense and fun back, bring back those smiles nd let her eye lit up with ur suspense nd guessing whats coming next!nd bang when.it happens! It explodes like a tornado!sometimes it becomes lovemaking,sometimes rough fucking,it just comes in differnt shades and unexpected colors, Stop making it routinous and boring, like a drug u must take three times a week!

RiyadhGoddess:
Op I saw now that some mofos are already insinuating that your wife is already cheating on you that's the reason for her sudden withdrawal from sex. Op please disregard these silly advice. Remember that most of this people giving you advice on nairaland don't even have a home in the first place. Many are not married or they are married but are not happy. Don't let a won da bi mo se da (enemies of joy or good things) put words into your head o. Like I said, sex 3 times a week is much. Once a week is cool and the rest can be pre-intimacy. Find out from her what the problem is please. God will not destroy your home o insha Allah

ZirdoRoray:
Just three times a week.. Your sex life is already not exciting and she is not even scared you will get it elsewhere. Mr. Man it seems you're the naturally slow type (no problem with this) but you need to spice things up. You need to continuously show her your adventurous and energetic self by exercising and bringing lots of friends around both male and especially females (pls don't take advantage of this) and she'll start been enthusiastic to keep up with you. If she complains about this new development, just keep your cool, assure her BUT don't give in to her low libido. The way to get a woman to please you is to start showing alot of stamina. I guess you don't have much. If her work or body type keeps her tired, then you need help her keep up with your new pace intelligently. Show her you can get IT! Females are naturally pleasant, caring and nurturing- they are wired that way. Care for her in other ways but she has to see you lead are on with wisdom without giving in to her. Women can't stand it when they are continually been tease by someone they respect, they always give in. More importantly you have be able to satisty her everytime. About 90% of women don't have genuine orgasm like we men do. They may moan and even scream but they are faking it. Believe me, when your woman start having real orgasm, you will know without any doubt and you don't have to ask if she did because it will be so obvious. Get this book, "How to satisfy a woman everytime and have her asking for more" by Laura Hayden.
All of a woman's part are very soft, so banging her hard like popular opinion and porn says is not the right way to please her, even if she thinks so from popular opinion. When you know how to really give it to her, she will be asking for it everyday. Remember the natural fact that women are more emotional and sexual than men. STEP UP YOUR GAME!