GreatDad19:
Madam this talk is getting old. But even if this is the case, a man should suffer because of the way God made him? Never will I leave my wife because of a situation that I know can be fixed hence me trying to find a solution. I finally addressed it to her and what did I get in return? Attitude and disrespect. I have helped my wife in so many ways, that I do not want to go into detail because I did this out of the love I have for her. I’m not innocent and I’m a human being and have been as transparent as possible, but please respect the fact that I’m asking for genuine advice and your insults are very unnecessary. Thanks.

greatgod2012:
I remember your previous thread quite well and how you kept emphasising how sensitive your wife is, hence, your fear of discussing the sensitive matter with her.

Alright, I think personally, I won't blame or judge any of you because I think what you did was right, at least, for a healthy marriage, but I'm afraid of the illness you adopted in addressing the matter which might made her behave the way she did.


Let's start from here, do you want your wife back? If yes, believe me, it's possible. But. let's start from here first.

Ioannes:


I think both of you are to blame here.

How would you feel if your wife sat you down one evening and showed you a cream she bought for you and told you that your "staff of glory" is too small?

Exactly! I think you put the cart before the horse. Whatever sexual frustrations you are having should be discussed with her first and both of you should arrive at the solution together.

On the other hand please permit me to say that your wife is quite silly for her childish response and packing out of the house.

It's infinitely more difficult for a single mother to get remarried than for a divorced man.

It would ultimately be easy for you to move on with your life and look for a more respectful and younger lady with a tighter hole.

But I'd advice you for the sake of that child try to mend fences with your wife.

If she shuns your attempts at reconciliation then leave her be and watch as she eventually comes back to beg you.

keepingmum:


Oga welldone, u have successfully broken ur home nd deprived ur daughter the experience of been raised by both biological parents in a loving home.
Now the next step to take as per your question is this dt 18yr old fargin with a tight ponyor that ur blokos will enter and be snug like the body hug all those makos dancers used to wear, ehen, go and bring her to ur house and gbensh her to ur satisfaction......infact marry her and gv her belle then discard her once she gives birth bco her ponyor will also become slack- if not after 1, definitely after 2 children - then repeat thr cycle again till u marry a woman who cant gv birth naturally you hear??

And as for ur first wife, if she stumbles on this thread, i will advise she gets herself REAL man!!! Someone with huge, meaty blokos, full of veins so dt irrespective of the number of children she has there would be no complaints

Finally, single ladies, learn from this op, if you are dating a man with a small blokos, runnnnnnnnnnn. Forget all that size doesnt matter talk, size MATTERS!! Its only men with small blokos dt cosign to that phrase. When you start having children you ll understand that size matters

keepingmum:


Oga welldone, u have successfully broken ur home nd deprived ur daughter the experience of been raised by both biological parents in a loving home.
Now the next step to take as per your question is this dt 18yr old fargin with a tight ponyor that ur blokos will enter and be snug like the body hug all those makos dancers used to wear, ehen, go and bring her to ur house and gbensh her to ur satisfaction......infact marry her and gv her belle then discard her once she gives birth bco her ponyor will also become slack- if not after 1, definitely after 2 children - then repeat thr cycle again till u marry a woman who cant gv birth naturally you hear??

And as for ur first wife, if she stumbles on this thread, i will advise she gets herself REAL man!!! Someone with huge, meaty blokos, full of veins so dt irrespective of the number of children she has there would be no complaints

Finally, single ladies, learn from this op, if you are dating a man with a small blokos, runnnnnnnnnnn. Forget all that size doesnt matter talk, size MATTERS!! Its only men with small blokos dt cosign to that phrase. When you start having children you ll understand that size matters

GreatDad19:
Hello nlanders

This is an update to my old thread from last month https://www.nairaland.com/4647838/wifes-vagina-loose-please

I experienced some negative feedback but was able to receive help from a generous lady who sent me a pm and advised me on what to do. I ended up buying what this said lady suggested for my wife and I thought at this point maybe this issue would be solved. Despite me avoiding this situation for years, I finally decided to address it after frustration.

After purchasing this item, I sat down with my wife in the calmest way possible to explain how I’ve not been satisfied sexually due to her giving birth. I explained to her that I felt her vagina had loosened after the birth of our child and I handed over the product that I had bought for her. My wife stayed silent all throughout the time I spoke to her. When I finished talking she gave me a very nasty look and left the room without saying a word and also eased as she left. Since that day I have been living in pure misery.

My wife has refused to sleep in the same bed with me, she has deprived me of sex. She barely cooks. Every time I try to talk to her, she shuts me or up or she doesn’t respond. She’s constantly on her phone talking to one friend or the other. Completely disrespecting me in my own house. Yesterday night was the last straw and we got into a heated fight. She compared me to one of her ex’s and claimed that it was a mistake that she married me. I ended up calling her all sorts of names and told her to leave my house. I called her mother, and she was begging on her behalf but I’m no longer tolerating her nasty behaviour. It was God that stopped me from slapping her yesterday, because I’ve never been insulted like that all my life. This morning she’s packed her stuff and she has left with our daughter.
At this point I’m falling out of love with this ungrateful woman. Since the birth of our child it’s been hell and I’ve tried my best. At this point I don’t know if I should just leave my wife or try to reconcile. I have tried to my best ability but she’s very ungrateful and miserable. I believe our marriage is dead at this point and I don’t think there’s any way to revive it. She has completely let herself go emotionally and physically. She doesn’t care about herself nor myself.

I just want to know the next wise step to take

Thanks.

