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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by mhizbel(f): 8:51am On Dec 07
Wuraola01:



Whether ur wife initiated it or not, it is quite rude of your brother to slap your WIFE even if it is in defence. I would advise you sit your brother down and make him apologize to your WIFE and promise you never to do that again!!!

This is the problem with bringing in siblings undecided
Exactly! I don't want any relative living with me when I'm married. Exception to sick parents though...

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Divay22(f): 9:06am On Dec 07
Emescot:

Nice advise tho, i've just never been one to walk away from my problems grin


But let's forget all this talk and make out and forget it ever happened *wink*
Ehn
Oya beat her na sad

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Emescot(m): 9:36am On Dec 07
Divay22:
Ehn Oya beat her na sad
And u stylishly ignored my attempt to flirt with yougringrin Chill sha, am not a woman beater and i no like wahala
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by ayobamiJR(m): 10:51am On Dec 07
ImaIma1:

Op the bitter truth is that your brother doesn't respect your wife and women for that matter. Slapping your wife whatever the reason is an affront to you. That also means that he doesn't respect you.

Let me ask you a question...if you slap him, will he slap you back?

Obviously He won't
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by ayobamiJR(m): 10:52am On Dec 07
Or Could it be that my brother take KWALE

Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Jombom: 11:16am On Dec 07
Divay22:

Nothing can justify it.
It's not right and let it be so.
but it is justifiable for the wife to slap the brother ba ? Na plank dem suppose use beat sense into your head.

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by omoskenso(m): 12:02pm On Dec 07
1) she's your wife which makes that place her house a claim your brother cant make unless you're dead, so he should learn to live by her rules of coexistence.

2) she's 24 & his 19, she's older and can issue a slap if she feels disrespected as a senior

3) A man should not hit a woman not to talk of another man's wife (how was he brought up??)

4) there's an underlying issue here that you failed to see as the head of the house, the slapping was to me as a result of previous accumulated events (either she has been slapping him since and it has gotten to a point of retaliation or they both despise each other) what am saying is, it didn't just happen that day because of mere water!

5) she has right to send him on errands so long he stay under her roof, feeds him and the water isn't it for the general house??

6) your brother is stupid and disrespectful (you too can get a slap from him one day) how do you refuse an errand from someone older, your elder brother's wife and expect to go free!

Imagine Aisha Buhari been slapped by a Governor for whatever reason (weather his democratically elected or not) it would be seen as a slap to Mr president himself, though her position is ceremonial but she's accorded almost same respect as her husband and the said Gov must be punished directly or indirectly but he must feel the venom and nothing would justify his actions

In all sir, do not focus on the slap rather the cause of the slapping, there is a rift between them and your brother continous stay in that house belittles your wife even after resolution( how does she endure the presence of a boy that slapped her and your brother will definitely cross her path some other time)

Do the needful or you might just come home 1 day to meet your brother dead of food poisoning or your wife in the pool of her blood.

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Eberechi24(f): 2:09pm On Dec 07
omoskenso:
1) she's your wife which makes that place her house a claim your brother cant make unless you're dead, so he should learn to live by her rules of coexistence.

2) she's 24 & his 19, she's older and can issue a slap if she feels disrespected as a senior

3) A man should not hit a woman not to talk of another man's wife (how was he brought up??)

4) there's an underlying issue here that you failed to see as the head of the house, the slapping was to me as a result of previous accumulated events (either she has been slapping him since and it has gotten to a point of retaliation or they both despise each other) what am saying is, it didn't just happen that day because of mere water!

5) she has right to send him on errands so long he stay under her roof, feeds him and the water isn't it for the general house??

6) your brother is stupid and disrespectful (you too can get a slap from him one day) how do you refuse an errand from someone older, your elder brother's wife and expect to go free!

Imagine Aisha Buhari been slapped by a Governor for whatever reason (weather his democratically elected or not) it would be seen as a slap to Mr president himself, though her position is ceremonial but she's accorded almost same respect as her husband and the said Gov must be punished directly or indirectly but he must feel the venom and nothing would justify his actions

In all sir, do not focus on the slap rather the cause of the slapping, there is a rift between them and your brother continous stay in that house belittles your wife even after resolution( how does she endure the presence of a boy that slapped her and your brother will definitely cross her path some other time)

Do the needful or you might just come home 1 day to meet your brother dead of food poisoning or your wife in the pool of her blood.

