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I really understands your plights, get rid of it. U are the one that fall in, and u will as well be the one to rule off the matter. Dont let it borders u as much.
Then Am ready dear, I have such similar problem with someone. what a coincidence, really serious dear!

Del

i have had similiar experience as well. almost similiar case as yours. i sent a text to him expressing how angry i was. it was the nastiest text i had ever sent to him. and that was it. not a word or a phone call from him after that. that was how the relationship ended. like play like play. relationship that he had invested so much in. i was shocked and baffled but i guess it was only proof to that he was not into me and he could not be bothered to fight for/keep my love.

the days and weeks and months after was tough. i almost lost my sanity. but i devoted myself to work and i hung out with friends and that was how i met the present love of my life. it was only prove that if one door closes, a bigger gate opens. it is as if God sent the man i am with now to wipe away my tears. its been bliss so far.

dont worry, it is just a phase. and it will pass. cry if you want to. it will make you feel good. but do not make the mistake of calling or texting him except he does.

If u hopes so, then dont ever allow your spoiled mind to take over u please.

helovesme:
i have had similiar experience as well. almost similiar case as yours. i sent a text to him expressing how angry i was. it was the nastiest text i had ever sent to him. and that was it. not a word or a phone call from him after that. that was how the relationship ended. like play like play. relationship that he had invested so much in. i was shocked and baffled but i guess it was only proof to that he was not into me and he could not be bothered to fight for/keep my love.

the days and weeks and months after was tough. i almost lost my sanity. but i devoted myself to work and i hung out with friends and that was how i met the present love of my life. it was only prove that if one door closes, a bigger gate opens. it is as if God sent the man i am with now to wipe away my tears. its been bliss so far.

dont worry, it is just a phase. and it will pass. cry if you want to. it will make you feel good. but do not make the mistake of calling or texting him except he does.

Congrats, u made it at last.

we've al been here before all i could do was cry but i later learnt to open up to a new guy the pain will subdue, guys are fun to be with but they are potential bomb tick

@ poster, Don't ever rush things yet, i feels ur pain, but take it easy, u heard what the second writer said. Maybe, it shall work better nice time. Just FOCUS!

whiteroses:
we've al been here before all i could do was cry but i later learnt to open up to a new guy the pain will subdue, guys are fun to be with but they are potential bomb tick

U've made ur point.

Del

xmasgift:
Truth be told, I have done both and he answers the fone wen I call but he has not made the mistake of dialing my number @ least not to my knowledge and I wonder , " despite it all, am I so forgettable"?? I think it's the shock that he never felt anything dats making me feel worse. 

I eagerly look forward to my own success story, tnx Helovesme

Hmmm e no easy ohhh, but any how try. I can see u really believes in love. But why ppl have such a heartless mind?

Del

^^ Ok like i said, get rid of it, things much better is coming your way. just prepare for it. One love! and as well love to share this link with u
http://www.ehow.com/how_4929516_overcome-heartbreak-fellow-ladies.html

It works.

Move on, you know he doesn't care about you. You don't need to feel hurt except that you feel insecure.

The next man will come soon, take care of yourself and look good. If you can't let go his thoughts then you need not be alone, find a friend you can trust and talk to him or her everyday for one good month. If you can cry, cry all days of the months. When you let all your battered emotions loose, you will feel better and you can move on.

take it or leave it.

^^^ Good advice!

I have a feeling that the guy is Nigerian and Xmasgift is African American. Am I making a false assumption Xmasgift?? Anyways sorry ooo for your heartache, I know this will sound cliché but "time heals all wounds". . . just be patient with yourself. Take control and stop calling him. He didn't make you so he sure as hell ain't gonna break you unless you let him.

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Truth be told, I have done both and he answers the fone wen I call but he has not made the mistake of dialing my number @ least not to my knowledge and I wonder , " despite it all, am I so forgettable"?? I think it's the shock that he never felt anything dats making me feel worse.

I think the mistake we all make is that we care too much about what other people think or how they view us, and thus allowing them to define who we are. What he thinks of you is irrelevant but what you think of yourself is the most important thing. . . Loving yourself is the greatest love of all. There's an amazing man out there that God created just for you. Don't forget to count your blessings it helps put everything in perspective. . . God doesn't give us more than we can endure. . . You're stronger than this!

