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Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Ardar(f): 6:30pm On Jan 07, 2019
Hi everyone,

I have a very serious family problem, my parents decided to take a female relative of ours from our home town to come live with us in Port Harcourt, due to the fact that she couldn't continue with her education and had to learn a skill.

This lady was enrolled in one of these computer centers to at least be a computer literate since non of my family members had the time to teach her and she wanted to learn.

Every morning she goes on an errand for my mom before moving along to learn in the computer center, not knowing she was dating and sleeping with a guy.

My mom never thought she would ever behave in such a stupid way, I mean coming to an unknown place for the first time and already dating a guy within a short period was something my mom never expected.

She got pregnant a month before Christmas, she told no one and waited till we all travelled back home to tell her mother. All of a sudden we started hearing rumors of how the girl we brought back home got pregnant and my mom was to blame for it.

This girls mother took out the all the blame on my mom and not her daughter, this woman said that my mother neglected her daughter to fall prey to men in the city but took care of me because am her own child, till today my mom and the ladies mother are not speaking to each other.

For Christs sake this lady is 26 years old and 4 years away from clocking 30, am younger than the lady and due to my introvert nature i tend to stay indoors and out of trouble not even because of my mom, if I wanted to become wild i would have, a long time ago.

So pls is my mom truly at fault here?

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Graciafr21: 6:34pm On Jan 07, 2019
Is not your mom fault because she sleep with the guy and your mo doesn't know about it. she know what she is doing and keep continue until she got pregnant. so don't worry about that my dear, is not your mom fault.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by sinaj(f): 6:35pm On Jan 07, 2019
Did your mum arrange any man or drugged her into sleeping with any man?

If no, then your mum is not to be blamed.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Ardar(f): 6:35pm On Jan 07, 2019
Graciafr21:
Is not your mom fault because she sleep with the guy and your mo doesn't know about it. she know what she is doing and keep continue until she got pregnant. so don't worry about that my dear, is not your mom fault.
Thank you, the family of the lady doesn't agree though.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by chymer(m): 6:36pm On Jan 07, 2019
Is your mom, wrong?

Now, go back and re-read what you wrote up there, and answer that question, yourself.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Ardar(f): 6:38pm On Jan 07, 2019
chymer:
Is your mom, wrong?

Now, go back and re-read what you wrote up there, and answer that question, yourself.

I strongly believe she is not, but this matter is so serious that a family meeting had to be called.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by CreepyBlackpool: 6:38pm On Jan 07, 2019
The lady and her mother are mad like really mad, very very mad, like super mad, terribly mad, like high level madness, customised madness, HD madness, Superior quality madness, highly durable madness angry

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Ardar(f): 6:39pm On Jan 07, 2019
CreepyBlackpool:
The lady and her mother are mad like really mad, very very mad, like super mad, terribly mad, like high level madness, customised madness, HD madness, Superior quality madness, highly durable madness angry

Lol, they are mad indeed.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Ardar(f): 6:43pm On Jan 07, 2019
You know the worst part is that the guy that got her pregnant is even a friend to my mom.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by NOC1(m): 6:45pm On Jan 07, 2019
CreepyBlackpool:
The lady and her mother are mad like really mad, very very mad, like super mad, terribly mad, like high level madness, customised madness, HD madness, Superior quality madness, highly durable madness angry

And i said they are mad, mader than the madest, that is to say they sophisticated mad, analog and digitally mad.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by babyfaceafrica: 6:50pm On Jan 07, 2019
this is what happens when you bring relatives to the house....people don't appreciate good gestures!!!..and I think your mum is too nice anyone that try such with me will see fire,both the gal and her mum...family nansense!!

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Ishilove: 6:51pm On Jan 07, 2019
Her family are very stupid. All of them are mad. So your mum should tie the legs of a 26year old woman together?

I kuku trust my mum. Nobody can try this rubbish with her.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by EbukaHades10(m): 6:57pm On Jan 07, 2019
Mummy Ebuka wey no dey collect nonsense.

The one that stayed with us was sent back to the village when she begin dey show signs of waywardness.

In Mummy Ebuka's words,"if u want to be wayward,go and be wayward where ur parents can see u"

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Abortions: 7:09pm On Jan 07, 2019
Graciafr21:
Is not your mom fault because she sleep with the guy and your mo doesn't know about it. she know what she is doing and keep continue until she got pregnant. so don't worry about that my dear, is not your mom fault.
i don't like the kind of English u speak these days. Which one be KEEP CONTINUE

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by panini(m): 7:38pm On Jan 07, 2019
May we not help the wrong people this 2019!

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by sukerefakere(m): 10:28pm On Jan 07, 2019
embarassed
Ardar:
You know the worst part is that the guy that got her pregnant is even a friend to my mom.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Rosarie(f): 7:52am On Jan 08, 2019
My dear the one I saw growing up made me vow never ever to carry family relative to stay with me.they always end up been ungrateful.no matter what u do.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by thorpido(m): 12:14pm On Jan 08, 2019
Not exactly your mom's fault but if you bring a girl from the village to stay with you,you should have spent time educating and counselling her.
The moment you notice anyhow waka,you put her on the next night bus. angry

Boys for city tear eye and 'bush meat' dey quick fall.