Love your fair judgement.

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 2:32pm On Dec 07
Splinz:


Sorry, you're really in deep sh!t.

Now, who's at fault here doesn't really matter, but how to resettled your brother elsewhere.

For the fact that he slaps your wife, let it be known to you that as long as he lives under your roof with your wife, she'd never forgive him for daring to slap her in her own house. And she'll probably grow to hate him so...much. So, it is best he moves.

Again, it's absolutely pointless asking who's at fault. The deed has been done...
Which her own house? Is it also not the house of the OP's brother?

@Op first establish the cause and who slapped who first (I suspect it is the wife because it is irrational for a man to land a slap just because someone asked him to go fetch water).

Your wife is 24 and your brother is 19, I think your wife should have gone to fetch her water since he ignored her rather than initiating the slap (if she first slapped him). However, she should not be sending him on such errand, a good wife will do her errands herself.

Meanwhile, caution them both but ensure you establish the real issue.

MODIFIED:

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 2:34pm On Dec 07
Wuraola01:



Whether ur wife initiated it or not, it is quite rude of your brother to slap your WIFE even if it is in defence. I would advise you sit your brother down and make him apologize to your WIFE and promise you never to do that again!!!

This is the problem with bringing in siblings undecided

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Wuraola01(f): 2:35pm On Dec 07
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 2:39pm On Dec 07
Wuraola01:



undecided undecided undecided cry
You can't validate violence perpetrated by the wife and still condemn appropriate response by the brother. It is not possible!
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 2:43pm On Dec 07
Emescot:

Yeah i know, but in ur own opinion how do u correct women with the fast hand to slap or lock a man's chest. Just asking cos it has never happened to me or my dad and i donr know how i would react if it did
If a woman is quick to slap, she should be ready to receive equal or double measure of it.

Violence should be a condemnable act! We can't validate that of female with silence and condemn that of males.

This is my principle!
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 2:44pm On Dec 07
Divay22:

Walk away.
Nothing tortures a woman more, other than silence.
If you hit her, congratulations you can as well kill her but when you walk away she calls herself to order and most likely feel remorseful.

If they lock your shirt or slap you and at the end you retaliate, no matter her offence people will support her and would tag you a wife beater.
Beating or slapping us changes nothing, but silence goes far more than you think.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Divay22(f): 2:46pm On Dec 07
TonyeBarcanista:
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Hahahahahaha
Spill whatever you have against my comment smiley
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Wuraola01(f): 2:50pm On Dec 07
TonyeBarcanista:
You can't validate violence perpetrated by the wife and still condemn appropriate response by the brother. It is not possible!


I wasn't there. So I don't know who gave d slap first.
Whether the wife gave the slap first or not, It doesn't matter!!. If at all the wife slapped him first, the guy ought to respect his brother and wait till he gets back before doing anything. That retaliation isn't appropriate at all, truth be told.

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Divay22(f): 2:53pm On Dec 07
TonyeBarcanista:

If a woman is quick to slap, she should be ready to receive equal or double measure of it.

Violence should be condemnable, we can't validate that of female with silence and condemn that of males.

This is my principle!
Lol
So you can stand and watch your younger brother slap your wife even if she slapped him first?
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Emescot(m): 2:53pm On Dec 07
TonyeBarcanista:

If a woman is quick to slap, she should be ready to receive equal or double measure of it.

Violence should be condemnable, we can't validate that of female with silence and condemn that of males.

This is my principle!
I agree with you 99%
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 2:58pm On Dec 07
Wuraola01:


I wasn't there. So I don't know who gave d slap first.
Whether the wife gave the slap first or not, It doesn't matter!!. If at all the wife slapped him first, the guy ought to respect his brother and wait till he gets back before doing anything. That retaliation isn't appropriate at all, truth be told.
The wife is Clearly at fault. The brother retaliated appropriately to whatever the wife dished at him. If the wife had respect for her husband and his family she would have known that slapping a grownup is a taboo. If it were in the days of our forefathers she would have been sanctioned. She displayed no regard towards her in-law and she shouldn't complain, she has no reason to complain!

The young man should be cautioned no doubt but he can be understood as one that was only reacting to an inappropriate action.

