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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by xtenxive(m): 12:47am On Jul 06, 2018
Biglittlelois:



You are damaged beyond repair then

You just always have the right response......................Impressive

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by sainty2k3(m): 12:49am On Jul 06, 2018
Amarabae:
Marry someone who is sexually attractive to you,
Someone who by just looking at him/her, a burning desire arouse in you,
Someone that you enjoy every seconds and minutes of love making with him or her,
Someone that don't just moan but cry tears of joy during love making with you,
Someone that bring out the "porn star" in you.
Someone who can bring out the beast in you during sex
You will never have any urge to cheat.
Cheating in marriage is very stupid and wrong.
You have to consider the health of your spouse, before you go out, sleep around get an std and come home to infect your partner.
Think about your integrity, how will your children and in-laws look and rate you if you are caught cheating.
Yuck.
Mr OP.
Go and revive your sexual lifestyle with your partner, maybe it's now boring,
Make it spicy,
It doesn't have to be missionary style all the time,
Change styles,
Change position
Try new things.
.
Lastly pray and discipline yourself.
A responsible family man don't cheat.

1.If you like die trying acrobatic sex position , if he will cheat, he will cheat.
2. Sometimes for health or psychological reasons the other partner might not be able to cope with this your recommendations . are you saying cheating is allowed here.. (A friend is presently in this position, she is under intense pressure to cheat)
Your point is OK, but not enough and definitely not absolute. In most cases it won't prevent cheating

I still await more feasible solutions and comments

As for me, being open to one another, leak your own secret, spoil your own 'runs' . Create that chance for your partner to catch you should you attempt to cheat.
I know this is not 100% effective but it works a lot.
There is a lady that was madly In love with me, one day she couldn't reach my phone and tried calling my 'other line' actually my wife's phone number , that I have used to call her before. Believe me that was the and of that attempt

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by jaxxy(m): 12:49am On Jul 06, 2018
Stricker321:
Please for those married out there, how do you cope with sexual pressure?

So much temptation to cheat.

The pressure is just too much.

Don't u love ur Wife If u don't love her why didnu marry her? If u were forced dats awhole different story Or is sleeping with random women the greatest thing in life for u? Is dat the peak or significance or ur manly Existence?

Ure paying attention to the wrong things if i ask me and it is drawing u in. If u weren't single this wudnt be an issue. Also don't u have female frnds or every female is a target for exploits. Deal with ur mind and u will be fine or go ahead cheat and accept thats wat u are a discontented man bt remember its like a bad habit once u start its abit hard to stop.

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by finest0007(m): 1:10am On Jul 06, 2018
The thought of what it'll feel like to be cheated on does the trick for me. It is an unaffordable adventure especially when you've got a keeper.

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by paparazzi1987(m): 1:12am On Jul 06, 2018
UyaiIncomparabl:
Cheat if you want to. It's a free world.

Serioiusly i want yab you before, but when i looked at your profile pix...i must confess..you are damn preety. tongue

I support anything you say on Nairaland grin
Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by DrP2000(m): 1:12am On Jul 06, 2018
Zoharariel:


What you're feeling is normal. Men are polygamous by nature. It was religion that brought about these man-made marital restrictions.

In spite of some people's beliefs that polygamy is morally wrong, the majority of men know that it is not natural to have only one sexual partner at a time - even though they will never come out to say it in order not be ostracized & stripped off their social statuses in their churches & social gatherings. grin

Psychologically, it is impossible for any man to be limited into eating only Akpu & Edikaikong soup decorated with Goat meats everyday for the rest of his life. A day will come when he would crave to have Pounded Yam & Egusi soup laced with different specie of fishes & edible reptiles such as crocodile. grin

My advice to you is to be smart about it and do not make a habit of it.

Pay no mind to all the people that will come on this thread telling to hold on for Jesus & the holy spirit - with their lying tongues & deceitful lips. They know how to speak peace to their neighbours but inwardly setting an ambush for them.

Do not allow man-made laws written & compiled into a book by some Roman charlatans under the influence of alcohol in the 6th century deprive you of your natural instinct & liberty to explore all the good things that life has to offer.



Its all about self-discipline/ self control and prayers. Its achievable and 100% possible but you have to be mentally and spiritually strong to overcome promiscuity, though there are bound to be temptations but you will overcome it.

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by Dollabiz: 1:14am On Jul 06, 2018
hmmm
Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by finest0007(m): 1:15am On Jul 06, 2018
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if u are still asking this question, u shouldnt have gotten married na.

Marriage is not by force. Stay single and flex, and give attention, and Bleep as u like. I keep telling ppl that relationship and marriage are not a must.

