Jaqenhghar:

Suddenly I feel sorry for the lady. He seems like a drama queen. When has posting pictures been evidence of loyalty

Lol, maybe there's more to the story. Perhaps she has a history with being a liar.

XhosaNostra:



Lol, maybe there's more to the story. Perhaps she has a history with being a liar.

I dont think so. For some people it means a lot to them publicizing their relationships and if the other person doesnt feel the same way ....... I dont think he should read too much into it

Jaqenhghar:

I dont think so. For some people it means a lot to them publicizing their relationships and if the other person doesnt feel the same way ....... I dont think he should read too much into it

True. Well, some people have trust issues for very valid reasons. If she has nothing to hide, she should at least meet him halfway. I think they need a sit down. I personally don't like it when someone is flippant to my feelings. Work with me. Because those nagging doubts don't go away all on their own. They need reassurance lol. I understand both sides. They need to communicate more, I think.

Bj5all:
Some guys are actually crazy. Before you propose to a girl make sure all plans/arrangements have been made for marriage. You don't just propose out of emotions or insecurity. She has a life, why will she allow a guy that has not make plans for wedding to post her engagement pictures on social media, does he want to turn her to lord of the ring?

The girl is wise and mature, your friend is still a small boy in mind. I have a close friend that a guy did that to, that chased all eligible guys away from her and over one year and 6 months, marriage is still not in view. how can a guy propose and your friends and family ask you when is the wedding date and you say you don't know. That can be very embarrassing.

She acted the way she did because she is not seeing the readiness to get married from your friend.

My thought as well, he wan tie the babe down just like that, Haba! The babe to have other serious suitors so she dont want loose on both sides just lije that.

PediakAuthor:
This is the true story of my right hand man.
He has been dating a girl for some months, they have even gone to see the parents of themselves at different occassions. They are already planning to settle down soon.

Few days ago, my guy decided to propose to the girl on her birthday possibly as a surprise package and to make a love history.

Eventually, the lady said yes and happily received the ring with hugs and smiles, while onlookers at the suya joint were busy taking pictures/videos and while also yelling for fun.
I saw everything happened tho...

At the end, the lady told my friend: "we are not posting the pictures and the videos online right now, until two months to our wedding".

My guy got heart broken and afterwards accused the girl of 3 possible things: 1. keeping secret relationships or 2. maybe doesn't love her or 3. still being hunted by her bad pasts?

As for me, i have been trying to persuade him to continue the relationship or maybe give the girl more time... Though the relationship is now complicated with issues aince that moment...

What can you say about this?

Do you think the girl is still cheating on him or she doesn't love him enough to proudly flaunt him to the world to see?

Or will you advice my guy to continue the relationship or give her more time?

...They both have trust issues.... One thing that popped into my head when I read her statement is that she doesn't want to count her chicks before they're hatched, she probably doesn't trust your friend 100% to carry out the wedding plans, so she's maybe being extremely careful.. probably due to past experience... buh a question I asked myself is, if that was the case, then why does she want the pictures to be posted two months to the marriage? cause engagement can still scatter one month to the fixed date...



With that, I think there is more to this than wanting privacy or being careful..cause if it were to be a thing of privacy then I think the niggar would have known, they probably dated for awhile so he should know what kind of person she is, if she's the type that likes privacy or the opposite....



Well, what I will say is, do not pressure him to go on with the marriage plans though, don't rush them... he shouldn't rule her out just because of mere assumptions, he should at least give her the benefit of a doubt.. Both of them should sit down and trash out their trust issues...then they can talk about getting married...

PediakAuthor

After reading this thread. I can see the ladies are battering you into believing the privacy shit.

I'll tell you a few things.
Privacy is alien to women. Everything about women is to catch attention. They pick usernames for forums. We just go with whatever.
They spend hours on clothes we wear standard clothing.
They Bragg about relationship and love celebration. Parties. Birthdays, and God weddings how they love weddings.

Now you will agree with me that 90% of all Nigerian girls are whores. If you didn't meet her a virgin, the milage is not estimatable.

Does it surprise you that most niaraland girls want privacy.

Let's put it on a scale by advantages and dis.

Let's assume she's a private person, a few pictures up, some congratulates, from old friends e.t.c.
More gifts, generally the things women like.
How does this hurt anyone exactly?

The other side is she's a LovePeddler. She doesn't want the curtian to blow until its too late.
She may have other guys processed or under process.
She might even be engaged or someone else on her social life, or be promising the same thing to 10 different guys.

Worst of all is that she doesn't take your guy seriously, she doesn't care for the marriage, what girl doesn't show off?

If she was marrying bill gates wouldn't she? Or daviodo or one of those idols?.


The true is its more logical to conclude she has something to hide than privacy crap.

To assure her man that she is in this relationship for better/worse she should be willing to be proud of it.
However, if she values privacy more than this, then you should know that relationship has always been a sham.

Anyways you are the one who can study her best, ask for some help from friends, guys to test her, go through her life, cause marriage will cost you more in money and pride if you find out she's hiding stuff. And when women hide stuff( it always shocks and shakes the roof).

Dami12345:
PediakAuthor

After reading this thread. I can see the ladies are battering you into believing the privacy shit.

