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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Chikebranny123(m): 7:23am On Jul 05, 2018 |
My op, I will not be callus and tell you to get married and have children. It's not an easy task,but this feat has chosen to be worth it. It's your choice and don't feel pressured to do otherwise. Your decision takes bravery. Although being anachronistically minded I do not accept your reason. We do not live knowing the end of the week or even the day but we still live the life. Peradventure someone pressures you to marriage have only one child pls. Na God I take beg Yuh. Your money issue and the likes will improve or diminish based on the choices you make. You can make conscious effort to improve your income to support a family. Still on still let it be your choice.. Marriage is for those that find a wife |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Facidio: 7:24am On Jul 05, 2018 |
dude..... it's normal because u are broke. and maybe stingy and selfish at same time |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Chubhie: 7:24am On Jul 05, 2018 |
I can tell you the company of a lady that you connect on physical, financial and spiritual level is heaven. There are still ladies out there who are crazy about PS or XBOX and can game all day with you, watch soccer and discuss the tactical systems on play. Your task is not to spend energy and resources attempting to find her. Focus on yourself selfishly and build the life that makes you happy. I've heard some kepu kepu about being lonely and depressed making the rounds. Personally, when I decide to be alone, 24hrs seems not enough. You are a practical guy and have adopted the tactical system that best suits you presently. I salute you! Try and also design a tactical system of what your ideal family life should look like when you finally have a good job and the right woman for execution. Mourinho has taught me to always use a tactical system favorable to a Given regardless of how you feel or what people think. Hell is your wife if you make the wrong choice. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by fareed69(m): 7:24am On Jul 05, 2018 |
mhd5757: You need to visit a psychiatric hospital. |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 7:25am On Jul 05, 2018 |
There is no guarantee for that. Your wife may die just before you retire into old age. She may also divorce you at old age, if you fall sick or end up not having money. divinelove: |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Lexusgs430: 7:28am On Jul 05, 2018 |
caprini1: Children would never gum couples together, it's a misconception......... Bringing up children is an expensive business, and if they are already at a battle without kids, they would be at war with kids..... 1 Like |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Seun360(m): 7:28am On Jul 05, 2018 |
mhd5757: Akuko. By the time you clock 30, this orientation will change. Trust me. |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Chikebranny123(m): 7:29am On Jul 05, 2018 |
My op, I will not be callus and tell you to get married and have children. It's not an easy task,but this feat has chosen to be worth it. It's your choice and don't feel pressured to do otherwise. Your decision takes bravery. Although being anachronistically minded I do not accept your reason. We do not live knowing the end of the week or even the day but we still live the life. Peradventure someone pressures you to marriage have only one child pls. Na God I take beg Yuh. Your money issue and the likes will improve or diminish based on the choices you make. You can make conscious effort to improve your income to support a family. Still on still let it be your choice.. Marriage is for those that find a wife Also try listening to Inthinking out loud by ed Sheeran 1 Like |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by swaggprofessor(m): 7:33am On Jul 05, 2018 |
mhd5757:Another muturu sighted |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by 2pacamarushakur(m): 7:33am On Jul 05, 2018 |
marttol:Respect bruv. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by divinelove(m): 7:33am On Jul 05, 2018 |
namet: If u lose your wife u marry another, stop looking for excuses. U can't afford not to have a wife at old age bc loneliness will kill u |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Enice(m): 7:34am On Jul 05, 2018 |
mhd5757:you already know what your problem is, POVERTY. YOU HAVE A POVERTY MENTALITY. You are thinking too much on what you'll spend. Think more on what you plan to achieve in life and how to make it actionable, then sell this to one beautiful girl. You will be surprise how things will go. |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by IgboBasthard: 7:35am On Jul 05, 2018 |
franchasng: Oga your own very wife could maltreatment you at old age........even your own children, your employee, your nurse.... Go and look at the number of men abandoned by their wives in old age, that's why many succumb to death from the slightest of illness. So having wife and children is no guarantee. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by middlebelter(m): 7:37am On Jul 05, 2018 |
adetoroamos: That is not normal. You don't replace human feelings with animals. Have you ever seeming a goat meting with dog or a cat meting with sheep. What is happening to you is not natural. Perhaps your economic situation is also aggravating your crisis. I will suggest first you see a medical doctor for assessment and advise, secondly if you are a (church goer) you need to approach a church that preahes EXPERIENTIAL BORN AGAIN to guide you on how to be reconciled with God. I strongly BV recommend the second option. Please note the emphasis on experience, not mental acceptance of Christ as Lord and Saviour. When you pray in repentance , confessing all your sins in deep contrition ,telling God that if he should save you, you will run away from sin, to a point when a joy of heaven will drop into your heart, all those inordinate feeling will go, and you won't be given to a reprobate mind to do things that are not natural or convenient. |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Slurity(m): 7:38am On Jul 05, 2018 |
It is not normal for you judging from your story of having girls in your life before. You are only running away from taking responsibilities as a real man. You have a problem that will catch up with you one day and you will regret continuing in that part |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by tintingz(m): 7:43am On Jul 05, 2018 |
TEYA:You talk as if every parents benefit this, have you seen where religious children accuse thier parents of witchcraft and careless about thier parents? |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by TrumpDonald2: 7:44am On Jul 05, 2018 |
marvelli:You have a high level of comprehension and I love you for that. Well said dear *kisses |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Demogorgon(m): 7:46am On Jul 05, 2018 |
