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i watched Super Nanny once and damn! i was so furious cos these kids were so insolent and destructive.the nanny lady put them thru various punishments and assignments but trust me, there's a spirit in children that only spankin can drive out. i will glady deploy it when necessary

i watch supananny
and most tyms i do feel like gettin into the TV to spank some of them kids!!
so stubborn!!

Spanking shld be given at the ryt time, place and situation

spanking isnt mos def d way to discipline a child, its just that in dis our part of the world, kids over here are more hardened dan kids there, are u telling me dat u will seize d child's garri, cos if dats d only thing he has priviledges to, will make him sober,

i dont like been beaten or spanked cos i hate d color i turn when dis happen, and most times wen am reprimanded, i feel so angry, especially wen its nt neccesary

conclusion, a lil bit of evrythg will do, talk, scolding, spanking, and if its deserved, beating, if all fails only

When i returned later in the day; my welcome note was "mummy, I went to so so and so house" "oya, come and beat me" What will you do in this scenario.

That is a sign that you have been beating her too frequently. It is now like food to her. If I find myself in that situation, that will be the last time I'll raise my hands to beat her. Instead, I'll ask, "why did you go?" and listen.

i was almost never spanked by either of my parents. The only time i got spanked which was once in my life, i did worse than what i was spanked for. other times when i did wrong, my mum wud talk to me just like she couldn't beat me. she always kept putting her trus in me and that made me me. she always said gentle words like be a "good boy" "dont be naughty" "i trust you wouldn't do such again" and several others of them. Because of this and seeing the way i turned out i don't think spanking is the best. i think dialogue is best[color=#990000][/color]

All the older oyinbo people wey I dey talk to dey tell me saydem own parents spank them and dem no die. The children of the present generation wey nobody dey fit discipline or spank come dey very violent.

Spanking has no correlation with the child turning to violence.

Spanking has no correlation with the child turning to violence.

Supposing it is true that beating a child every day with koboko has a weak correlation with violence, does that mean that it is right? Having said that, please show me the scientific study that supports your position.

Beating a child undoubtedly makes the child think that beating is ok. When the child grows up, she will also want to beat her own children. When her husband beats her, she may think it's ok. A few people might react in a different way - by vowing never to beat their children. However, that usually fails because they are not aware of other methods of disciplining their children. Their spouses will compensate by beating the children more!

However, in todays Nigeria, not beating your child is not enough to prevent her from thinking that beating is ok. Her schoolteachers will beat her for you! I was beaten a lot at International Secondary School Ifako: at least 3 times a week for latecoming and 1-2 times a week when the entire class was punished for noisemaking.

also, av u heard that

Stubborness is in d heart of a child, only d rod of correction will drive it out

Now I believe that if a parent ever feels the need to beat a child because of his or her actions, then this parent should reallly look within his or herself and figure out if the childs actions were not learned through them the parents. Because, I was born and raised here in America where I have seen some outrageous performances in public between mother and child. I've seen a mother drape up her child by his collar and scream in his face, " I'm gon' f*ck you up when we get home!" I was like WHAT? Who does she expect him to ne when he grows up? If you come to this country and just observe these so called parents, some of them will explain to you why there are so many wayward black teens who grow up to be wayward adults who just repeat the cycle of horrible child rearing and train young black men for the prison system here in the U.S.

My parents may have beat me at home when I did something wrong after they told me over and over again not too. If I talked back, I got whacked. But my parents at least tried to set some kind of positive example and has instilled alot of very good values in me. In the islands it is common place to spank the children when they don't listen and that's just what I got. But my parents never belittled me to the point where I would feel inadequate as an adult.

I don't have any children yet so I guess it's easy to say I will not resort to corporal punishment but sometimes, children can do a good job at testing your patience. I've babysat before so I know. But I do believe that you should not have to scream or yell at a child for them to do what you say. Because when you start yelling at them, they dont respond when you talk to them, and when you start beating them, they dont respond to talks or punishment. Lets not train our children to be circus animals that only respond to the whip!

Like others have said in previous comments, explain things to them as though they are adults since we are in fact preparing them to be succesful and mature adults who will one day be parents as well.