The milk is spilt and there is little you can do now.Your mom has to take part of the blame.When someone is staying with you,you are responsible for that person's care and guide.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by earthsync(f): 12:22pm On Jan 08, 2019
The girl and her mother are to be blamed. She's an adult for Christ sake. She dey see man she nor tell anybody, carry belle she nor tell anybody, she reach house con tell mama, mama con dey vex undecided the gal should just go and meet the man she was seeing that's if that one agrees to take responsibility if not OYO be her case

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by meelorlah(f): 12:48pm On Jan 08, 2019
A 26 year old lady is not a kid in any way, village girl or no village girl. The lady and her mother are just useless.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Ishilove: 3:04pm On Jan 08, 2019
thorpido:
Not exactly your mom's fault but if you bring a girl from the village to stay with you,you should have spent time educating and counselling her.
The moment you notice anyhow waka,you put her on the next night bus. angry

Boys for city tear eye and 'bush meat' dey quick fall.

The milk is spilt and there is little you can do now.Your mom has to take part of the blame.When someone is staying with you,you are responsible for that person's care and guide.
The lady is TWENTY SIX, not SIXTEEN. A lot of her peers are married with kids at that age. Which counseling do you want to give a grown ass woman that her own mum has not already given her?? They sent her to computer school but the aunty carried her two left legs to waka iranu waka, and got pregnant in the process.

The lady is already spoilt rotten from the 'village' and is solely responsible for her own actions.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by thorpido(m): 3:26pm On Jan 08, 2019
Ishilove:

The lady is TWENTY SIX, not SIXTEEN. A lot of her peers are married with kids at that age. Which counseling do you want to give a grown ass woman that her own mum has not already given her?? They sent her to computer school but the aunty carried her two left legs to waka iranu waka, and got pregnant in the process.

The lady is already spoilt rotten from the 'village' and is solely responsible for her own actions.
I agree she's matured enough but still not too old to be guided.
The moment you come under my roof,you become my responsibility and I would be involved in your lifestyle somehow.
If I see you show signs of waywardness,I'll call your parents/guardian and inform them you are coming back.
I agree some village girls can be spoilt rotten but remember she didn't get pregnant in the village.She probably didn't have the freedom she's had in the city.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Ishilove: 3:30pm On Jan 08, 2019
thorpido:
I agree she's matured enough but still not too old to be guided.
The moment you come under my roof,you become my responsibility and I would be involved in your lifestyle somehow.
If I see you show signs of waywardness,I'll call your parents/gaurdian and inform them you are coming back.
I agree some village girls can be spoilt rotten but remember she didn't get pregnant in the village.She probably didn't have the freedom she's had in the city.
She was sent to school and there is no way they can monitor her from home to school and back. Her guardians felt she was going to school, not going to collect deek.

From the narrative, she was able to conceal her wayward lifestyle perfectly while still collecting the deek. This shows planning. It also shows that the lady knew exactly what she was doing.

I still reiterate that the 26 year old woman and her mother are idiots, the mother especially. She is blaming someone else for the actions of her wayward and irresponsible daughter. A daughter that is of marriageable age o. Mscheeew

Op's mother is too nice. Lord knows you can't try this with my mum.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by slawomir: 3:38pm On Jan 08, 2019
Isoright

Nor insult me

But my mind dey tell me say you self go also carry belle
Ask me why
Because you nor dey talk. An introvert
Fear them
Introvert spoil die

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by ishowdotgmail(m): 3:39pm On Jan 08, 2019
Dt girl av bn jumping on various preeq right from her place before joining you people.


Some girls no dey use eyes see guys trouser, the areola of their nipple go don dey red and comot water cos of banging grin

Much observation no go kill me

Op just checked your dp, you are not bad. Am an introvert too, let's compliment each other.

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Jh0wsef(m): 3:40pm On Jan 08, 2019
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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Aieboocaar(m): 3:41pm On Jan 08, 2019

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Dandsome: 3:41pm On Jan 08, 2019
Stubborn fly follows the corpse to the grave.

Dog wey go lost go lost. Nothing you fit do to stop am.

Lesson learnt is, never you help these village people. They are always never grateful no matter what

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by bigtt76(f): 3:42pm On Jan 08, 2019
Your mother is at fault here ...she shouldn't have extended a hand of relief to the 26 year old girl and avoid all of these undecided


Ardar:
Hi everyone,

I have a very serious family problem, my parents decided to take a female relative of ours from our home town to come live with us in Port Harcourt, due to the fact that she couldn't continue with her education and had to learn a skill.

This lady was enrolled in one of these computer centers to at least be a computer literate since non of my family members had the time to teach her and she wanted to learn.

Every morning she goes on an errand for my mom before moving along to learn in the computer center, not knowing she was dating and sleeping with a guy.

My mom never thought she would ever behave in such a stupid way, I mean coming to an unknown place for the first time and already dating a guy within a short period was something my mom never expected.

She got pregnant a month before Christmas, she told no one and waited till we all travelled back home to tell her mother. All of a sudden we started hearing rumors of how the girl we brought back home got pregnant and my mom was to blame for it.

This girls mother took out the all the blame on my mom and not her daughter, this woman said that my mother neglected her daughter to fall prey to men in the city but took care of me because am her own child, till today my mom and the ladies mother are not speaking to each other.

For Christs sake this lady is 26 years old and 4 years away from clocking 30, am younger than the lady and due to my introvert nature i tend to stay indoors and out of trouble not even because of my mom, if I wanted to become wild i would have, a long time ago.

So pls is my mom truly at fault here?

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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by Jh0wsef(m): 3:42pm On Jan 08, 2019
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Re: Is My Mom To Blame For The Irresponsibility Of A 26 Year Old lady? by remiopash: 3:42pm On Jan 08, 2019
26 years old?? When she was collecting preeq, did she tell anyone?They should just organise her wedding and let her go and be chopping preeq as she wishes...

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