How terrible is a wife who demands permission before a man could help his family members. A mother who toiled and gave birth to your husband can not get common bag of rice without seeking a permission or telling you about it. Why need unnecessary permission for his own family?

So that they can help u plan how e go quick finish, in a matter of seconds

I don't think its permission we need but nothing wrong in discussing with your wife for better planning you know two good heads are better than one

marvel2011:
How terrible is a wife who demands permission before a man could help his family members. A mother who toiled and gave birth to your husband can not get common bag of rice without seeking a permission or telling you about it. Why need unnecessary permission for his own family?

its respecting each other, and being a bit open

by nature his father should look after his mum/family, those who havent stood up on their own

the moment you marry your priority is your wife and kids but if you have been open to each other on how hard are things from your respective families, you must come with a plan in helping either families not by sneaking behind each other's back becoz it create mistrust


but by understanding each families struggle and finding a way how you can help without compromising your family budget needs and wants

both family might feel that you took away a helper his family claim his salary has his and your family as the wife claim the same on salary in that situation either in-law take you as an enemy who is controlling or taking the money they used to get

so seeking permission is also a way of asking your wife or husband if there are any other plans s/he has before you send the money to help

eg husband has 1000 and wife knows, hubby want send 500 to his parents, hubby has to ask wife if its ok to send the 500 becoz wife might have other plans

if you are married you longer have that mind set if thinking and making decision get your wife/husband involved whether s/he will disagree or not it doesnt matter

One thing you got to know about women is they like to be in charge if you let them, so it depends on how the woman sees you, if she sees you as someone who can't stand on his feet without trembling, she's going to manipulate you as much as she pleases. Don't even ask her opinion about it, just do what you are certain is right, she's going to respect you and your decisions.