Hello guys, I'm in a dilemma right now and I need your opinions about this.

I have a girlfriend who is very loyal, she's beautiful and I believe she loves me truly. I support her as much as i can and i try to take care of her. I happen to work in a bank and she has an account with my bank. She told me earlier today that she's broke and that she needs some money, i told her I'll send before the end of the day. Something asked me to go through her account to check if she truly has no money, but while checking I noticed something extremely heart breaking.

I realised a particular guy has been sending her huge sums of money since January totalling over 150k. I confronted her about those deposits and she initially lied and told me she's sharing her account with someone and the money is not hers. After I threatened to break up with her she opened up and told me the guy is one of her admirers and has been sending money to her. She says she has not had sex with the guy and that she told the guy she has a boyfriend and the guy won't listen.

The problem is, I don't believe a guy will send her so much money and not receive anything in return. She claims they are just friends. Besides, if she had nothing to hide she should have opened up to me earlier and told me about the guy. Or at least ask permission before collecting money from him. She's been crying and begging me relentlessly and sending people to beg me, but i don't want to listen. I've ended the relationship. Do i forgive her? And let her back into my life or do I move on

Let her be, will you?
You're not her father or husband who decides who gives her or whom she collect gifts from.

I wonder why some of these Indomie generation boyfriends behave like glorified messiahs. Mehn WTF?
She's explained herself and has even tendered an apology, what else do you seek?
As long as she didn't request for the money but the guy did it single-handedly, then you need to cut her some slack. Accept her. It could've been you. Give her another benefit of doubt. You talk like you don't err too. Just a deep research will make us find out that you've been cheating mercilessly on her.

Stop acting like a messiah, okay?

UyaiIncomparabl:


Let her be, will you?
You're not her father or husband who decides who gives her or whom she collect gifts from?

I wonder why some of these Indomie generation boyfriends behave like glorified messiahs. Mehn WTF?
She's explained herself and has even tendered an apology, what else do you seek?
As long as she didn't request for the money but the guy did it single-handedly, then you need to cut her some slack. Accept her. It could've been you. Give her another benefit of doubt. You talk like you don't err too. Just a deep research will make us find out that you've been cheating mercilessly on her.

Stop acting like a messiah, okay?

She asked the guy for money specifically for different reasons. He wasn't just sending her money randomly

MisterFresh:


She asked the guy for money specifically for different reasons. He wasn't just sending her money randomly

What if you hadn't been giving her money like you claimed? What if she is just a greedy girl who finds it pleasurable to taste from both pots? What if?

An issue does not just cook up. Something ignited it.

someone u suppose to give a dirty slap wen u saw dose deposits.
U suppose to flog her very well so dat she will not collect money again.
Buy cane for her, she’s a goat. Lot of girls are like dat. Dey need iron hand

Lol. Permission to collect money from maga

its possible for someone to send her some money without touching her. but you are not her husband to order her around like that.

Odikwa serious

Oh boy, for this kind season, no man go send money to babe wey he never polash.

For the fact say she deny am mean say dem don dey knack.

You are wrong to check her account history.

The Toto no be yours, Na just your time.

Please,what type of advice are you looking for

Dating a Nigeria lady is like investing in mmm

Only invest what you can afford to lose.

You're the new maga in the block after the old maga expired...

Tell her you have forgiven her.Invite her to your home.Ask for the password to her social media accounts and go through her message history.Also collect her phone and do the same.If she hesitate or resist the move she has something to hide from you.

Just 4give her nothing special she may not repeat such again no fully well u are serious with her

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See I Can Not Shout abeg... Just Enjoy The Money With Your Girl

The double standard ladies on this thread are showing is quit funny and at the same time annoying.

He's just a boyfriend and not a husband abi. He shouldnt be bothered abt who sends her money abi.

Ok ooo

Oga if u trust her then I think u should take her word for it. That's all

UyaiIncomparabl:


Let her be, will you?
You're not her father or husband who decides who gives her or whom she collect gifts from.