Spoil the rod and spare the child

y nt??

depends on the situation

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i dont believe in sparing d rod and spoiling d child,atleast their asses should be spanked once in a while

You can only try that in Nigeria though. . .
Try it up here. . . You stand the chance of going to Jail.

Nothing wrong with giving a child a good smacking.

It should be made clear to the child to behave if they dont listen beat the hell out of them.

Children nowadays are disgusting so rude and spoilt.

Forget any stupid law the only law in my household is LadyT and Mr T's law. The child should obey or face punishment. Taking away treats, giving lectures all work but sometimes a smack across the backside works too!

Spanking is necessary at times, but I can't bring myself to spank my child, maybe the daddy would do that.

Spanking is necessary at times, but I can't bring myself to spank my child, maybe the daddy would do that.

i can help u

Lol , I don't think my mother would let you beat her to that

Lol , I don't think my mother would let you beat her to that

LMAO

The Sly:

You can only try that in Nigeria though. . .
Try it up here. . . You stand the chance of going to Jail.

That is why most 40% of the children are spoilt. Imagine a child telling the father " DON'T BE STUPID DAD "
This the more reason why i encourage my child to grow to a reasonable age here in Nigeria to learn the culture of respect before she travels there.

rasputinn:

Very necessary when necessary

All correct sir !

Big Father you are wrong 80% of the children I know that came from Nigeria to live here in the UK are awful. All the instruction given to them is lost they become wild animals.

People are shocked when me and my brothers tell them we never schooled or lived in Nigeria.

Its your child you control him or her. No matter where you live if you have taught your child well they will always remember the child of whom they are and they wont disrespect you by misbehaving!

Its your child you control him or her. No matter where you live if you have taught your child well they will always remember the child of whom they are and they wont disrespect you by misbehaving!

That's true!!!!!

Am sure if you watch SUPER NANNY , you will understand what i mean. And more over am not really talking about kids from nigeria.

That is why most 40% of the children are spoilt. Imagine a child telling the father " DON'T BE STUPID DAD "
This the more reason why i encourage my child to grow to a reasonable age here in Nigeria to learn the culture of respect before she travels there

You are right but i aint raising my kids in Nigeria.
Not all kids raised in the west are spoilt . . .don't get it twisted.

Its your child you control him or her. No matter where you live if you have taught your child well they will always remember the child of whom they are and they wont disrespect you by misbehaving!

I love Nigerians when it comes to sweet words!! sweet sweet sweet!!!

If u really Wanna spank 'em. . . .Then u gotta do it like my poppas friend. . .
Take 'em to Nigeria for holidays and spank the hell out of em. . . .with that you have no problem.

But in the west. . .what i am tryin to say is that The law doesn't give a 10 about who the parents are. . .
I have heard of many Nigerians being sentenced to Jail up here because of this. . . .sum got 4. . .5yrs and so on. . .
Some even went to the extent of using pepper to punish their kids. . . .at the end . .he got about 6yrs. . . .
They don't care in the west! You just have to be careful about it. . . i believe there are still many ways to punish your kids without spanking them.

The Sly:


You are right but i aint raising my kids in Nigeria.

Sly, why won't you raise your kids in Nigeria ? Someone said the same thing to me weeks ago. What are your reasons ?

Tonim:

Sly, why won't you raise your kids in Nigeria ? Someone said the same thing to me weeks ago. What are your reasons ?

because i want them to have the best of education.
You can't compare the educational system in Nigeria to the west. . . .The difference is astronomical.

The Sly:

because i want them to have the best of education.
You can't compare the educational system in Nigeria to the west. . . .The difference is astronomical.

Okay I get your point. But what about elementary & high school ? There are very decent ones in Nigeria (as obtains in the west), albeit
they cost a lot. May be high school at least.

The thing is, I want my kids (none yet) to have a feel for our culture and I think the best way to accomplish this is for them
to go home and school for a while.

Now, as far as college/university goes, that's a whole different ball game all together.

same way America goes to Mexico

It's cos you losers will work for cheap