Being in a relationship or marriage should be an antidote against attention from the opposite sex?

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by danberg: 1:16am On Jul 06, 2018
Biglittlelois:
Easy, whatever attracted you to that person, tell your partner to do same e.g

For the men
You like her makeup, tell your wife to make up,
Her style of dressing, buy it for your wife,
She is fit, tell ur wife to hit the gym, join her to make it fun etc.


For the women
You like his cologne, buy same for hubby
You like his dress sense, buy or encourage him to buy for himself etc
Probably the most practical advice here!

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by Wapnetrealmcom: 1:24am On Jul 06, 2018
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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by chiedu7: 1:30am On Jul 06, 2018
Stricker321:
Please for those married out there, how do you cope with sexual pressure?

So much temptation to cheat.

The pressure is just too much.
Oh boy that thing will destroy you success!


Job 31
9 If mine heart have been deceived by a woman, or if I have laid wait at my neighbour's door;

10 Then let my wife grind unto another, and let others bow down upon her.

11 For this is an heinous crime; yea, it is an iniquity to be punished by the judges.

12 For it is a fire that consumeth to destruction, and would root out all mine increase.

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by Kearl(m): 1:30am On Jul 06, 2018
Cheating is the worst thing that can happen to a marriage. Even though have forgiven her, I can’t forget, and I pray I heal sooner or later. Please never cheat on your spouse.

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by dallyemmy: 1:46am On Jul 06, 2018
Take your eyes and heart away from the "object of cheating" and focus your attention on your spouse alone. Whatever gets your attention can control you.

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by AreaFada2: 1:47am On Jul 06, 2018
Colourich:
Maybe when you rethink that all pucci are the same, then you won't cheat.

My dear, people just reduce the whole cheating thing to "pucci". Let me tell you that I know of very rich men who visited prostitutes. They were elderly Caucasians. So old I doubt if they still had proper erection.

It was early days in a foreign land. Behind the nice streets were seedy things going on. You'd only see them if you looked well enough and knew where to look. I didn't know for a long time. I later figured things out after learning the language and began interacting with people living in the area. I began to observe it more in the early evenings and Saturdays when around.

Lo & behold my neighbor was a classy high class olosho working in the area for about 25 years. Always impeccably dressed in mink fur coats in winter and wore the nicest perfume. I learnt some of those mink coats cost around $10,000 (ten thousand US dollars). Very polished and incredibly polite. The city apartment was just her "office". She always retired to her suburb mansion at night.

I was amazed at what I heard through the wall at times. Most of those rich men who pulled up in luxury cars were in fact married. At times they came for about 30 minutes and chatted throughout. Unburdening themselves of marital & big business pressures. I was rather surprised how nonchalant they were. But I later learnt most lived in wealthy suburbs out of town.

Some younger flashy guys also came. They probably had sex as sessions with them were typically more quiet. BUT they were so good-looking and wealthy that they'd easily find woman half the lady's age to date or cheat with.

In my book it was still cheating. With an expensive prostitute!

It's far more complex. Pucci may be all same, but to some men, the owners of the pucci can differ like mango, paw paw, cashew, banana, sour sop, orange, African star apple, pineapple, etc. cheesy cheesy grin grin

Also remember that man's/woman's desire for freedom is very strong. Behind the "happy" marriage facade, many feel trapped. Most probably went in with the best of intentions but it proved way more difficult or less fulfilling than hyped by society.

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by Emarex: 1:51am On Jul 06, 2018
Zoharariel:


What you're feeling is normal. Men are polygamous by nature. It was religion that brought about these man-made marital restrictions.

In spite of some people's beliefs that polygamy is morally wrong, the majority of men know that it is not natural to have only one sexual partner at a time - even though they will never come out to say it in order not be ostracized & stripped off their social statuses in their churches & social gatherings. grin

Psychologically, it is impossible for any man to be limited into eating only Akpu & Edikaikong soup decorated with Goat meats everyday for the rest of his life. A day will come when he would crave to have Pounded Yam & Egusi soup laced with different specie of fishes & edible reptiles such as crocodile. grin

My advice to you is to be smart about it and do not make a habit of it.

Pay no mind to all the people that will come on this thread telling to hold on for Jesus & the holy spirit - with their lying tongues & deceitful lips. They know how to speak peace to their neighbours but inwardly setting an ambush for them.

