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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by njimezz(m): 4:39am On Jul 05, 2018
If i should advice u brother, marriage is a choice and u came from abroad there are many women who are supportive and have something they are doing for a living too, take ur time and look for that one who will compliment u and the rest will be history beside training a dog to ur standard still need money not NEPA bill broooo. Work on ur mind set that is ur problem not women and when u show them u have money, trust me they will come with their straw but not all but most of them.

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by davillian(m): 4:48am On Jul 05, 2018
mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?
When you start making money all these you just typed will change .
Deciding not to get married or have kids is fine but your reasons for such decision is just childish .

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Dreydoe(m): 4:50am On Jul 05, 2018
Windflower:
All you need is a good woman and financial security
ds sums up what I need in my life ryt now.. Sigh

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Acidosis(m): 5:08am On Jul 05, 2018
marvelli:
Marriage is not for everyone but in your case, I think its more lack of money that's holding you back. Just look at your list of monetary complaints.

Absolutely, but I have an observation;

How come we 'force' the 6-3-3-4 educational system on everyone? I mean there is no basis to force a child to go to school as many people without that privilege are doing very well financially and mentally. One thing I've come to discover about humans is that we are all wired to be selective hypocrites. This minute we feel everyone should do what they like, and the next minute we enrol kids in school because others are doing it (same thing we kicked against when it comes to other issues).

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by KingTugreat: 5:12am On Jul 05, 2018
Yes i am like you bro i dont want to get married or have kids too;anytime i feel Hot i just go to ashawo joint and pick one home,no stress,no drama,and no keeping up with an idiot because of a relationship.Women are gold diggers bro stay unmarried,stay away from relationships and be happy.i will also advice you to read this book the manipulated man by esther viller

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by BabaRamota1980: 5:15am On Jul 05, 2018
mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

Marriage is more than just getting pussy. Marriage is a bootcamp. It throws obstacles and challenges at you and help your survival skills. I shouldnt say muc because the benefits are endless.

Pets do not talk back at you. When you talk to them you expect an outcome which at all times happen and they soon learn to even obey you at will.

When you substitute pet ownership for human relationship its sign of weakness. You confirm this when you say if you want sex you will got prostitute. A prostitute is like your pet, you pay and she obeys you.

Your wife on the other hand will disobey you most times. You have to bring her to do what pleases you. Its not easy, weak men run away entirely rather than face this necessary challenge.

I speak from experience with two wives.

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Rejoice5000(f): 5:20am On Jul 05, 2018
mhd5757:

I don't get lonely, I am a social introvert meaning that I prefer keeping to myself but I still go out to socialize with friends.
And if I die alone and nobody finds me, I don't care no matter how my body decays because I would be dead and I would not feel a thing.
sorry i think u need deliverance,see hw u see life.its not so,i think u should hustle more.dogs food,dis ad dat lol.can dogs buy things for u,look after u@old age? Think abt dat.pls.
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Born2Breed(f): 5:21am On Jul 05, 2018
mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

Please kontinue. Help us depopulate the earth,yours mates are doing it in the seminary.

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Rejoice5000(f): 5:22am On Jul 05, 2018
elpj:
OP
plus low in reasoning.
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by alenwup(m): 5:28am On Jul 05, 2018
I used to feel the same way too, especially for me that I'm from a very large family with many children born unplanned. I wish to take each child from my three sisters and two others from my steps and give them sound training as I would do for my own children. Honestly, the thought of having my own children makes me feel guilty coz I feel we've had a lot in the family already. But I would need a companion

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by sky32(m): 5:31am On Jul 05, 2018
Discuss this with your father....tell him exactly as u have told us.

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by ussy09(m): 5:35am On Jul 05, 2018
poverty is a bastard in all this lengthy write up d only thing i see is a poor young man scared of paying his bills, you dont know that at the age of 45+ living alone is like living in hell u dont have anything of your own except dogs, hope d dogs will take care of you when you are sick, my advice pray, hustle real job will come n all this shallow thinking will vamous

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by ussy09(m): 5:36am On Jul 05, 2018
poverty is a bastard in all this lengthy write up d only thing i see is a poor young man scared of paying his bills, you dont know that at the age of 45+ living alone is like living in hell u dont have anything of your own except dogs, hope d dogs will take care of you when you are sick, my advice pray, hustle real job will come n all this shallow thinking will vamous...

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Rejoice5000(f): 5:36am On Jul 05, 2018
mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?
I think u need help,u complain alot of things,hw can u equal having kids,wife with a sort of animal dat can't look after u@old age.i think u are in need of a financial assistant how can u said kids school fees,wife upkeep is an issue but u can feed dogs? I think u need help.if u feel like to lay a woman u go and meet olosho hia,nawa ooh.pple dey ooh.don't be among lazy youth biko go out ad hustle.wen i was glowing up i have dis plan to have kids wit hubby then travel to a different state ad be alone.dat i don't want husband wahala because i felt then i have my money let me jst marry for kids sake but now am in now all those mentality jst wipe out my memory lane.i can't travel now without my hubby but then i need a free style lifestyle.so @post i know u will have a rethink with time.
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by koffsman(m): 5:38am On Jul 05, 2018
My advice at least try to av just one or two kids not compulsory u get married bro u need to leave a legacy behind E.O.D
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by dingbang(m): 5:42am On Jul 05, 2018
Biglittlelois:
Imagine if your dad never met and married your mum, you wont exist, everyone has a destined partner yeah!!! if you go ahead with this, she may be wondering why she is not married!! i pray you meet her soon so that you'll become lovestruck tongue
whenever I tell myself I am not going to woo a babe anymore and the nxt tin, some babe just comes into my life and I start tripping again...

