MissRaine69:
No business has ever flourished while the owner is away. It becomes a black hole! Unless you plan on making monthly trips ( even fortnightly as I see some of my colleagues doing hair getting more grey with every trip) If not then do what you have to do but don’t leave it to anyone!

If you are in a position to sell do that. You don’t know how your life abroad will pan out. Therefore do not make promises you might not be able to keep. The philosophy of “wait for me I shall return” has caused many men and women to be bitter. A time to settle down will come.

Don’t catch any feelings. I suggest selling and keeping your money and leave if this was meant to be it will be. Now is not the time to be conflicted about things like this. And regarding leaving your business to her are you out of your mind? Are you like seriously doolally?

Most Nigerian women and money = diabolical pairing that does not have a good ending.
Ever!

victorian:
Your situation is dicey.

In this modern day Nigeria, no one can be trusted with taking care of buisness . Not even family sef. You know u would be travelling this year to China, u Should have started sourcing for a credible person since last year. Know the person very well, employ him or her in your buisness, know the family of your worker and create a bond. But in a space of two months? U need this lady, u dont even have marriage plans for, to handle it while u are away? Then u are in deep shit. Time is too short to create a bond with someone o even with that lady u like. While she manages your buisness while u are away. I suggest you lock up your shop. Settle yourself in China, then when u are back continue Your sales and from there on look for a credible person U can trust and employ to manage or employ her back, then take time to know her well, before u travel again. Assuming you are married with kids, your wife would have handled it well for u. Especially if u marry a working class woman who is wise, buisness savy with the love of God in her heart.
Anyways wish u best of luck in your final decision.

lefulefu:
na wao just like dat. Em sirdouglas i suggest u do a little investigation on this girl u say u like. Do some digging and know who she really is and on the issue of living ur business with someone??...dont u have siblings?. Its much safer living yur business with ur close siblings than living it with a total stranger. Yea she's a stranger..u dont know anything about her..u just started chyking her.yea i know some irresponsible siblings still scam their bro abroad but then its still safer to leave that ur business with ur blood brother or even ur parents. Or u can even sell it off as missraine suggested.dont allow urself to get scammed. Na naija we dey ooo. Shine ur eyes!

kimbraa:
Phone business isn't cake baking where one needs to learn everything about recipes and when or when not to add them to the flour. It's more of a straight forward business. All he needs do is to spend his few months of being here to teach her what she needs to know and how they'll be doing their shipments and pick ups, while on the long-run in it, she'll get to learn more about phones and gadgets. My problem is, does he know her too well? If he does, then he doesn't have a problem. Pay the dowry and leave the business in her care. You're entitled to your opinion though.

kimbraa:
@embolden, she might be one of the few exceptional cases.

MissRaine69:

A woman has the pertinacity to be loyal if she was there from the beginning not these fair weather chicks

kimbraa:
She's not aware he's rich. Read his other post before running to conclusions.

MissRaine69:

Pffffff smh!! What an incredulous mongoose you are!
He gave her a job!
Do you not think she can’t connect the dots? How daft do you have to be?

troublemakea:


lol I see you boss lefulefu....

if it left to me i'd wount advice he leave the business with his family members as they'd manage the business like he's our brother or family even if we spend most or some of his money he sha kuku cant fight or arrest us. some might even sell it off giving a flimsy excuse. Or what do u think lefulefu

kimbraa:
She's not aware he's rich. Read his other post before running to conclusions.

kimbraa:
Get grip of yourself and quit going vulgar! Of course, any smart girl would, but op stated he's not disclosed how rich he is as he disguised hie status. It could be a small retail phone shop, BTW. Smarty pants!

lefulefu:
so very true. There's a friend of my aunty based in canada.the lady na nurse for dere.na so d lady send 10,000 dollars last year to her younger sis make she take complete the lady building project. Omo if u see the shoddy job wey she do u go know say for a fact that this lady younger sis ..d money wey e send she obviously used it for other means. Even the place wey i rent dey stay..the owner dey overseas but d owner put im younger brother as a caretaker. The way the caretaker dey run d the area e jus dey treat the place like a no man's business. There are things we as the tenants dey do wey suppose to be d job of the caretaker. For this edo state wey i dey so...there are edolites overseas.dem go send money to their younger bro for dem to build house or set up business...d younger bro go use the money carry ashawo,go flex for joker's club or any other club.wen d brother for jand ask for proof say he dey do the building...the younger brother will go to one estate or building wey person dey do then snap am then send d pix to im brother overseas as proof say na im erlder bro building be dat.na so e jus be. If na me sha its either i sell off the business or i put someone very well trusted but i will still be coming at intervals to check hw d business dey go on.