(That is if she initiated the slap)
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by JjBankys(m): 2:58pm On Dec 07
TonyeBarcanista:

Which her own house? Is it also not the house of the OP's brother?

@Op first establish the cause and who slapped who first (I suspect it is the wife because it is irrational for a man to land a slap just because someone asked him to go fetch water).

Your wife is 24 and your brother is 19, I think your wife should have gone to fetch her water since he ignored her rather than initiating the slap (if she first slapped him). However, she should not be sending him on such errand, a good wife will do her errands herself.

Meanwhile, caution them both but ensure you establish the real issue.

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 3:00pm On Dec 07
Divay22:

Lol
So you can stand and watch your younger brother slap your wife even if she slapped him first?
She won't even dare slap my younger siblings whether male or female (though I don't have younger brother). But if my elder brother's wife slap me, I will call my younger sister to slap her in triple fold.

Because I won't want to do what will make me regret.

However, she won't dare. Everyone should respect themselves!


Lemme add a lil story:

While growing up (14 then) a woman came to where I was fetching water and gave me unexpected slap! I returned the slap grin and she fell down!

Her husband came and said to her, "I hope you learn to respect yourself in public", and left.

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 3:05pm On Dec 07
Divay22:

Hahahahahaha
Spill whatever you have against my comment smiley
Simple, violence should be shunned by all BUT whoever act violently should be prepared for what s/he will get in return tongue
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Wuraola01(f): 3:09pm On Dec 07
TonyeBarcanista:

The wife is Clearly at fault. The brother retaliated appropriately to whatever the wife dished at him. If the wife had respect for her husband and his family she would have known that slapping a grownup is a taboo. If it were in the days of our forefathers she would have been sanctioned. She displayed no regard towards her in-law and she shouldn't complain, she has no reason to complain!

The young man should be cautioned no doubt but he can be understood as one that was only reacting to an inappropriate action.

(That is if she initiated the slap)


I can't believe my eyes.
It's fine, everyone is entitled to his/her opinions smiley

Forgive me, are you Yoruba?
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 3:11pm On Dec 07
Wuraola01:


I can't believe my eyes. It's fine, everyone is entitled to his/her opinions smiley
Forgive me, are you Yoruba?
How does ethnicity come in?
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Wuraola01(f): 3:12pm On Dec 07
mhizbel:

Exactly! I don't want any relative living with me when I'm married. Exception to sick parents though...


Lol.
Wives with siblings with them are trying a lot.
They have to just overlook and ignore everything done by them cry

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Wuraola01(f): 3:13pm On Dec 07
TonyeBarcanista:

How does ethnicity come in?


Not bringing in ethnicity.

Just asking a simple question sad
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Lajet: 3:30pm On Dec 07
mhizbel:

Exactly! I don't want any relative living with me when I'm married. Exception to sick parents though...

You don't want your future husband relatives to live with you. but you will allow your own relatives to live with you
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Divay22(f): 3:37pm On Dec 07
TonyeBarcanista:
She won't even dare slap my younger siblings whether male or female (though I don't have younger brother). But if my elder brother's wife slap me, I will call my younger sister to slap her in triple fold.

Because I won't want to do what will make me regret.

However, she won't dare. Everyone should respect themselves!


Lemme add a lil story:

While growing up (14 then) a woman came to where I was fetching water and gave me unexpected slap! I returned the slap grin and she fell down!

Her husband came and said to her, "I hope you learn to respect yourself in public", and left.
Without even waiting for your elder brother to come back from work undecided
Hmmmm
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Lajet: 3:38pm On Dec 07
Divay22:

Nothing can justify it.
It's not right and let it be so.

What will justify a lady to raised her hand to slapped a boy that she knows that can win her in a fight.

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Rocktation(f): 4:13pm On Dec 07
Hiann!
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Emescot(m): 4:36pm On Dec 07
Eberechi24:


Love your fair judgement.

Fair judgment ndi mmuo, that is fair judgment to you? Anything that supports women becomes fair, if it doesnt then its unfair
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Eberechi24(f): 4:43pm On Dec 07
Emescot:


Fair judgment ndi mmuo, that is fair judgment to you? Anything that supports women becomes fair, if it doesnt then its unfair
Oga I dey my house, why not come and beat me? tongue misogynist see every thing as gender battle.

Who will justify a slap from a teenage to his elder? Misogynist.
Lets switch genders and see your reaction

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