u hv ond degree and d woman u want 2 marry is bsc holder is it adviceable 2 let her before marring or let her discover after marriage

Are u actually thinking of hiding things like this from someone u want to marry, am I reading this correctly, u must be joking. What is happening to guys dis days, u hide ur hide, hide ur true identity, na wa o.

I will be back, when I understands what you mean

this sort of thing happen everyday in naija and other places. you love someone so much that you fear you would lose them if they found out the real you.

lying about your qualification for me is not that malicious. it is an innocent lie. a well intended one. your future wife may moan when she finds out in the future, but hey o, you did not kill any body.

it would be a different case if you lie, for example about ones HIV status. now that would be devilish.

OND or Masters degree. All this qualification thing is all about exposure and the way you present your self,it's all about your carriage !

Please tell her the truth.

Am sure that can never be a problem.

Lieing about your qualification is a sign of low self esteem. Africans always believe in qualifications and certificates but will your qualification makes u a good husband? Hell no.
Tell her the real u and if she's not comfortable with that then let her move. Just try to be yourself and not something else.
I wonder why u look down at yourself just because u have OND.
What the fucck is even BSC if not for 9ja mentality?
Believe in yourself and not your qualification

The much emphasis placed on certificate and certification is what has continually created a general scramble for certificate .Some going to school for it and some buying it. ;D

She might not show interest in your proposal but you don't have to keep this from her or aren't you proud of your qualification?
The problem is, most women with BSc prefers to marry masters holders, and ladies with masters search for doctorate holders, unknowingly to them that men with these qualifications are already married.
Swaggerly make it known to her now with all confidence!

Your problem is inferiority complex. Tell her the truth . She will even love you the more.

Tell her now.
Trivial things like this don't matter - to me.

WTF!!!!if you guyz can't discuss that what can you people discuss?

Tell her how bad you are in writting English first, before any other thing.

At times it matters and at times it doesnt. But examine yourself if you are articulate enough to marry a graduate or not. A man should be able to intelligently contribute to general issues as it relates to the family and should earn the respect of the wife for his superior reasons on argument.

Aside this, an intelligent ND holder can marry a graduate, and there is no reason why you should not disclose your true status to a woman you intend to marry before your marriage.
Note that there is nothing like OND degree or HND degree.

thank u all for ur wonderful contributions to my topic i am grateful MAY GOD bless u all in JESUS NAME.

okeyazu:

u hv ond degree

ond diploma pls, not ond degree.

all the same, what matters most is love not pkali.

oyewolejos:

Lieing about your qualification is a sign of low self esteem. Africans always believe in qualifications and certificates but will your qualification makes u a good husband? Hell no.
Tell her the real u and if she's not comfortable with that then let her move. Just try to be yourself and not something else.
I wonder why u look down at yourself just because u have OND.
What the fucck is even BSC if not for 9ja mentality?
Believe in yourself and not your qualification

Amen to that!
You can get your degree later if you feel it is that important but do it for yourself not to impress a woman. Is she so shallow?

deoyel25:

Your problem is inferiority complex. Tell her the truth . She will even love you the more.

my uncle married a pharmacist and she bought their family car. but 2day he is a graduate working presently for PHCN.

@OP

Go and marry a toilet cleaner since it is obvious you suffer from some serious low self esteem and inferiority complex. If that is not the case, why the heck are you coming on an online forum to ask if you should marry a woman you "claim" to love? Kindly free the girl so that she can meet someone worthy of her love while you go hook up with a non english speaking illiterate from your village!

@ Big Father, Well said!

@ OP
If u worth what u possess ''the OND Cert'' then u shud know that u have laid a kind of foundation which can be built upon sooner or later. If u worth it as i have said earlier, and u guys are really inlove, then i see no reason why she 'll hesitate to marry u whenever u declare ur intention. D gap is not much, and if i may ask; why don't you complete your education with the money u want to spend in that marriage, Life's achievement is step by step, There is time for everything under the sun.

Meanwhile,trust, as u may know is a watch word in any relationship, thus i 'll advise u not to conceal anything that 'll make her feel cheated in d nearest future. Don't treat anybody d way u wudn't want to be treated.

Dream, have personal goal and play safe!

The amount of degree you have gathered is not the bedrock of a successful relationship. Every man wants to come across as a hero in the eyes of their mates, the perfect job, the perfect educational qualification, the perfect friends, the perfect this, the perfect that.

You are not perfect and you are still moulding yourself to the person you want to be just as she is. So hold nothing back from your mate and if she cannot accept you the way you are then you have no business being with her.

Always learn to say the truth and let the worst happen after that.
Just be bold and confident when dealing with a babe.
A man is always a man irrespective of any circumstance.