MissRaine69:

Pffffff smh!! What an incredulous mongoose you are!
He gave her a job!
Do you not think she can’t connect the dots? How daft do you have to be?

lefulefu:
gbam! So on point.guys wey dey get plans to move out if dem wan marry here dem don already don dey bond with a girl in a spate of 4 to 5 yrs. To just see a girl today and u dey make plans to travel out and u wan still marry dat girl...omo dat one na risk ooo. She fit jus dey play along dey scam u...money wey u go dey send she go dey use am on her real boyfriend and b4 u know it... She don already marry d guy of her heart. And op is planning to leave his business with her.... Hehe this is nigeria we talking about were wonderful tinzs happen.

troublemakea:


Lol that's just how it is for me i'd put a trusted friend or best friend instead of family....but really i catch that feeling you wana go abroad and you crushing on a girl but dont wana let her know ur plans that's just a dilemma just like the STC said.

victorian:










Lol@ wonderful things happen.
You are right.. Even within a year if he's smart, he's suppose to know her well enough by now and decide if she can be trusted with such huge responsibility. Times have really changed for the worst.

troublemakea:


this not how ladies talk....I smell you to be a guy with this rubbish you just spilled

to me kim.braa was more matured

lefulefu:
haha kimbra a lady can smell out if a guy is rich even if he starts wearing rags. Babes don dey sharp now oo. Many ladies nowardays know dat na even d guys wey dey dress in a flasshy way and be showing off expensive phones na dem broke pass anything. One guy wey i know wey dey currently look for wife don start to dey dress shabbily. When i ask am why e say na wife e dey currently look for..dat he want a woma who will love im for who he is than what he has. When he tell me i just bust out laughing cos i know many smart ladies will do FBI on u if u try portay urself as a poor church rat dude to u.

lefulefu:
if he really wants to know dat girl he has to know her siblings and her friends too and put his ears to the ground for news about her. This wont take donkey years to know na. Some guys go jus know only d church wey dhier girl dey attend and they will jus assume they know her in and out. Op said this girl he likes is very beautiful and it seems men dont approach her according to him oo.. Why is dat?? For a fact even butt ugly girls with k yansh..men still chase such girls upandan. If i come see a beautiful girl and no man dey pursue her...to me thats strange oo.

kimbraa:
Yeah, the smart ones will know. If the op keeps her longer around him, she would. But for the interim, he said she doesn't know his worth. I mean financially. Secondly, if he thinks and is sure she's good, his plan is a good one. Pay her dowry and entrust the business in her care. She won't play with her husband's assets, and that's a fact.

sirdouglas:
OK here is the deal; I met this girl fews months back at a friends office as a sales girl. She is everything a man could want in a woman. An epitome of beauty. It took me like a while to get her contact cos she wouldn't give me. I refused to get it from anyone else but her. One day she did give me. I tried all I could to convince this girl that I am not like her ex but she wouldn't believe me. After what seems like forever, I got tired so I let her be. But I noticed something. Each time I stop calling or texting for a while she will call me but yet will never accept to date me. I'm not of great looks for sure but I've got a big heart. Sometimes I feel probably it's bcoz I'm not that handsome. I just can't figure out exactly what the problem is. I so much love this girl and meant well for her. She called me into their office one day to tell me that one girl told her that she loves me. I was bent on her telling me who the girl is but she refused. She said she is afraid I will leave her for the unknown girl. That girl is just messing up with my head and life...... Lols.

After what seems like a two weeks I heard from her colleague in office that she no longer work with them. I didn't want to call her since she never bothered to let me know. I was on my own one good evening my phone rang it was her. She told me she no longer work with them and is searching for a job. I am looking for a sells girl also so I felt it will create a room for bonding. I hired her few days ago. But the thing is, I am leaving the country in less than two months by God's grace and I don't even have anyone to leave my business for. I have this girl I have been dating for a while now but I have told her plainly that our relationship won't lead to marriage. I am feeling it would be bad to keep her for selfish reasons. Until I see some level of commitment I can't leave my business for a total stranger who from the look of things don't want to make clear her stand but at the same time would make a great wife. So it seems anyway.

What do I do? I want someone I can trust to give control my business from here while I travel.
Would it be stupid to pay her dowry and travel?
She doesn't know about my traveling plans.
Should I speak to her plainly and tell her exactly what I want from her? Should I disclose that much information to her?
I hate wooing a lady with what I have or who I am.

I need all the help I can get before a brother makes a life time mistake please.

lefulefu:
she can still know who he really is and play along with him. He said he jus knew her for a month or so ...so he should go easy on the marriage or dowry stuff. There have been wives here who have sold off their husband's assets and ran off with their lovers while their hubby is abroad. Such happens when u get married to a total stranger.marriage cant stop anyone who wants to harm u to harm u. Like i said b4....wonderful things are happening in this our wonderful country nigeria.

kimbraa:
There are exceptions. Some people met and got married in a month or two, and are having a good marriage. Just meet the right person and you'll know when you do. If she's a risk worth taking, he should. Life itself is a risk. You can't even truly completely know someone, so what are we talking about?

kimbraa:
Get a grip of yourself and quit going vulgar! Of course, any smart girl would, but op stated he's not disclosed how rich he is as he disguised his status. It could be a small retail phone shop, BTW. Smarty pants!

Homeboiy:
Op you suppose know say phone business no be moi moi nah

Police case everyday

Not what that lady can handle

lefulefu u know how e dey be for ring road nah

Kimb.raa for your mind phone business no hard abi

kimbraa:
You'll have police cases when you buy and sell fairly used phones. I believe he deals on brand new phones and some imported UK or US used.

Homeboiy:



Even brand new phones are not exceptional

U may buy today and it develops mouth piece fault in a week

return it and they will tell u to take it to the company

2months it's ago in the company and that may result to police case

kimbraa:
Smh, are you telling me this? What happened to waranties?