Hello Madam J,

My wife said I should ask you this question because it has been causing plenty problems in our marriage. We have been married for about eight years and we have three children. The problems started from right when we got married but it has increased since we started having children.

Personally,I think my wife is selfish and no one should blame me if this marriage does not work. When we got married,I noticed she does not like sx. She always make up excuse for not wanting to have sx. It’s either she has headache or she is tired. Or when I am doing it,she will be like,are you not done,I am tired..etc. I was like,how did I land in this kind of situation?

And I was very disappointed because I waited until we got married before we had sx. Because I loved her,I tried to be calm and bear with her.We only had sx when she was ovulating and that is because she wanted to have a baby. When she is pregnant,I can count how many times we have s*x…less than five times in the whole nine months of pregnancy.

That has always been the cause of trouble in my home. Sometimes,I will threaten to leave her and go and meet a prostitute and she will start crying and saying I am insensitive. That she has a psychological condition called Frigidity in women.

Ok,so I try to help her overcome this frigidity but each time,she ......more



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Not many man can put up with that o o

spoke my mind bro

cooldipo:
Not many man can put up with that o o

Celibate gift....instead make them dedicate their life to serving humanity or becoming a nun..they will marry and now be frustrating husband at home....

Marriage is not for everybody abeg... U no wan Straff and u dey marry ....which kind parole be that....

iwó lómó tí ó já pata é

I tell people that it takes two to make a marriage work. Yes you might not be sexually active but because of your marriage you should be ready to make sacrifice. The man may eventually starts cheating if she refused to be considerate. My two cents...

1StopRudeness:
Celibate gift....instead make them dedicate their life to serving humanity or becoming a nun..they will marry and now be frustrating husband at home....

Marriage is not for everybody abeg... U no wan Straff and u dey marry ....which kind parole be that....

iwó lómó tí ó já pata é

I told someone sometime early this year during a discussion that I might choose not to marry if I can't find the right person for me and he was like.. Omg don't say that, it is not good, God say we should multiply and bla bla bla. He nearly turned me apart. Why marry if you cant make the sacrifice that comes with marriage?

Sometimes it's better to taste the suya b4 u buy it...with that u will be able to know the strength.

I'm the opposite of the woman, normally I could go without sex for years. But let me just get pregnant peren and get through the first trimester sickness, I become a different human being, 'ALWAYS' ready for action. Lol

Some women use this no sex before marriage to hide there romantic flaws so when he eventually marries her, he'll start observing some unpleasant romantic attitudes of her...

I'll advise the op to talk to her about it but it's unfortunate she has roped you with children which makes it more difficult to leave her... this her situation might be that she was sexually molested in her childhood which made her hate sex... She might be hiding something from you. Any adult whose system is functioning well will like sex... She can also be assisted medically if need be

1StopRudeness:
Celibate gift....instead make them dedicate their life to serving humanity or becoming a nun..they will marry and now be frustrating husband at home....

Marriage is not for everybody abeg... U no wan Straff and u dey marry ....which kind parole be that....

iwó lómó tí ó já pata é

I told someone sometime early this year during a discussion that I might choose not to marry if I can't find the right person for me and he was like.. Omg don't say that, it is not good, God say we should multiply and bla bla bla. He nearly turned me apart. Why marry if you can't make the sacrifice that comes with marriage?

bdchange:

I told someone sometime early this year during a discussion that I might choose not to marry if I can't find the right person for me and he was like.. Omg don't say that, it is not good, God say we should multiply and bla bla bla. He nearly turned me apart. Why marry if you cant make the sacrifice that comes with marriage?

That's why people just get married to marriage rather than the person..
U see people fighting just to have it and stay in it for marriage rather than for love or the person.....

I once read it on Facebook about a woman who nags about everything her children and husband do at home.Not until when the husband sat her down and asked her the reasons for her actions that she told her husband that she was molested by three armed robbers when she was young.The case was later settled amicably.


Communication is the key.She might have been molested sexually in the past that made her to hate sex .Try to know more about her past.This might help.

make a lot of see dear

oyinatinuke:
I once read it on Facebook about a woman who nags about everything her children and husband do at home.Not until when the husband sat her down and asked her the reasons for her actions that she told her husband that she was molested by three armed robbers when she was young.The case was later settled amicably.


Communication is the key.She might have been molested sexually in the past that made her to hate sex .Try to know more about her past.This might help.