Do not allow man-made laws written & compiled into a book by some Roman charlatans under the influence of alcohol in the 6th century deprive you of your natural instinct & liberty to explore all the good things that life has to offer.
Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by Adeyinka123: 2:01am On Jul 06, 2018
Oko and obo
Prick and toto
Penis and vigina. As sweet as they are, they can destroy a nation and an entire generation. Toying with it just to satisfy your emotions is a destructive and suicidal mission. Stick to one, no matter the emotional pressure. If you reach hell fire,wetin go be your excuse? You go tell GOD say na toto carry you put for hell fire? You better get the missing nuts in your brain and properly reset your head.

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by AreaFada2: 2:06am On Jul 06, 2018
Zoharariel:


What you're feeling is normal. Men are polygamous by nature. It was religion that brought about these man-made marital restrictions.

In spite of some people's beliefs that polygamy is morally wrong, the majority of men know that it is not natural to have only one sexual partner at a time - even though they will never come out to say it in order not be ostracized & stripped off their social statuses in their churches & social gatherings. grin

Psychologically, it is impossible for any man to be limited into eating only Akpu & Edikaikong soup decorated with Goat meats everyday for the rest of his life. A day will come when he would crave to have Pounded Yam & Egusi soup laced with different specie of fishes & edible reptiles such as crocodile. grin

My advice to you is to be smart about it and do not make a habit of it.

Pay no mind to all the people that will come on this thread telling to hold on for Jesus & the holy spirit - with their lying tongues & deceitful lips. They know how to speak peace to their neighbours but inwardly setting an ambush for them.

Do not allow man-made laws written & compiled into a book by some Roman charlatans under the influence of alcohol in the 6th century deprive you of your natural instinct & liberty to explore all the good things that life has to offer.

Chai! They will come for your blokos for this post bro!

Because humans thrive on hypocrisy & wishful thinking.

In cheating terms even women that biologically resisted cheating in preference to one committed man to help raise her kids have now raised the stakes. Men on the other hand were hardly ever monogamous. Officially so in countries that adopted Christianity but had concubines.

Men are now learners since most women will have sampled several men before marriage, no biggie continuing in marriage now.

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by 8structured: 2:29am On Jul 06, 2018
Hmmmm
Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by theo1477(m): 2:41am On Jul 06, 2018
Peller360:

Yeah it is but only when you don’t value your partner
It is not a partner issue, but just personal and your upbringing, belief etc. It is just all about you and you alone.
Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by dochenaj: 2:48am On Jul 06, 2018
Stricker321:
Please for those married out there, how do you cope with sexual pressure?

So much temptation to cheat.

The pressure is just too much.
While it is natural to find someone out there who you might become sexually attracted to, while married. The great thing about being humans and not animals is that you can always hold back on acting on your desires. We are not creatures of instinct but of reason.

The source of your temptation must be someone you have come to grow very close to, maybe a work colleague, or business partner. If that is the case, you must minimize contact with them and over time the feelings will wane.

The key to overcoming the temptation to cheat is founded on openness and steady communication with your partner and this is the sole reason maturity is a key requirement for both parties before entering into the marriage contract. So, you must tell your wife of your battles, hopefully she will understand and not take it that you are cheating already.

And lest I forget, "NEVER, I REPEAT NEVER FANTASIZE ABOUT CHEATING ON YOUR WIFE, ABORT THAT THOUGHT EACH TIME IT FILTERS INTO YOUR HEAD". If you fail to heed this warning, your thoughts will shape the situation and you will fall helplessly a victim of adultery.

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by KanwuliaExtra: 3:05am On Jul 06, 2018
exposition:


That's not true! Are these people pressurizing you to cheat are aware all is not well?

They may not be aware, but YOU are aware! wink
For any form of extramarital feelings in the direction of friendship, lust or attraction to form in your mind. . . Something is missing. wink

A satisfied man or woman NEVER looks outside! wink
Anyone would PALE in comparison to the “gold mine” of love at home ke! wink

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by KanwuliaExtra: 3:10am On Jul 06, 2018
Elmaven08:


Has your wife been pregnant?

Totally irrelevant! kiss
Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by CoolFreeday(m): 3:13am On Jul 06, 2018
Colourich:
Maybe when you rethink that all pucci are the same, then you won't cheat.


you're right
Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by EngrOgunrinola1(m): 3:14am On Jul 06, 2018
It's all for love
Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by sprints1: 3:49am On Jul 06, 2018
mimimile93:
I've never cheated on a pvssy so I don't know how that sh!t feels. And never will advice anyone to do such.

My question to married cheaters is, why go into marriage if you know u won't be able to stick to one d!ck or cooch for the rest of your life?


I can cope with any other bad character a woman exhibits but not cheating.