What your going through every woman has gone through- you dated a jerk he found (what he believes) is a better opportunity and your left depressed and feeling worthless, the truth is he doesnt want you. . . . . . . . .why should you spend soo much time dwelling on somebody that cannot love you? Its ok for you to mourn but theres something you should know, he is moving on with a different woman, whether you live die or jump off 3rd mainland bridge he will continue doing what is best for him. So you should start doing what is best for you, believe it or not there are millions of men in nigera- men that will love you once you fully understand love is a game and the best players win- heal yourself and learn how to become a winner!

poster time will heal you. I know it's easier said than done but you just have to move on go on dates meet new guys and dont waste your youth being angry at a man who is not even thinking of you.

i had a similar situation i gave her a call the new years eve of the year we broke up and i wished her much success and a happy new year after that i went to church and i deleted her number and ripped ever piece of paper i may have written her number on and just did my thing. Though i was going nutz i eventually met the right woman and she my ex started looking for me. i was like nope i dont want your number and i dont want to be friends. i wasn't getting sucked back into that bad situation.

[color=#9900ff]Sorry never been in that situation and if i ever be, i hope my brothers shoot me.
When you cut yourself from someone. . .make it a clean cut.
You know you need to move on, so motivate yourself to move on. Crying, exercise, holiday trip whatever (ok not whatever but the positive stuff). [/color]

Naijagal12:
I think the mistake we all make is that we care too much about what other people think or how they view us, and thus allowing them to define who we are. What he thinks of you is irrelevant but what you think of yourself is the most important thing. . . Loving yourself is the greatest love of all. There's an amazing man out there that God created just for you. Don't forget to count your blessings it helps put everything in perspective. . . God doesn't give us more than we can endure. . . You're stronger than this!

[color=#9900ff]Well said. [/color]

I know the feeling but you just have to put in extra effort to move on.

hunnnnnnn, how can i explain my feeling to dis topic, because, this topic similar to what is happening to me know. how can i share it to public to find me help? but, no time, but the pen is hands of creator.

I believe you are already moving on.the most painful part is that were you so forgettable?i knw iknw but you will be fine alot of us have been there,some are still there you are not alone if this is of any comfort to you.please try not to call him again as you already knw he doesnt deserve you just round the corner smeone better is waiting (atleast that is what i told myself until i made it).

i feel you girl

i have been in your shoes and mehnnnnn i must say, it hurts like hell,

time would heal all,


my advice , there are forum blog sites (i have forgotten , will try to remember)that would help you move on, here you will meet people in your shoes and you guys can learn from your selves,hear other people's stories, advice your selves in the end, slowly you would get over him,


that is life


during my own experience , i lost half my body weight, its sooooo hard,


to move on, enroll in stuff that would take your mind off him i.e register in a gym,start dancing lessons, join an church group or even take up an new language, in the end, all your energies-psycological and otherwise would purge the memories of the dude out of your system

start engaging your friends-go out a lot more, go shopping, go partying,

try and stop seeing stuff that belong to him-his numbers, pixs, facebook, twitter etc,

Del

@Poster
I hope you still remember the consequences of looking back as in the case of lot's wife?
Dere's need to also learn how to let unproficient relationships GO!
I know it not easy, but u really have to let bygones be bygone!
CRUISE AHEAD!

nice pieces of advice guys

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SHOWS you that guys have feeling too and hurt also

Was once there,praying he will come back,but he never did. Called him severally,begged him and finally sent nasty sms to him,just to make him feel bad. Almost killed myself, but here I am today thanking GOD he didn't come back. Embrace yourself, show affection and love yourself more. Forget him, GOD will definitely bring a better and passionate friend. Mark my words.

Was once there,praying he will come back,but he never did. Called him severally,begged him and finally sent nasty sms to him,just to make him feel bad. Almost killed myself, but here I am today thanking GOD he didn't come back. Embrace yourself, show affection and love yourself more. Forget him, GOD will definitely bring a better and passionate friend. Mark my words.

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normal symptoms

@ poster

Do not let this weigh you down, pick up yourself from here and start again as there are many guys out there who will appreciate you for who you are, Give it some time for Time cures issues of the mind like this .
You were not just sensitive enough, The bitter truth was that this guy found someone else he felt was better than you were and was just looking for a way to disengage himself from you.
The worst thing you can try to do now is to start pleading with him, dont try it cos it wont help matters.
Dear , Pick up yourself and hope for the best.

Regards.