It's okay imo. But are you close to God thru christ? Will you be able to control yourself from lusting since you won't get married? If you can do this, no p. But if you cannot get married ASAP |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by goodnewscliff(m): 7:48am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Y no likes from pages 5 and above?? even though I know it's not related in any way to d topic...... Back to d matter.... I think people really need to know WHAT TRUE MARRIAGE IS!!! WHAT U SHUD EXPECT FROM IT!!! ESP IN NIGERIA!!!! Same goes with being single!!!! Then choose for urself the one dat suites ur lifestyle best!!!!! |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Kaybaba5(m): 7:49am On Jul 05, 2018 |
mhd5757:I think is lack of money making you to talk like this. At old age bro u will need somebody by your side. I will advise you marry a woman that will understand you and can contribute positively to the well being of the family. That will not depend on you either..when it comes to monetary aspects. My say though.... |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by comtak: 7:52am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Yes It's. U are very OK. Enjoy your life 1 Like |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 7:55am On Jul 05, 2018 |
I don't like marriage and i hate to have kids but my reasons are not like yours. I have issues with your reasons of not wanting to marry and have kids. Sounds like fear of responsibility. When I was younger, I used to say I'll never marry nor have kids unless I've made lots of investment and businesses having my houses and cars not just liquid cash. I mean I'll marry only when I'm wealthy and rich. But with time, the idea of marriage and having babies start becoming less appealing even when I know I'm on the right part to becoming rich. I just feel like this world is an unfair place. Very harsh and ruthless to so many people. Why would I bring someone into this lion-kill-lamb kind of world? It breaks my heart to see people suffer and I happen to be someone that has access to some information people don't have. Seeing things happening in this world makes me scared to bring someone to this word no matter how much money I have to secure his future And it breaks my heart most that majority of people marry for selfish reasons. Most of them things that don't even make sense like who to answer their name and keep their lineage going as if the dead knows if their name is still being answered or not. 8 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Diso60090(m): 8:01am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by RiyadhGoddess(f): 8:02am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Well I always tell those who cares to listen especially my parents that it is not everybody that will marry and at the same time it is not everybody that will have children of their own. The earlier we start to realize and accept it, the better it will be. My family understand that part of me now. No pressures... I am very normal. I have never thought or wish to marry. I have never in my life envy married people. My two younger ones are married and I'm very much happy for them. That's what they want but for me, reverse is the case. I don't attend marriage seminars. Everyone knows that I'm not interested in anything called marriage. All I have ever craved for is a companion in a best friend. I don't love dogs or any pets. I love to have just a child of my own but not husband. I'm not interested in tying down my life. I want to be emotionally free... So one's decision not to marry is very much normal to me. What matter most to me is happiness. Do what makes you have rest of mind and happiness. Be Happy! 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Aplaudez(m): 8:09am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Dyt:I'm always seeing your moniker commenting on stuff like this!! True talk dyt! I've always been thinking like him too years back, but bit anymore, each time I see any pre wedding pics I get obsessed! tieing the knot anytime soon ! |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by gr8tone: 8:15am On Jul 05, 2018 |
mhd5757:[b]I doubt if you will not regret having kids in the future. That time you could be walking with three legs [. You know what I mean! Having kids is not a priority anyway as you can easily adopt one. /b] |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by meobizy(f): 8:20am On Jul 05, 2018 |
How old is this guy? It's my first question. When I was 18 - 24 I gave no thought about marriage because I wasn't expected to at the time. At 25 - 29 people were giving me the side eye not caring I had no employment. A few of my friends were getting married but I didn't care so much. At 30+ the pinch has come. Peer pressure is manifesting. My parents, grand parents and their friends are now making it obvious from their every action that I need a spouse of mine. Girls I meet outside now build imaginary futures featuring me and three - six children of their choice. My good friends are married and acquiantances are celebrating the birth of their second children. It's hell to an extent. My former stance of not getting married is now a liberal one of when I get a good job, house and savings. For all I know OP is probably 24 to 26. Give him a few more years. As the years roll by so will his stance start loosening. Humans change, it's a given constant. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by jaxxy(m): 8:30am On Jul 05, 2018 |
mhd5757: I dont subscribe to picking prostitutes it's a bad lifestyles I'd rather u got a gal or babymama, and ur kids u dont want them to eat ur money too? Besides not every gal is intrested in ur money look and who's independent then. U can find such |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 8:33am On Jul 05, 2018 |
business4all:Life is all about choices man. Like me I ain't gonna get married, not for OP reason but I found out am happy alone. I'm not religious as I'm Agnostic and most relationship in Nigeria are hold based on Religious ethics, how pathetic. Better to live alone which makes me happy than to be miserably married and lonely. I have been in a relationship and I always feel lonely in it but never felt lonely alone when I ain't in it. Marriage is not for everyone and its not an achievement. Religion has made most believe they are nothing without being married. Even your religion foreman like Jesus had to stay out of marriage so he can fulfill his life purpose, he could have gotten married if he wanted to but marriage wasn't meant for him because its not align to his real purpose in life. Life is all about fulfillment than setting an achievement based on societal standards. 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 8:43am On Jul 05, 2018 |
Takeproft:People can be really selfish, imagine people saying they want to have kid so that someone can take care of them when they get hold when the fact is that I have seen so many wives turn their husband from taking care of their mother which is so rampant these days, we live in a cruel world man and its really really cruel bringing a child in it. 2 Likes |
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