They stalk you on Nairaland for months. You eventually exchange contacts and start communicating frequently, and on a deeper level. At first, they seem like 'not your type' but, with their unrelenting, you finally fall head over heels in love with them.

Just a few weeks of romance which peaked at some passionate love-making, they all of sudden become too busy. They stop calling, texting or stopping to check on you.

It's official, you have been GHOSTED.

Here is the most heartbreaking fact about being GHOSTED: Before now, you used to be the happiest person SINGLE -- until they came along and ruined it all.

The phenomenon "Ghosting" is as old as "Relationships" but only recently it has come to be the most prevalent BREAKUP STRATEGY. In this age, we all rely heavily on technology and dating apps to form and maintain relationships — which makes ghosting the best bet when things become sore.

The flame ceases to burn in Love affairs of brief or long duration when one partner virtually disappears. When one partner decides to ghost away, there are no end-of-relationship discussions, no "sorry, we are just not working out", no " it's over between us, am moving on with my life".... just dead quiet silence. No words, no calls, no text. Just dead-quiet-silence.

When people get ghosted, they are thrown into a state of wild-wondering-thoughts as to why they got dumped. Interstingly, most of these thoughts may be far from being related to the crux of the matter.

But why really do people ghost

There seems to be a strong correlation between ghosting — a fast emerging trend in millennial relationships and the increasing use of dating apps.

A study carried out to examine the experience of ghosting found that out of 550 men and women, 25% reported having been ghosted, and about 20% said they've ghosted someone with whom they were romantically involved.

Do those numbers shock you? Then brace up for more. It's possible they'll increase geometrically in the coming days, as technology is becoming more and more entrenched in modern dating connections.

https://chofam.com/2018/09/ghosting-the-popular-breakup-strategy-millennials/

Don't get used...... Put a ring on it!