On 08/06/2009, my b/f and I attended one of our colleague’s birthday ( a lady ). So when I was feeling sleepy, I left there nd d follwing day I learnt they danced together bt I ddnt see it as any thing. Later on I started hearing rumor dt my guy was datin dis gurl, I was mad. So I asked but he didn’t deny. He begged me 4 4givnes, bt I told him if only he culd stop goin out wit d gurl. But I culd no longer trust him and I was feelin too much pain coz the lady’s office is in the 3rd door to my office. That was how I left them i.e I quit and got married. The thin now is, the guy is begin me just 2 4giv him. But I just cant. u knw y? he is so wicked, he disgraced me, he demeaned me. he is selfish and incinsiderate.The pains is stil in me coz am seein him and the lady in the office every day. SHOULD I FORGIV HIM? BUT EVEN IF I DO, IS AGAINST MY WISH. i need ur candid advice pls. no insult pls

U have the opportunity to show God-like character in forgiving and U want to miss out on it?

U are married and should be happy in Ur marriage. Why hold on to something that will rob U of maximizing Ur energy in the better thing U have now?

ellamikky:

On 08/06/2009, my b/f and I attended one of our colleague’s birthday ( a lady ). So when I was feeling sleepy, I left there nd d follwing day I learnt they danced together bt I ddnt see it as any thing. Later on I started hearing rumor dt my guy was datin dis gurl, I was mad. So I asked but he didn’t deny. He begged me 4 4givnes, bt I told him if only he culd stop goin out wit d gurl. But I culd no longer trust him and I was feelin too much pain coz the lady’s office is in the 3rd door to my office. That was how I left them i.e I quit and got married. The thin now is, the guy is begin me just 2 4giv him. But I just cant. u knw y? he is so wicked, he disgraced me, he demeaned me. he is selfish and incinsiderate.The pains is stil in me coz am seein him and the lady in the office every day. SHOULD I FORGIV HIM? BUT EVEN IF I DO, IS AGAINST MY WISH. i need your candid advice pls. no insult pls

No don't forgive him!

Keep bearing a stupid grudge over something irrelevant.

If I understand u well, u are now married? Are you happy in yr marriage? Or u got married on the rebound of his betrayal? If you are happily married you wont be still fuming! Forgive? I don't think he ever wronged you. You should let go of the past. Why are u still so bitter?

^^^adonisgold, shey you keep us for suspense you come hia come dey give advice. Pally come and continue the gist jor.

better forgive so you can be blessed. It doesnt cost you anything.

Hmm it looks like you still have the jones for this man.

helllllllllllo, u re married! so y cant you just forgive him, except if u still love him and u re not happy with ur marriage, only then will it hurt you, but if you re happy with ur husband, i see no reason y it should hurt u anylonga,

Forgiveness is easier said than done! Doesn't matter if she's married or not!

Forgiveness is easier said than done! Doesn't matter if she's married or not!

I support you with this

@ Poster If u still av this grudge, u wont be happy in ur marriage so try as much as possible to forgive him though its difficult but Remember God forgive us as humans so we should also forgive ourselves, But if u cant really stand their presence , u can start looking for another job so as to keep a distance. Ok I wish u good luck and ensure to God for a forgiving spirit or heart and i promise u will get over it , I tried it also and it worked

@ poster "When someone hurt you, they take power from you and if you don't forgive them, it hunts you for life. But when you forgive them, it gets away like the wind

So you've moved on, let the guy be and don't do anything to jeopardize your marriage.

@poster. He has not done the worst evil on earth. His disappointment is ur blessing. You are happily married so why not forgive him and be free?
God has a plan for u sister

ellamikky:

On 08/06/2009, my b/f and I attended one of our colleague’s birthday ( a lady ). So when I was feeling sleepy, I left there nd d follwing day I learnt they danced together bt I ddnt see it as any thing. Later on I started hearing rumor dt my guy was datin dis gurl, I was mad. So I asked but he didn’t deny. He begged me 4 4givnes, bt I told him if only he culd stop goin out wit d gurl. But I culd no longer trust him and I was feelin too much pain coz the lady’s office is in the 3rd door to my office. That was how I left them i.e I quit and got married. The thin now is, the guy is begin me just 2 4giv him. But I just cant. u knw y? he is so wicked, he disgraced me, he demeaned me. he is selfish and incinsiderate.The pains is stil in me coz am seein him and the lady in the office every day. SHOULD I FORGIV HIM? BUT EVEN IF I DO, IS AGAINST MY WISH. i need your candid advice pls. no insult pls

1. a year later you're still hung up on this, you dumped him didn't you , what was the point of dumping him if you're still entertaining thoughts of him.
2. Wasn't he all those things when you were dating him, or did you over look those qualities when you were with him
3. In seeing them everyday, do you see them together, and was this a 'office triple sin', that seeing them still together and happy makes you sick, so much so that you can't forgive him even when you've moved on, i.e. got married and probarbly had some poor sod, falling in love with you even though you were probarbly on the rebound.

4) HOW LONG HAD YOU KNOWN THE GUY YOU ARE MARRIED TO, BECAUSE EXACTLY A YEAR LATER YOU ARE MARRIED, BUT YOU'RE HURTING FROM THE GUY WHO PRECEDED YOUR HUSBAND. ARE YOU STILL 'IN LOVE' WITH YOUR EX?

If some where you they will forgive the guy.

Fancier:

I support you with this

@ Poster If u still av this grudge, u wont be happy in your marriage so try as much as possible to forgive him though its difficult but Remember God forgive us as humans so we should also forgive ourselves, But if u cant really stand their presence , u can start looking for another job so as to keep a distance. Ok I wish u good luck and ensure to God for a forgiving spirit or heart and i promise u will get over it , I tried it also and it worked

I luv ds ur response. i truly hav 2 look 4 another jod and get it over. am not working in d same place with my husband may be dts why am seein them and gt hurt. thanks 4 ur advice.