This is the true story of my right hand man.
He has been dating a girl for some months, they have even gone to see the parents of themselves at different occassions. They are already planning to settle down soon.

Few days ago, my guy decided to propose to the girl on her birthday possibly as a surprise package and to make a love history.

Eventually, the lady said yes and happily received the ring with hugs and smiles, while onlookers at the suya joint were busy taking pictures/videos and while also yelling for fun.
I saw everything happened tho...

At the end, the lady told my friend: "we are not posting the pictures and the videos online right now, until two months to our wedding".

My guy got heart broken and afterwards accused the girl of 3 possible things: 1. keeping secret relationships or 2. maybe doesn't love her or 3. still being hunted by her bad pasts?

As for me, i have been trying to persuade him to continue the relationship or maybe give the girl more time... Though the relationship is now complicated with issues aince that moment...

What can you say about this?

Do you think the girl is still cheating on him or she doesn't love him enough to proudly flaunt him to the world to see?

Or will you advice my guy to continue the relationship or give her more time?

Some people don't just like the public attention.

Mikora:
Some people don't just like the public attention.

This aint fiction... I witnessed it

Public attention, very bad.

Well, did she at least update her relationship status to "Engaged"?
Not everyone likes to share every aspect of their lives with "friends" on social media. Some of them are true friends & some are just surveillance cameras, strategically placed there to monitor your every move. I personally find nothing suspicious about this, unless she has a history of cheating.

JasonScoolari:
So because she told your friend not to post the videos and photos for now, that classify her as a cheat abi?

Help us tell that your friend that he's dumb and God bless you as you tell him.

Lol.. Noted... But you are monocentric in your thoughts... Think the other way around..

She just might want to keep it out of public knowledge for now...........
BTW how can you propose to a girl you without proper background checks about her loyalty and faithfulness

XhosaNostra:
Well, did she at least update her relationship status to "Engaged"?
Not everyone likes to share every aspect of their lives with "friends" on social media. Some of them are true friends & some are just surveillance cameras, strategically placed there to monitor your every move. I personally find nothing suspicious about this, unless she has a history of cheating.

You are right.. On point, but letting the world to know that you have been proposed to as a lady can chase away some toasters and also indicate some level of seriousness in the lady...

You need to know the modern game-of relationships...

PediakAuthor:


Lol.. Noted... But you are monocentric in your thoughts... Think the other way around..

Wait a minute bro, this one you're telling me to think the other way around, it seems you're the guy.

Truth is, some people don't like to share everything about them on social media, be happy you've that type of lady, you shouldn't be heartbroken.

JasonScoolari:
Wait a minute bro, this one you're telling me to think the other way around, it seems you're the guy.

Truth is, some people don't like to share everything about them on social media, be happy you've that type of lady, you shouldn't be heartbroken.

Lolzz... I said my right hand man.. He's here with me .. Reading your comments and just laughing...

Lol

She is very smart, and ain't counting her eggs before they are born.
So what happens if he breaks the Engagement after the whole publicity ?

Some guys are actually crazy. Before you propose to a girl make sure all plans/arrangements have been made for marriage. You don't just propose out of emotions or insecurity. She has a life, why will she allow a guy that has not make plans for wedding to post her engagement pictures on social media, does he want to turn her to lord of the ring?

The girl is wise and mature, your friend is still a small boy in mind. I have a close friend that a guy did that to, that chased all eligible guys away from her and over one year and 6 months, marriage is still not in view. how can a guy propose and your friends and family ask you when is the wedding date and you say you don't know. That can be very embarrassing.

She acted the way she did because she is not seeing the readiness to get married from your friend.

PediakAuthor:


Lolzz... I said my right hand man.. He's here with me .. Reading your comments and just laughing...

Lol

Aaaaahhh!!!


Egbòn, please go on with the wedding plans, she's a very wise lady. She has seen what you're yet to see. So many haters and daughters of Jeezebel might want to perform their enterprise, but your woman is smart.

PediakAuthor:


Lolzz... I said my right hand man.. He's here with me .. Reading your comments and just laughing...

Lol

You know how women are this days, she might just be asking for time to discharge the other assistant boyfriends.
If your cool with that go along.

I think tho that as guys its smarter for another party to post the pics and video and claim ignorance, tag her and all.

That way your right hand guy didn't post the pic and he puts his mind at rest.

Its better to be sure than have doubts, cause this is the beginning of marriages and am sure you guy subconsciously knows why he feels this is a big deal.

