dopemama:
If u want ur in laws to hate you! Marry their breadwinner!... African proverb!

Priscy01:
Read his instructive writeup and share your thoughts;
"Nigerian families destroyed most marriages Shar..
From tribe, to jealousy, to insecurity.. it's terrible..
A sister feels her brother is being jazzed by his wife because he bought her a car..
But she's keeping malice with her own husband because he hasn't done same for her

Most mother's want to overwork your wife to be to see if she's the one for you.. but be quick to advice her own daughter not to let her in-laws use her as a servant.. why ?

A father believes his son should be constantly sending him money not considering the fact that he has his own family to cater for.. and eventually when he doesn't have to give, they go with the narrative that he's spending on the in-laws more.. then the bad blood starts rolling

Families will tell their male kids not to marry a poor girl that doesn't have anything she's doing.. same families will caution their jobless daughter to only marry a rich man that can take care of her very well..why's that ?

A Yoruba girl would rather settle for a TUNDE with four to five girlfriends than an EBUKA who is a proper loyal gentleman, because she's has the orientation that nothing good will come out from dating the latter.. it's more like a song for them when they were younger. Tribe!!!

Every other family is not clean.. you'll take their names to several pastors for prayer before you decide if they can marry your child.. but did you equally take names of your own family members ?

In my town, we were made to believe that all ESAN people are witches and troublesome, that we can't marry them.. hardly will you see a delta man who's married to an ESAN woman. Hardly.. my same people dislike igbo's because they believe they're ritualists.. but what re we ?

Some families even see churches as an obstacle.. they're redeemed we re Catholic.. we can't marry them.. i mean.. isn't it the same God ?.. someone said to his son, even if it's an slowpoke I don't mind as long as she's from our town.. LoL. Really ?

Me for one never really cared about anyone I settled with.. as long as she brings me peace and makes me happy.. be her Yoruba, Igbo, efik, Tiv or idoma.. even igala and ebira.. but the family factor always plays in my head.. it's terrible. �

One of my best relationship was from a Kaduna girl.. about 4yrs older than me... Her name was arashiiaa.. she was near perfect, matured and peaceful.. the day I told my uncles about her was the day they talked me out of the relationship.. we no go fit go that side they said �

-dem too dey spoil.. she old pass you sef. Abeg go fine better girl.. everyone had flaws but us.. now If u decide to say Bleep all and go against them.. the world will turn on you when life goes south on issues which aren't even relating.. smh"

https://www.torimill.com/2018/07/man-writes-on-how-some-families-have-destroyed-the-marriages-of-their-loved-ones.html

derrydinny:
you are obviously not married. How will you react if you see your mum crying in her room and she says your wife abused her? How will you react when your wife gets angry because you believed your mother over her? How will you react when your father calls your in-law and tell them how your wife abused his wife even when she didn't? don't under estimate the role of family in your marriage bro, even marrriage counsellors divorce when the pressure of family is too much

chillychill:



Yimu even if he is richer than dangote walahi my papa will send d both of em out either stylishly or annoyingly.

dopemama:
If u want ur in laws to hate you! Marry their breadwinner!... African proverb!

donstan18:
Families can only destroy a marriage of weak and unintelligent couples.


If your marriage get destroyed by your family, you are a fool and should be held responsible for allowing a third party destroy your marriage or joy.


If you know your stand in your marriage, your parents will know their boundary.

b0rn2fuck:
truth, I have always been told never to get close to Ibadan girls, they said they are worst in all , wherereas my most love girlfriend was Ibadan and the one that visit there frequent, they even warned me against abeokuta girls , they said there juju and destroying of man fortune no get part two and egbira girls for promicicous nature, I just weak be dey look like mumu

deepwater:
Nairaland ruins marriage faster

derrydinny:
you are obviously not married. How will you react if you see your mum crying in her room and she says your wife abused her? How will you react when your wife gets angry because you believed your mother over her? How will you react when your father calls your in-law and tell them how your wife abused his wife even when she didn't? don't under estimate the role of family in your marriage bro, even marrriage counsellors divorce when the pressure of family is too much

post=69539374:

Lol, you are so very ON POINT!

Some families even see churches as an obstacle.. they're redeemed we re Catholic.. we can't marry them.. i mean.. isn't it the same God ?.. 

Food For thought!

delishpot:



Its the same God but not the same mode of worship. One church would forbid one thing while the other would not mind it. One church has programe 3 times a week while the other is a sunday sunday thing. Such differences can cause marital problems if care is not taken unless they both are sunday sunday christians in their respective churches. There need to be understanding on this one.

eluquenson:
Sincerely, that's how it happens in the society we found ourselves.
Our forefathers have laid down a bad precedent.

I can recall a lady I wanted to hooked with a guy who happens to be an ebira guy from kogi. She just cut the story short that her parent doesn't want her to marry ebira.

nazablossom:
I'm a living witness, don't ask me to narrate, it's so painful. Up till now, I still ask my self, what if?

BabbanBura:


Very true my Brother but it all depends on us either to take this shit or not. When my mum started seeing girls outside her spec visiting me, together with her husband started shame-calling the girls' tribes, family history or region. I had to surmon the both of them for a meeting where i made it clear that the sentiment shit they are talking about can not and does not apply to me. Whoever and whereever my love is and come from provided we are of same religious and personal ideology - boom! i will wife her. They started justifying their concerns to the extent of saying "the devil you know is better than the angel you do not know". I said "Mum, Dad, i am no marrying any devil, worst case if i know she is one. I will take my chances at finding that angel i do not know". Case close, no one pressures me anymore.
One of the very reasons many buckle to this balckmail is fear of being cut off from the family. Go and succeed, damn them respectfully, and na them go come look for you later. Don't worry about that dream exotic wedding you want them to sponsor, you can do that much later when they come back to you.
Cheers

dopemama:
If u want ur in laws to hate you! Marry their breadwinner!... African proverb!

derrydinny:
you are obviously not married. How will you react if you see your mum crying in her room and she says your wife abused her? How will you react when your wife gets angry because you believed your mother over her? How will you react when your father calls your in-law and tell them how your wife abused his wife even when she didn't? don't under estimate the role of family in your marriage bro, even marrriage counsellors divorce when the pressure of family is too much

Tflex01:



Unfortunately this can not change anytime soon. Especially because of this social media thing.

What Nairaland, Twitter, Facebook and others are doing to relationships dis days no be here o

Ukalejohn:
What about religion? You can't marry a girl because she's a Muslim and you're a Christian

post=69538593:
A Yoruba girl would rather settle for a TUNDE with four to five girlfriends than an EBUKA who is a proper loyal gentleman, because she's has the orientation that nothing good will come out from dating the latter.. it's more like a song for them when they were younger!

TRIBALISM: one of the main problem of NIGERIA.
Why can't we live like brothers and sisters and leave alone the hate and spite?!
In ONE NIGERIA we believe.

tiredoflife:
Entitlement mentality of ladies too has ruined more unions

chillychill:



Yimu even if he is richer than dangote walahi my papa will send d both of em out either stylishly or annoyingly.

nazablossom:
I'm a living witness, don't ask me to narrate, it's so painful. Up till now, I still ask my self, what if?

nazablossom:
I'm a living witness, don't ask me to narrate, it's so painful. Up till now, I still ask my self, what if?

Divay22:

And mostly if they ain't in support of it and something bad gets to happen to him.
Be ready to face the music..

Na last born of the family i like marry o or middle one. But elder brother or son, my power no catch am o