Falling in love is not a luxury. It is an invitation into a deeper responsibility. A sound character is flammable—it sparks up flames of love even in unseeing circumstances.
When you've found love, don't slack in nurturing it. Who you are in a relationship is more powerful than what you wear and what you are. Polish your character. Improve on your character. Adjust to accommodate a sound character. Don't push your relationship to that point where your outward beauty will mean nothing to your partner because your inside can choke.
Stop swimming on stagnant water; stagnant water stinks.
Expose yourself to experiences that will shape your character. Unlearn and relearn through resources that will clean your mind. If your relationship is not working, look inwards first. You might be the one resisting change. There is always a way to influence a change. At least you can't nag your mouth into it.
True beauty is a character thing. It sticks. Artificial beauty is a make-up thing, it washes away with time. Again I say, look inwards. You can't hide true character with make-up.
What's my counsel?
(1) Pay attention to what happens within you.
(2) Don't resist growth
(3) Don't exalt yourself in ignorance.
(4) Pay attention to how people receive you or hide from you.
(5) Add to your knowledge. Read. Listen. Learn
(6) Be positive
(7) Weigh the effect of your words even when you are under pressure to release them.
( Emulate, model and grow virtues
I see you standing out in your relationship...