Saff:
You are very insecure and you’re definitely not mentally ready for marriage. You should be happy and even encouraging her, this is a hardworking lady who is trying to improve her life. You should be thanking God that you have a woman who is willing to go the extra mile to fend for herself, you are here contemplating on if you should end the relationship. Confused beings smh.

hkidola00:
well, it a girl I want to marry, not just ordinary girl friend.... she left the state we are to work in another state for some couple of months, she will be be staying with some family finale cousins of hers......
I was against her leaving, she left anyway, but I'm just asking if I should cut d relationship off or it worth holding on to as I don't know what she will be doing in her work place or elsewhere, I'm confused

BluntBoy:


What is your relationship with her like?

I mean, has there ever been an incident of infidelity, either from you or her?

Saff:
You are very insecure and you’re definitely not mentally ready for marriage. You think your wife will be by your side 24/7? You should be happy and even encouraging her, this is a hardworking lady who is trying to improve her life. You should be thanking God that you have a woman who is willing to go the extra mile to fend for herself, you are here contemplating if you should end the relationship. Confused beings smh.

samysmoothfresh:


first time this madam made sense


op it's obvious you dont trust "the lady you plan to marry"


i dont blame you sha cos most of these naija hoes are not to be trusted..


If you know you cant trust her and overcome your insecurities, just end the BS before you end up with HBP and die like fowl

hkidola00:
why don't u sit down and think deep b4 commenting,she cheated on me with her cousin, u never asked if she has breached any trust for me to be unsure about her

hkidola00:
which sense did she make, did she ask me y i felt unsure about her

hkidola00:
yeah there has been a case of infidelity once with her cousin she visited, dat y d trust has been breached, her mum apologized for her, she begged and begged for over 3 months, now she's traveled for work again....i created a topic on it, it under my profile

BluntBoy:


I can understand your fears now. I can't force you to trust her. It is perfectly normal for you to distrust her because of that incident. And to even make matters worse, she would be staying with a cousin.

Even though a woman has never cheated on me before (at least I was not aware of any), l I have decided that if it ever happened, that would be the end of the relationship. I will forgive her but I will never take her back. I wouldn't ever want to stick with a cheat because it would be hard for me to trust her again.

Imagine what you are going through now. It is what I don't ever want to go through. Distrust in a relationship can work someone up and destroy your peace of mind.

However, the decision lies in your hands. If you want to continue with the relationship, then you need to be sure she has changed and that she has your trust again. Anything other than that will spell doom for your wellbeing.

If you have the patience, you can investigate her activities and put your mind to rest once and for all.

samysmoothfresh:


i take back my words and apologize for falling for her stupid words concealed as wise ones..


The said lady, Saff, is known for making senseless comments here and i apologize once again, this time on her behalf.


Like i said in the latter part of my earlier comment, most of these naija hoes are not to be trusted.


Just jejely leave the woman abeg.

She go do worse for that side.

hkidola00:
waoo,common!!!

samysmoothfresh:


first time this madam made sense


op it's obvious you dont trust "the lady you plan to marry"


i dont blame you sha cos most of these naija hoes are not to be trusted..


If you know you cant trust her and overcome your insecurities, just end the BS before you end up with HBP and die like fowl

samysmoothfresh:


the truth is bitter, i know.

Saff:
She cheated on you with her “cousin” ? Well why didn’t you mention that in the first place? So on top of the fact that she cheated on you, you still want to marry her, Biko what is my own? You want to purposely give yourself headache, you’re coming online to purposely ask yourself questions that you know the answer to? You are now telling me to sit down and think, Oga why don’t you take your own advice? Good day!!!

Biingoo:
She cheated on you with her cousin?? Abomination (Alu!).

See bro, if you're Igbo don't even think of settling down with that girl except she's cleansed​ from the curse of the abominable act she committed with her cousin to avoid casualties..... if I were you, I won't even take chances to dump her crunny ass and look for another girl to marry. my 2cent

NuhRegular:
Lol.. I agree with Saff please.. But I don't understand.. All these complaints I'm seeing on Nairaland, every small thing "I don't know if I should just call it off".. Haba.. Is it easy to find a reasonable life partner in this generation of plenty casala that people are just breaking up anyhow.. What happened to "communications" I mean actually discussing your relationship issues and trying to make headway.. Well obviously most of you guys are just in a relationship for one foolish reason or the other.. Because If it was genuinely backed by love, ending things won't be so easy

emmaodet:
hkidola00, have told you several times that if you know you can't cope with the lady, leave her and move on. I know it is not easy because i was once in your shoes

hkidola00:
thank you very much for ur time, good one, tanks

hkidola00:
well, it a girl I want to marry, not just ordinary girl friend.... she left the state we are to work in another state for some couple of months, she will be be staying with some family femalr cousins of hers......
I was against her leaving, she left anyway, but I'm just asking if I should cut d relationship off or it worth holding on to as I don't know what she will be doing in her work place or elsewhere, I'm confused

Modified: just look at saff first comment compare to bluntboy's comment, dat where u will realize d ladies we have on nairaland are built with low IQ