@poster

sorry to say BUT its very strange, if you were the one in the usa now and her in naija and wanting her to come over then its a different case. even as things tough for obodo oyinbo. am sure she must bedong some sort of small or menial job and be have been able to gather something. abeg it cant be that bad that she wont be able to afford 20% or 30% of her flight cost jare. well even as its a nice thing to do. i wouldnt think i would do such BUT i cant be sure as i am not in such position.

U dont have to do that. why not engage her online and tell her once she comes home u would tight the knots. dat why you would know if she is really ready to settle down with you.
for me my advice is outright no

mama-gee:

What if I told you I'm not interested?

ok, ok i understand mama~
but u simply have to gimme a chance~
am i not worth it~

No!!! That is equal to foolishness man.

Not advisable period!

oui if she will be loyal

no period,

@ Poster, a tough one i must admit. . . following ur heart or reasoning wif ur head.
but honestly from experiences i've heard 'bout, i really don't fink dat'll be a wise decision. it tends to backfire most often.

Last Resort: 50-50. Anything above dat, No Way!

Basildon1:

Is there any point answerin this, from the way the poster has placed this question,it's obvious that he knows he is embarking on a money spending spree that lacks any sense

Meanwhile,U have not finished school, u r thinking about engagement and marriage, Think like a real man, you think getting married is 'beans', what a child. Career,money,marriage,

Word bro!. . . . Word!

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my brother,it's a good thing to fall  in love,but  it  also very  good to be  true  to urself ,u are a student,remember u  have to also  settle ur school fees and other expenses,if  u  spend  75% on her ticket, and the remaining 25% to  take  care of  her  while here,u  will be  left with nothing,how wil  u  pay  for  her return ticket,u  wil go borrowing.let  me  tell  u  of  my past experence with my fiance(wil are getting marry this year),I was working with an oil services firm when I met her,I did every thing u can think of when someone have money can do,but last  year august ,I lost my  job,my brother it is by the grace of almigty God that I am still with her,after two weeks of   being out of that job,she  became  a change person,she  almost  forget  how  I have  always lavished her with gift,mind u  she  is  not bad person,but that is  the nature of  a woman,they  tend to believe more on what they can see now. my advise to is that  if  u  cannot  comfortably sponsor her trip to and fro,don't do it now,because u may be the loser if she become stranded in  Nigeria,she  wil  never forgive.remember she is no longer the person she was whlie she was here,she now more sophisticated with western culture.

@ topic,

Yours must be a teaser
So u aim to please her
V o x  p  o p  u l i !  ah!
We gazing @ a Geezer
kokofully missing her,
Seen it in your eyes now, the big booty squeezer

75% of your life savings?
What happens if things don't go as planned, she comes down, you guys don't get along and d relationship breaks down?
Don't do what you can't afford and being stupid for love ain't gonna increase your stock value.

@POSTER, U WILL B D BIGEST FOOL IN D WORLD 2 TO DAT, 75% OF UR SAVINDS ON A RELATIONSHIP THAT CAN END IN 20 MINUTES TIME, I PITY U

time to run very far away frm yur gf

Oga Poster, is it at dis time and age dat we have economic issues and unemployment indices increasing astronomically dat u want to blow your life savings on a girl who is not your wife? Haba Oga Poster, you are thinking with your waist I swear! I am sorry if i sound a bit off or insultive but dude use your head. Leave love and sentiments out of it, when u see spade call am spade, no use police tactics take kall white black! Dude u want to impress woman when u have not even impressed urself dat u kan do better by increasing ur self-worth! Naija men and women in yankee and jand hussle even if dem dey skool!
Guy abeg tink twice!

@ poster : please tell me you are thinking with your third leg.

I can never be tired of supporting mama-gee with her contributions on NL. controversial as she may sound but she is just saying the truth - you know truth hurts.

Young man why not concentrate on other things that add values to your life instead of thinking about spending fortune on a girl that can leave you tomorrow, even on arrival, for a higher bidder.

but why?, i dey craze?.

@ poster, Time's forever, but love is blind and someone said we shouldn't let it take over our mind and that what we think is love is truly not and that if we elevate we'll truly find. Both supportive and oppossive opinions mean well for you. There's a part in all of us that seek our other half while they are far and away, for you yours is distant and while it is expedient to demonstrate love by pushing the envelope it will be accounted wise unto thee to wait on love. Those who love us will ALWAYS wait at the end. You have time<young graduate> she loves you, she'll wait for you to be the man you seek now to be. Go, tell her if she's yours she'll wait for that man who you'll be tomorrow.

Why are people discouraging him from spending the money he has to see his girl?

It's not like he's draining his years and years of hard earned money which he has been saving for his children and children's children!

The guy's a student for God's sakes and the money is his savings from a holiday job.

If I can remember correctly from my school days, some guys used to blow such funds away throwing stupid parties during the first week of resumption. This one wants to spend it on his girl and y'all are opening your mouths wide!

even if her abuna na gold plated and diamond encrusted. i wont spend 0.5% talk less of 75%. But if she me wife thats a diff. matter

My Bro, the issue first is that it seems u are nt really at home with spending such an amount on her.

Is she not contributin anything at all for her air ticket?

For me, i can only spend that amount if its life saving else i only spend what i can get over with fast on her because she can get over with me fast (afterall we are not married)

@Uju,

No need for the crazy mama drama, have your opinion but accord space for another's irrespective of your feelings. Na maturity be dat.
We have a situation of a young ish man who wants to bear the brunt of a lady, not next door, miles and miles away from him, the guy gets worried between trying to grow his wealth(savings) and blowing it on a G.friend's trip that will last minutes! Uju, picture your brother in this dire strait, look him in the eyes and tell him to blow his savings because he's according to you a ''student and there are others who blow it, ''  Why bite more than he can chew? Why try to bring tomorrow now? To and from US will cost nothing less than Nairas 300K, add jolly expense when she gets here and we dey talk like another 30K(being moderate). That money no reach to take start small biz wey go make their life beta tomorrow? I tell you something, if the poster is man enough and seeks a better tomorrow he'll tell his girl this dilemma and if she's worthy enough, she'll sell him a biz proposal and help him grow it. If na olofofo she be naim be say after dem see finish na back to square one. Uju, did u read that part where the poster said he has plans to propose and marry her the year after? E neva graduate, no work, no career, yet im wan keep woman for house. Enough said.

@OP,

My opinion you initiated the idea of her coming to naij since you probably cant go over, and she suggested you pay
I think shes actually indifferent on coming to see you or else she would be wise to offer to pay part of the fares
Oga, dont waste your money on her, infact i think you should forget her, my opinion

otukpo:

I wont mind if a man can spend that on me

Of course neither any man on him. The question is would you let a prospective suitor^{man you sincerely hope to marry} blow 75% of his savings and another 25% on jollification to please you with recourse to zero bank balance?

I would rather spend it on my parent if they are alive and if not, on my siblings.
I will spend the other 25% with her if it comes to that.
We will build our family on 25%, that is how we will know if she is resourceful or a waster.
Why give all that to my wife does she not have a life savings too?
Let her bring her 25% too then it will become something much to work with.

For me it is a no go area, we will agree about that,