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by iani5050: 5:46am On Jul 05, 2018
That's good. Why not marry the dogs?

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by sisisioge: 5:50am On Jul 05, 2018
grin grin grin grin

May God bless you with more money than you can ever imagine. Then, you can revisit your thought on the matter.

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by marylandcakes: 5:52am On Jul 05, 2018
mhd5757:
Hey nairalanders, what do you think? Is this normal? Marriage doesn't appeal to me at all same as having kids, I prefer having dogs even now i have 2 of them and as soon as I get a job and make enough money I plan on getting 3 more making them 5 in number. I know most people, the first thing they want to do as soon as they get a job is to get married and have kids but not me, I'm also not interested in having a girlfriend, though I used to have one back then when I was in the university but we were forced to leave each other being that she had to go back to her country and I had to come back to Nigeria.
After that I got another girl here in Nigeria, but I had to leave her because she was too expensive and she was draining me financially. After that, I just lost interest in relationships and I decided to be single, I decided that even if I feel the need to lay with a woman I can just go to an ashawo hotel or get a steady woman who I can be calling any time I need company. I think this is the lifestyle that suits me especially in this harsh economy, its easier for me. If I get married and have kids imagine all the money I'm going to have to be spending, excess groceries, all kinds of bills, school fees and the list goes on.
At least having a steady woman to call like maybe once a week can't be as expensive as getting married and supporting a wife.
Also having dogs can't be as expensive as raising kids, with dogs all I need to do is to buy their feed, their grooming products and pay for their medical bills and probably training fees too but with kids and a wife imagine all the bills, the lists keep compiling and they never end.
What is your take on this? What do you think?

Not everyone is cut out for marriage and parenthood. These are serious commitments and you will need to be doing them for the right reasons not because others are doing it. The world is populated enough and there are loads of kids out there that need stable homes. Dogs are very loyal pets . I hope you find happiness with your decisions Goodluck.

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by liteleto: 5:52am On Jul 05, 2018
This is serious! somebody gave birth to you n now you don't want to do it in ur own turn. The joy u will experience if u hv a child is so uncontrollably immense.
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by marylandcakes: 5:56am On Jul 05, 2018
Rejoice5000:
I think u need help,u complain alot of things,hw can u equal having kids,wife with a sort of animal dat can't look after u@old age.i think u are in need of a financial assistant how can u said kids school fees,wife upkeep is an issue but u can feed dogs? I think u need help.if u feel like to lay a woman u go and meet olosho hia,nawa ooh.pple dey ooh.don't be among lazy youth biko go out ad hustle.wen i was glowing up i have dis plan to have kids wit hubby then travel to a different state ad be alone.dat i don't want husband wahala because i felt then i have my money let me jst marry for kids sake but now am in now all those mentality jst wipe out my memory lane.i can't travel now without my hubby but then i need a free style lifestyle.so @post i know u will have a rethink with time.

There is no guarantee that your kids will look after you in your old age. You have got to plan for your old age and not put that burden on your kids.

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Rejoice5000(f): 6:02am On Jul 05, 2018
marylandcakes:


There is no guarantee that your kids will look after you in your old age. You have got to plan for your old age and not put that burden on your kids.
my own kids will look after me @old age.
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Nobody: 6:07am On Jul 05, 2018
Biglittlelois:
Imagine if your dad never met and married your mum, you wont exist, everyone has a destined partner yeah!!! if you go ahead with this, she may be wondering why she is not married!! i pray you meet her soon so that you'll become lovestruck tongue

Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Waffarianman(m): 6:08am On Jul 05, 2018
Happily married with 3kids, everybody with what make them happy... My mama born me well. You're onyour own
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by SheikhMuniru(m): 6:09am On Jul 05, 2018
IT'S VERY NORMAL BUT JUST THAT YOU'RE ABNORMAL TO HAVE ASK SUCH A QUESTION..
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by EmekaBlue(m): 6:15am On Jul 05, 2018
Me sef....I no wan marry joor

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by kabillion(m): 6:20am On Jul 05, 2018
I use to think like this but at the end of it I always thought maybe because I am not financially buoyant hence, the thought

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Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by business4all: 6:21am On Jul 05, 2018
thegentleman:
Even at that, Marriage is not an assurance that your children will take care of you at old age, some people children were married to bad wives who will make their kids neglect them. And again marriage is not an assurance that your wife will see you till your old age.

My advice for OP is to live his life as he wants, don't make any decision that u don't like because it will be you, you and you at the end of the day, another thing is if u are going that part, I'll advise u relocate to a sane country like USA where no one cares or sees marriage as an achievement. There you will live your solitary life in peace with no critics from the Society.
Is not getting married an assurance for anything too? Why not the op kuku end his own life since there is no assurance for anything in life? You don’t live life by that. If we do, no one will lift a finger to achieve anything. undecided
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by dreysneh(m): 6:22am On Jul 05, 2018
Oh boy Try to read ur holy book o marriage is what God command o
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Tosinville(m): 6:23am On Jul 05, 2018
Na money be fine bobo and what is the meaning of love na money
Re: Is It Normal That I Don't Want To Get Married Or Have Kids? by Premiumwriter: 6:23am On Jul 05, 2018
marvelli:
Marriage is not for everyone but in your case, I think its more lack of money that's holding you back. Just look at your list of monetary complaints.
and probably lack of confidence in himself to be able to hold the family together as a man.

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