Besides is she the type that is private on social media or is this behavior wholely uncharacteristic?

Bj5all:
Some guys are actually crazy. Before you propose to a girl make sure all plans/arrangements have been made for marriage. You don't just propose out of emotions or insecurity. She has a life, why will she allow a guy that has not make plans for wedding to post her engagement pictures on social media, does he want to turn her to lord of the ring?

The girl is wise and mature, your friend is still a small boy in mind. I have a close friend that a guy did that to, that chased all eligible guys away from her and over one year and 6 months, marriage is still not in view. how can a guy propose and your friends and family ask you when is the wedding date and you say you don't know. That can be very embarrassing.

She acted the way she did because she is not seeing the readiness to get married from your friend.

Weldone...
You sounded like a person who bags a professorship in marriage counselling...

Kudos... Lmaoo tho...

Dami12345:


You know how women are this days, she might just be asking for time to discharge the other assistant boyfriends.
If your cool with that go along.

I think tho that as guys its smarter for another party to post the pics and video and claim ignorance, tag her and all.

That way your right hand guy didn't post the pic and he puts his mind at rest.

Its better to be sure than have doubts, cause this is the beginning of marriages and am sure you guy subconsciously knows why he feels this is a big deal.

Besides is she the type that is private on social media or is this behavior wholely uncharacteristic?

I will give you 10/10 for this comment.. Most especially your first paragraph... Assistant boyfriends... Lol

At least, if doesn't want pics on social media, make sure your family and her family are aware of the upcoming wedding.

Martinez19:
At least, if doesn't want pics on social media, make sure your family and her family are aware of the upcoming wedding.

That's still a secret relationship... I believe true lovers should be able to tell the world about their new status ... Being engaged...

Thats how people end up raising children that aint theirs.



DNA test should be free in Nigeria

Some ladies actually love their privacy, I for one. I got engaged sometime in the first quarter of 2018, lai lai, one picture, I no post on social media. Only our close friends and family knew. Most people that saw few pictures where I was wearing my ring much later in the year thought it was a recent stuff. Infact, from the outset, my husband always knew I wanted a very private proposal and he did just that. Up until today, we are not friends on facebook and we enjoy it that way. Yet, our fingerprints can open our phones anytime and access is free between us. Few weeks ago, we had our traditional marriage, and it was just family and VERY VERY few friends in attendance. We were tagged by some friends on facebook for some of our pictures independently, well yeah, that's okay. I simply react to the ones I was tagged in. But we didnt post shit, just changed our profile pictures and few whatsapp status intermittently and replied some congratulatory messages we could independently and apologize for not sending out invitations for people who felt slighted.
Some of us prefer keeping our private lives private! Maybe his lady is one of us!
Cheers!

XhosaNostra:
Well, did she at least update her relationship status to "Engaged"?
Not everyone likes to share every aspect of their lives with "friends" on social media. Some of them are true friends & some are just surveillance cameras, strategically placed there to monitor your every move. I personally find nothing suspicious about this, unless she has a history of cheating.

engaged means nothing. If she's seeing another guy then two of them might be thinking the "engaged" is meant for them. So putting engaged is not enough to convince me if I were the guy.....

The girl did well by not allowing him to post that online. A guy can just engaged u to make u chase away other suitors and make u solely his while it last. Jealous guys can do that, then after wasting ur time and destroying ur puanny he will take a bow and leave and there's nothing u can do because engagement is different from marriage. He can give anything as reason for leaving u and there's nothing anybody can do about it... instead u as a girl will take the whole blame for allowing urself to be devoured by a man for years in the name of engagement or hope of getting married to him.

PediakAuthor:


That's still a secret relationship... I believe true lovers should be able to tell the world about their new status ... Being engaged...

Tell Your Guy To Tell The Girl She Should Change Her Relationship Status To Engaged If She Do So Assurance Grant...

Chikabel:
Some ladies actually love their privacy, I for one. I got engaged sometime in the first quarter of 2018, lai lai, one picture, I no post on social media. Only our close friends and family knew. Most people that saw few pictures where I was wearing my ring much later in the year thought it was a recent stuff. Infact, from the outset, my husband always knew I wanted a very private proposal and he did just that. Up until today, we are not friends on facebook and we enjoy it that way. Yet, our fingerprints can open our phones anytime and access is free between us. Few weeks ago, we had our traditional marriage, and it was just family and VERY VERY few friends in attendance. We were tagged by some friends on facebook for some of our pictures independently, well yeah, that's okay. I simply react to the ones I was tagged in. But we didnt post shit, just changed our profile pictures and few whatsapp status intermittently and replied some congratulatory messages we could independently and apologize for not sending out invitations for people who felt slighted.
Some of us prefer keeping our private lives private! Maybe his lady is one of us!
Cheers!