Adesuwag:
you must be living in the yesteryear!

LuciferCristi:



Continue ma, we're listening...

Single, unwanted woman that now knows everything that happens in marriage.

Fire on!!

LuciferCristi:



Yet you can't sleep by 1:35am...

Very stable relationship.

LuciferCristi:




Marriage has already given you a middle finger even before you clocked 30.

This is your fifth year on Nairaland changing monikers every year & advising people better than you.

A wheelchair-bound man even picked a bride last month & you're still single.

Are you that worthless that no man finds you desirable?

keepingmum:

Has it occurred to you that u also dont satisfy your wife - with the bs......go and meet ur tight kitten whoree dt satisfies ur 2 minute libido and stop disturbing nl

chai greatdad19 come ooo iswear na ur wife b dis ooo..lol..read all over again u will knw wat am talking about

LadySarah:
For ppl that's got time to listen to Nig men senseless talk as per "big God " that they are.

If you opt for Cs to save your hoohaa,they will lambast you and say you are not a Hebrew woman.now she has put to bed naturally, new complaints has arisen.first preg for that matter.

If you knew how important tight vjay was to you,you should have spoken with her prior to the pregnancy to consider cs a s an option.You can't eat your cake and have it.

Yes the vjay is elastic,yes also pelvic floor exercises also work.but some after these may ne'er come to the original state taking into account body dynamics.let her not start inserting stupid things Nl romance section guys recommended.Cervical cancer and all is looking at ....

If you want it so bad ,go and enlarge your p..is to fit the present size.Rubbish!!!

Nigerian women have suffered. True

GreatDad19:
Hello nlanders

This is an update to my old thread from last month https://www.nairaland.com/4647838/wifes-vagina-loose-please

I experienced some negative feedback but was able to receive help from a generous lady who sent me a pm and advised me on what to do. I ended up buying what this said lady suggested for my wife and I thought at this point maybe this issue would be solved. Despite me avoiding this situation for years, I finally decided to address it after frustration.

After purchasing this item, I sat down with my wife in the calmest way possible to explain how I’ve not been satisfied sexually due to her giving birth. I explained to her that I felt her vagina had loosened after the birth of our child and I handed over the product that I had bought for her. My wife stayed silent all throughout the time I spoke to her. When I finished talking she gave me a very nasty look and left the room without saying a word and also eased as she left. Since that day I have been living in pure misery.

My wife has refused to sleep in the same bed with me, she has deprived me of sex. She barely cooks. Every time I try to talk to her, she shuts me or up or she doesn’t respond. She’s constantly on her phone talking to one friend or the other. Completely disrespecting me in my own house. Yesterday night was the last straw and we got into a heated fight. She compared me to one of her ex’s and claimed that it was a mistake that she married me. I ended up calling her all sorts of names and told her to leave my house. I called her mother, and she was begging on her behalf but I’m no longer tolerating her nasty behaviour. It was God that stopped me from slapping her yesterday, because I’ve never been insulted like that all my life. This morning she’s packed her stuff and she has left with our daughter.
At this point I’m falling out of love with this ungrateful woman. Since the birth of our child it’s been hell and I’ve tried my best. At this point I don’t know if I should just leave my wife or try to reconcile. I have tried to my best ability but she’s very ungrateful and miserable. I believe our marriage is dead at this point and I don’t think there’s any way to revive it. She has completely let herself go emotionally and physically. She doesn’t care about herself nor myself.

I just want to know the next wise step to take

Thanks.

Creamcustard:
Hello Op,

This must be a very challenging situation for both of you.
I'll say you probably went about it the wrong way, without considering the character of your spouse.

I'm assuming you bought Ben-wa balls for her to use.Ben-wa balls are usually very good to improve tone.
It is invasive in the sense that she has to insert it in her vjay and hold it in there,it's not for everyone.

How did you approach the talk? Mannerism matters especially when dealing with something so sensitive.
I would be offended if I'm told I have a loose vjay and then have a Ben-wa ball shoved in my face as a solution.

How would you feel if she came home one day and told you that your prick is smal,has always been small and she can't take it anymore and she has bought a di ck extender for you?

Have you considered that she has gone through child birth and is insecure about her body?

I personally don't like when people insult each other,it's usually a battle of who will inflict more hurt on the other person. After hurling insults,what next? You both need to grow up.

The worst part is this 'leave my house' you guys bandy about freely, she will forever hold low grade resentment towards you and now be aware that she's not secure at all which will make matters worse.

Explore why she is miserable.Has she always been miserable? Is she suffering from postnatal depression?

You have said that she has let go of herself emotionally and physically.Is she low in mood,no energy,no enjoyment in anything,not wanting to go out,over or under eating,not caring about anything.

She may actually be depressed, she needs to see a doctor if this is the case.

Times like this,it's best to take a more supportive stance and work through problems sensitively & with tact.

If you deal.with the psychological aspect,the physical will follow and I bet she will be more receptive to other things.


I hope you both sort this out,if you cannot then please co parent cordially so your lovely child does not miss out on the love of father and mother.

Someone needs to apologise and then the other person will follow.



Good luck

PatrickOkunima:


You should have discussed with her before buying the product. It's a big mistake on your part. Send me an email: patrickokunima@gmail.com I want to give you a piece of advice that may save your marriage. What I want to tell you is not for public consumption. There are a lot of single guys here, most of them under 20 who will come and give you advice on how to run your marital affairs. How can you advice someone on something you have not experienced? I'm expecting your mail.