I can't stand a cheater!
monogamy is a thing of choice cheating on the other hand is a thing of experience...if u know u know...
Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by miqos02(m): 3:50am On Jul 06, 2018
Zoharariel:


What you're feeling is normal. Men are polygamous by nature. It was religion that brought about these man-made marital restrictions.

In spite of some people's beliefs that polygamy is morally wrong, the majority of men know that it is not natural to have only one sexual partner at a time - even though they will never come out to say it in order not be ostracized & stripped off their social statuses in their churches & social gatherings. grin

Psychologically, it is impossible for any man to be limited into eating only Akpu & Edikaikong soup decorated with Goat meats everyday for the rest of his life. A day will come when he would crave to have Pounded Yam & Egusi soup laced with different specie of fishes & edible reptiles such as crocodile. grin

My advice to you is to be smart about it and do not make a habit of it.

Pay no mind to all the people that will come on this thread telling to hold on for Jesus & the holy spirit - with their lying tongues & deceitful lips. They know how to speak peace to their neighbours but inwardly setting an ambush for them.

Do not allow man-made laws written & compiled into a book by some Roman charlatans under the influence of alcohol in the 6th century deprive you of your natural instinct & liberty to explore all the good things that life has to offer.
HIV is real

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by sprints1: 3:52am On Jul 06, 2018
dochenaj:

While it is natural to find someone out there who you might become sexually attracted to, while married. The great thing about being humans and not animals is that you can always hold back on acting on your desires. We are not creatures of instinct but of reason.

The source of your temptation must be someone you have come to grow very close to, maybe a work colleague, or business partner. If that is the case, you must minimize contact with them and over time the feelings will wane.

The key to overcoming the temptation to cheat is founded on openness and steady communication with your partner and this is the sole reason maturity is a key requirement for both parties before entering into the marriage contract. So, you must tell your wife of your battles, hopefully she will understand and not take it that you are cheating already.

And lest I forget, "NEVER, I REPEAT NEVER FANTASIZE ABOUT CHEATING ON YOUR WIFE, ABORT THAT THOUGHT EACH TIME IT FILTERS INTO YOUR HEAD". If you fail to heed this warning, your thoughts will shape the situation and you will fall helplessly a victim of adultery.
well deep down we all know the environment is changing...psychologically we humans are dynamic with our thoughts u might meet someone who suits u more than your wife then it becomes a case of trying to leave ur wife or husband for him or her...our mind is driven by thoughts and perception our feelings can be genuine with someone and could change overtime...let us be truthful u can practice self control but actually we are depriving our body of the pleasure its seeks(temptation) we attach to demon which is a lie..
Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by Nobody: 4:00am On Jul 06, 2018
To cope with such pressures, you need to tell yourself: No I'm not gonna cheat.
Then repeat and repeat and repeat that into your head....
Thank me later coz that's what the "experts" say.
Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by bigsmoke2(m): 4:39am On Jul 06, 2018
Colourich:
Maybe when you rethink that all pucci are the same, then you won't cheat.
that's what most girls don't understand. It goes beyond just the pucci . It takes a lot of self-discipline not to cheat.

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Re: How Do You Cope With Pressure To Cheat On Your Spouse? by yinnyme(m): 4:39am On Jul 06, 2018
[quote author=Stricker321 post=69047458]Please for those married out there, how do you cope with sexual pressure?

So much temptation to cheat.

The pressure is just too much.[/quoIts

It's love, Lo e is the answer.

If you've married who you love then you won't have this problem.
Marry who you love or love who you married.

The pain and agony of sleeping with someone outside wedlock is too much to bear, it's like a dent on a Rolls Royce. You will forever be angry with yourself.

You should know that you will always see someone handsome or prettier than your spouse, in fact they will appear nicer than them but do not deceived they are devils ministers.

You will forever be tempted in that regards unless you feed your spirit man with the word of God and subdue your body.

Any woman you have sexual feelings towards must either be possessed or you are possessed. Don't get me wrong, we have human spirit, evil spirits and Holy Spirit, the two can't cohabit one body at the same time, however evil spirits can cohabit the spirit of man.


So it is with the man who sleeps with another man's wife. He who embraces her will not go unpunished. Prov 6:29
You will be breaking an oath that is stronger than any oath on earth, you will be inviting evil into your life. Sex is stronger than the pleasure, it's the mingling of the 3 nature of man, soul, spirit and body, sex is spiritual.

Have you ever taken an electronics to a quack and eventually spoilt it beyond repair? That's what you do when you take yourself to another man or woman, the damage may be beyond repair.

Finally imagined yourself doing it with the person and ask yourself what did i gain?

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