I'll tell you a few things.
Privacy is alien to women. Everything about women is to catch attention. They pick usernames for forums. We just go with whatever.
They spend hours on clothes we wear standard clothing.
They Bragg about relationship and love celebration. Parties. Birthdays, and God weddings how they love weddings.

Now you will agree with me that 90% of all Nigerian girls are whores. If you didn't meet her a virgin, the milage is not estimatable.

Does it surprise you that most niaraland girls want privacy.

Let's put it on a scale by advantages and dis.

Let's assume she's a private person, a few pictures up, some congratulates, from old friends e.t.c.
More gifts, generally the things women like.
How does this hurt anyone exactly?

The other side is she's a LovePeddler. She doesn't want the curtian to blow until its too late.
She may have other guys processed or under process.
She might even be engaged or someone else on her social life, or be promising the same thing to 10 different guys.

Worst of all is that she doesn't take your guy seriously, she doesn't care for the marriage, what girl doesn't show off?

If she was marrying bill gates wouldn't she? Or daviodo or one of those idols?.


The true is its more logical to conclude she has something to hide than privacy crap.

To assure her man that she is in this relationship for better/worse she should be willing to be proud of it.
However, if she values privacy more than this, then you should know that relationship has always been a sham.

Anyways you are the one who can study her best, ask for some help from friends, guys to test her, go through her life, cause marriage will cost you more in money and pride if you find out she's hiding stuff. And when women hide stuff( it always shocks and shakes the roof).

I will have to give you 10/10 for this comments of yours. Kudos.
You are very practical and quite objective in your points.
I also love the part when you mentioned "mileage" lolzzzzzzzzzzzzz
However, the relationship in question is already a thing of the past. They have officially broken up...

PediakAuthor:



I will have to give you 10/10 for this comments of yours. Kudos.
You are very practical and quite objective in your points.
I also love the part when you mentioned "mileage" lolzzzzzzzzzzzzz
However, the relationship in question is already a thing of the past. They have officially broken up...

He broke things up with her?
What happened, did some hidden shit come out?
What lead to this?

For the sake of the institutional of marriage this your narration is a facade. You are not more private than a lot of us. There’s more to say but I won’t jump the gun but deep inside you am sure you know there’s more to why you’d go private on a union you claim to cherish to the extent posting a single pix to celebrate that is repulsive yet you have SM accounts.

Anyway HML, like they said one man’s meat is another’s poison.

Chikabel:
Some ladies actually love their privacy, I for one. I got engaged sometime in the first quarter of 2018, lai lai, one picture, I no post on social media. Only our close friends and family knew. Most people that saw few pictures where I was wearing my ring much later in the year thought it was a recent stuff. Infact, from the outset, my husband always knew I wanted a very private proposal and he did just that. Up until today, we are not friends on facebook and we enjoy it that way. Yet, our fingerprints can open our phones anytime and access is free between us. Few weeks ago, we had our traditional marriage, and it was just family and VERY VERY few friends in attendance. We were tagged by some friends on facebook for some of our pictures independently, well yeah, that's okay. I simply react to the ones I was tagged in. But we didnt post shit, just changed our profile pictures and few whatsapp status intermittently and replied some congratulatory messages we could independently and apologize for not sending out invitations for people who felt slighted.
Some of us prefer keeping our private lives private! Maybe his lady is one of us!
Cheers!

But if the guy bot her a Benz now there’s no need to be conservative about posting it online ba ?

Admin401:
I believe true lovers should also post their sex videos online for the world to see. You don't owe the world anything, and believe me, they don't owe you anything either. You are more safer being conservative in Nigeria than the reverse.

Why own a SM account then ? If it was a Benz he bought would your narrative remain as private as finding it difficult to share a single pix of your engagement on your SM media account. I tot only your friends and family are suppose to be on it ?What is the noise about personal SM account being so public ?

Ishilove:

You sound so unbelievably naive, it's almost cute.

Personally, I am a very private person and hate being the center of attraction, and I know there are so many like us out there. People need to learn that there was life before soclai media and not everything should be out there. If you like living a noisy life all when and good, but learn to respect other people's desire to keep a low profile. This is where your man is getting it wrong and he may lose a good girl because of his myopia.

Most of our parents did not do public proposals and all that modern day bullchit and they have had successful marriages. All these noisiness is a 21st century trend which is not edifying, except to people you want to entertain with all that unnecessary display; people who will still whisper behind their fingers -"I hope the marriage will last after all these feferity."

that's should not cause problem is just matter of understanding the girl in quote have her reasons for saying that let the guy asked her her reasons instead of picking up anger.
in fact village people may start to plan there own the girl is right in a way

Parada:
Why own a SM account then ? If it was a Benz he bought would your narrative remain as private as finding it difficult to share a single pix of your engagement on your SM media account. I tot only your friends and family are suppose to be on it ?What is the noise about personal SM account being so public ?

Lol.. you are very correct Sir...

propose to them with a benz, they gonna flaunt it on SM, but propose with a hug, my brother you are on your own... where is true love in this cyber age...? meanwhile, most of the girls of this generation are influence by what they see online and also influence by other popular media...

Parada:
But if the guy bot her a Benz now there’s no need to be conservative about posting it online ba ?

Don't mind the guys defending such an attitude...

it is good for us to be practical in such a discourse... you are on point my brother....