I wonder why some of these Indomie generation boyfriends behave like glorified messiahs. Mehn WTF?
She's explained herself and has even tendered an apology, what else do you seek?
As long as she didn't request for the money but the guy did it single-handedly, then you need to cut her some slack. Accept her. It could've been you. Give her another benefit of doubt. You talk like you don't err too. Just a deep research will make us find out that you've been cheating mercilessly on her.

Stop acting like a messiah, okay?

I pity anyone that decides to settle for you.

OP: Do not take advice from this person. They sound like one of ones that use anything to justify their own cheating ways, but cry "men are scum" if their bfs send #100 card to another girl.

If your ex didn't tall you about the money she was receiving and lied about it when you confronted her, then you did the right thing by running. I agree with your assessment; no guy will send over 150k without getting anything in return.

MisterFresh:
...and that she told the guy she has a boyfriend and the guy won't listen.

But, she didn't return the money, neither did she leave it untouched, abi? Don't ever go back to her. Take my advice, the advice of the poster below me and keep your distance.

Sir no man can send even a 1000naira without Some surety from the lady. Sir let me advice you as my own brother and to be sincere with you


You are sharing her with not this guy with 6 others.the remaining others are sending monies to her diamond, Eco and Zenith Account

Make use of your head especially when you didn’t meet her as a virgin

Accept her apology then withdraw from the relationship slowly.

OneCorner:
someone u suppose to give a dirty slap wen u saw dose deposits.
U suppose to flog her very well so dat she will not collect money again.
Buy cane for her, she’s a goat. Lot of girls are like dat. Dey need iron hand

Lol. He's should flog her? As wetin? As her father abi?

Next2Bezee:


I pity anyone that decides to settle for you.

OP: Do not take advice from this person. They sound like one of ones that use anything to justify their own cheating ways, but cry "men are scum" if their bfs send #100 card to another girl.

If your ex didn't tall you about the money she was receiving and lied about it when you confronted her, then you did the right thing by running. I agree with your assessment; no guy will send over 150k without getting anything in return.



But, she didn't return the money, neither did she leave it untouched, abi? Don't ever go back to her. Take my advice, the advice of the poster below me and keep your distance.

You had better stop forcing your opinions on people? WTF? Learn to stay away from mentions. OP, take my advice.

I can't believe you past through higher institution and you still don't know what privacy is, that was very unprofessional of you to go through her account details without her consent. I don't care if she was to be your wife, you don't have any right to invade her privacy.

"Relationship is really starting to feel like a gore...

Truly we're living in fûcked-up societies, filled up fûcked-mentality and the proves lies in comments I've read so far. I feel for the female folks. so, if a guy send money to a lady it automatically means they're banging each other right...? I guess any guy that send money to his fellow guy can be justify as a gay.

What a fûck up dispensation for one to be born in.

I think someone needs to file a lawsuit

Offpoint:
I can't believe you past through higher institution and you still don't know what privacy is, that was very unprofessional of you to go through her account details without her consent. I don't care if she was to be your wife, you don't have any right to invade her privacy.

"Relationship is really starting to feel like a gore...

Truly we're living in fûcked-up societies, filled up fûcked-mentality and the proves lies in comments I've read so far. I feel for the female folks. so, if a guy send money to a lady it automatically means they're banging each other right...? I guess any guy that send money to his fellow guy can be justify as a gay.

What a fûck up dispensation for one to be born in.

... Pls tell them oh, nt every guy dat give u money want something in return but in dis society we are some people believe in tit for tat and life is not so. The only problem d lady make is dat she did not open up toto her bf which is wrong. As for me I love sincerity in relationship even when it hurt I still appreciate it. Op u need u give d lady a second chance cus nobody is perfect and I knw she will change cus for her to be begging and sending people to u, u shd knw she is deeply sorry. Pls she deserve a second chance.