Girls Like You Are Very Rare To See...

Well I've seen a friend of mine take down her engagement photos,when the question got too much, deleted her FB account....so I think she's just been cautious

There are people who like privacy ok!!

Do you even understand English?

PediakAuthor:


This aint fiction... I witnessed it

Mankosi:
The girl did well by not allowing him to post that online. A guy can just engaged u to make u chase away other suitors and make u solely his while it last. Jealous guys can do that, then after wasting ur time and destroying ur puanny he will take a bow and leave and there's nothing u can do because engagement is different from marriage. He can give anything as reason for leaving u and there's nothing anybody can do about it... instead u as a girl will take the whole blame for allowing urself to be devoured by a man for years in the name of engagement or hope of getting married to him.

Bro... Your opinionated idea is just one-sided... Abeg.. Take it easy ooo...

What if my guy has a good plan for her but want to test her readiness...? They have both agreed to marry... Even seen themselves parents and others relatives and associates are aware of the relationship...
Get to think of this too... What if the lady is still have secret relationships she's finding hard to let go cos of the benefits or maybe quite uncertain about what tomorrow holds...

You comments is getting us some lol tho... Laughing...

Chikabel:
Some ladies actually love their privacy, I for one. I got engaged sometime in the first quarter of 2018, lai lai, one picture, I no post on social media. Only our close friends and family knew. Most people that saw few pictures where I was wearing my ring much later in the year thought it was a recent stuff. Infact, from the outset, my husband always knew I wanted a very private proposal and he did just that. Up until today, we are not friends on facebook and we enjoy it that way. Yet, our fingerprints can open our phones anytime and access is free between us. Few weeks ago, we had our traditional marriage, and it was just family and VERY VERY few friends in attendance. We were tagged by some friends on facebook for some of our pictures independently, well yeah, that's okay. I simply react to the ones I was tagged in. But we didnt post shit, just changed our profile pictures and few whatsapp status intermittently and replied some congratulatory messages we could independently and apologize for not sending out invitations for people who felt slighted.
Some of us prefer keeping our private lives private! Maybe his lady is one of us!
Cheers!

Sounds like a fairytale, but one that I love.

Iamtosignno:
Tell Your Guy To Tell The Girl She Should Change Her Relationship Status To Engaged If She Do So Assurance Grant...

Let us give her a benefit of doubt, maybe she can do this...

PediakAuthor:


I believe true lovers should be able to tell the world about their new status

I believe true lovers should also post their sex videos online for the world to see. You don't owe the world anything, and believe me, they don't owe you anything either. You are more safer being conservative in Nigeria than the reverse.

Chikabel:
Some ladies actually love their privacy, I for one. I got engaged sometime in the first quarter of 2018, lai lai, one picture, I no post on social media. Only our close friends and family knew. Most people that saw few pictures where I was wearing my ring much later in the year thought it was a recent stuff. Infact, from the outset, my husband always knew I wanted a very private proposal and he did just that. Up until today, we are not friends on facebook and we enjoy it that way. Yet, our fingerprints can open our phones anytime and access is free between us. Few weeks ago, we had our traditional marriage, and it was just family and VERY VERY few friends in attendance. We were tagged by some friends on facebook for some of our pictures independently, well yeah, that's okay. I simply react to the ones I was tagged in. But we didnt post shit, just changed our profile pictures and few whatsapp status intermittently and replied some congratulatory messages we could independently and apologize for not sending out invitations for people who felt slighted.
Some of us prefer keeping our private lives private! Maybe his lady is one of us!
Cheers!

Why the extreme privacy
Let me make some assumptions here...
Its either the past is hunting you or your hubby has a past he is hidding too... You wanna hide your marriage from your previous exes... I guess... Im still trying to figure out the reason for the extreme privacy...
Why should you also hide your wedding ceremony from the world, except you dont have the capacity to contain and cater for them... But if its privacy, the world should know your new status, yet without too much noise...

Mind u, it will be very easy for u to double date even before you marry if you dont portray the picture that you are already taken...

Bad guys still follow up and woo ladies with rings in their hands talk less of the ones without rings... Yet claiming a relationship