I have a girlfriend whom i love very much. . .[b]thats BASIC. . .in fact, i have never loved any lady besides her in my entire life and in the entire span of my relationship with her. (NB: I haven't said i have stopped loving her),
. . .but while i was in school, i had a very close female friend who's still my very good friend sha. . .
Here's the matter. . .It seems am losing control of my emotions. . .i have a strong likeness (don't know what to call it) and even fantasies about this girl (my school friend) due to our closeness even years after we graduated from the University. . .but the problem is that i don't even know what i want from her. . .MAYBE sex. . .and she has said clearly that she likes me as a friend but has never had the slightest pinch of feeling for me. . .
What really is my problem
How can I overcome it
I need to get back to straight thinking. . .Can anybody help me decipher what may be wrong with me Urgent and SINCERE responses PLS!!!

LOL. . .u re not serious. But seriously, its not as funny as u think it is.

On a second thought, i just did what u suggested but it didnt help . . .LOL. . .seriously this is not as funny as it looks to you. . .isnt there something sincere n helpful u can say to me?

my suggestion: pick the girl, convic her to make love to you politely and BOOM!!!

That feelings gos away. it is called LUST.

everyone with different cases in Nairaland court, as you can see 190 don judge you. so do as he said maybe your brain go correct my the time you receive the HEAVENLY HARD KNOCK ON HEAD (HHKH)

@Love.4Bug, thanx for the suggestion. . .LUST. . .mmh, at least now i know that someone understands me in the house!
But i have tried, maybe i guess my best is not just enough. . .and for the record. . .she knows my GF. . .as a matter of fact, i have politely asked her for even a kiss, just 1ce,. . ."not possible, we re just friends", thats all i hear, or what more can i do?
. . .But come to think of it, is it truly possible that she's never had a pinch of feeling for me despite the amount of fondness she has for me?. . .a mean she unarguably my closest female friend besides my GF!!! veeeeeerrrrrrrrrryyyyyyyyy close, but I find it hard to believe when she says that because she is not committed to any guy. . .at least i know that. Maybe tha's the reason behind these lustful thoughts. . .or what do you think




@ajayilagos, i have heard but i really dont need a knock on the head, thanx.

I feel you are just being a virile man reacting to a woman. Give yourself some space and get to re-evaluate your feelings for both women and what you really want from each.

If you are sure sex with your friend wont jeorpadize your relationship with your love, then . But be smart and think well. It could backfire on you.

you are confused, selfish and unreasonable, simple. I wonder why you need another opinion of yourself

Yomiwonder:

On a second thought, i just did what u suggested but it didnt help . . .LOL. . .seriously this is not as funny as it looks to you. . .isnt there something sincere n helpful u can say to me?

All of the above. Oops! sori, just playing.

Lemme start by saying u are stupid. Sorry but I just had to do dat. U asked the friend of ur girlfriend whom u claim u luv 4 a kiss?? How dumb can u get??!!
I was going to straight up give u advise but I see now dat u trapped urself so d only advice is dismantle ur own trap b4 sometin turns around n bites u on d ass n u'll b crying life is unfair.

my broda,it is possible 4 her not 2 have feeling 4 you(i had same experience) which is better if you still love your lady and want 2 marry her because any further step with close female friend will back-fire and jeopadice your relationship and marriage with the real lady, !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! pls try i control yourself now because your close female friend will still come back to give you more than what you expected from her when there is nobody to give her what she want again and that action will want destroy your marriage totally(WORDS OF ADVICE FROM ELDER)

Try reading the bible from GENESIS to REVELATION; by the time you are finished, understanding on this matter will come to you.

I feel you are just being a virile man reacting to a woman. Give yourself some space and get to re-evaluate your feelings for both women and what you really want from each.

If you are sure sex with your friend wont jeorpadize your relationship with your love, then      . But be smart and think well. It could backfire on you.

thanx alot. . .will do best not to get caught.

you are confused, selfish and unreasonable, simple. I wonder why you need another opinion of yourself

Cant be the three @ the same time, but tnx 4 tryin anyways

On a second thought, i just did what u suggested but it didnt help . . .LOL. . .seriously this is not as funny as it looks to you. . .isnt there something sincere n helpful u can say to me?

190's suggestion. . .no mind am lol

All of the above. Oops! sori, just playing.All of the above. Oops! sori, just playing.

Yea i know, no probs. . .

Lemme start by saying u are silly. Sorry but I just had to do dat. U asked the friend of your girlfriend whom u claim u luv 4 a kiss?? How dumb can u get??!!
I was going to straight up give u advise but I see now dat u trapped urself so d only advice is dismantle your own trap b4 sometin turns around n bites u on d backside n u'll b crying life is unfair.

I dont blame u, u were so eager to insult me that u forgot to notice that i sed she "knows my GF" and not that "she's my GF's friend". . .2 different things . . .simple English. . .but anyways, fanx 4 ur advise.

my broda,it is possible 4 her not 2 have feeling 4 you(i had same experience) which is better if you still love your lady and want 2 marry her because any further step with close female friend will back-fire and jeopadice your relationship and  marriage with the real lady, !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! pls try i control yourself now because your close female friend will still come back to give you more than what you expected from her when there is nobody to give her what she want again and that action will want destroy your marriage totally(WORDS OF ADVICE FROM ELDER)

ELDER, thanx for the elderly words of advice, am sure they'll help.

Try reading the bible from GENESIS to REVELATION; by the time you are finished, understanding on this matter will come to you.

If that was the solution, i wouldn't need your advice in the first place. . .but thanx anyway tho' it wasn't that funny

Del

LOVE.4BUG:

my suggestion: pick the girl, convic her to make love to you politely and BOOM!!!

That feelings gos away. it is called LUST.

Hey Love,

Seeing as you made this suggestion, can I try the same strategy with you?
Once we're done rolling in the hay my long time LUST will "go away".

Whaddaya say?       

Oh yeah my bad. But still I tink u are putting urself in dat situation. For u to actually ask for a kiss means u've gone beyond merely fantasizing or wateva.

Stop seeing u n d lady in question in bed. U say she's ur friend den tink of her as 1 instead of a bedmate. U need to reorient ur thots dats why I say it's a trap u've built 4 urself. As for her knowing ur GF u better b careful cos if she ever blurts it out dat u hit on her 2 ur GF or she gets 2 know some way u know u'd b in trouble.