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Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Cathyblinks: 11:49pm On Feb 17, 2019
Hello guys, please I need your help, this year I will be 29 and still single, worse still, is I do not have a steady job. I just do freelance website design.

I am also an introvert who hates going out so much... Problem is the kind of guys that approaches me are mostly sex freaks.
I want a guy who is a techie, a software designer or something close.


Tired of all of these testoterone driven men without visions or focus. I really want to be married this year.
One annoying thing is that, most men who gets attracted to me are married. It still baffles me why? Honestly, my early childhood its been like that. I just need help on what to do.
**please be nice.
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Slynation(m): 11:59pm On Feb 17, 2019
You have to free yourself from yourself.....!!
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Cathyblinks: 12:02am On Feb 18, 2019
Slynation:
You have to free yourself from yourself.....!!


How do I do this? Its really difficult finding men that suits your personality.
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Teaveapoet(f): 12:23am On Feb 18, 2019
please dress well and go out.... take your self out. please go out!!! if possible make your movement on the island.

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Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Cathyblinks: 12:24am On Feb 18, 2019
Teaveapoet:
please dress well and go out.... take your self out. please go out!!! if possible make your movement on the island.

Thanks dear.

Living in Abuja.... The issue is I am an introvert, its exhausting going out...

I prefer to be indoors operating my system than going out....
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Teaveapoet(f): 12:27am On Feb 18, 2019
Cathyblinks:


Living in Abuja.

okay.
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Slynation(m): 12:33am On Feb 18, 2019
Cathyblinks:



How do I do this? Its really difficult finding men that suits your personality.
What kinda personality is that, it's possible to change a man to suit your personality....
Anyway i don't know your mindset, but something tells me u already gat the notion all men are coming to you just for sex, I might be wrong tho, A man that will stay will stay, whether sex or not, Buh while considering advances from men, consider only those that are ready to settle down, u may know this from the kinda conservation u always had.....

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Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Nobody: 12:40am On Feb 18, 2019
Sincere guys are hard to come by and if u restrict ur choice of men to just tech gurus trust me u may just be complicating issues. I will advise if a cool guy comes around who does not necessarily have to be a tech guru come by u should give him the chance.
Being an introvert sometimes has disadvantages....get urself loosed from this shackles....join unit in ur church preferably ushering (trust me this unit puts u in a hot-spot) n take Time to mingle with friends. As for what u do as a freelancer I have seen people that earn very well with the kind of skill u got... Just keep developing on urself n promoting ur gigs

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Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Cathyblinks: 12:58am On Feb 18, 2019
Slynation:

What kinda personality is that, it's possible to change a man to suit your personality....
Anyway i don't know your mindset, but something tells me u already gat the notion all men are coming to you just for sex, I might be wrong tho, A man that will stay will stay, whether sex or not, Buh while considering advances from men, consider only those that are ready to settle down, u may know this from the kinda conservation u always had.....


Honestly, I do have that mindset. This is because 98% of them if not all of them who have approached me drive towards that direction.

I had an experience here on nairaland. A few years ago, I just wanted to mingle and got connected with a nairalander here. We got talking and I really thought he was serious only for him to vanish into thing air after we had sex... Cos he is not based here. No calls, nothing at all after 3 years, he surfaced again, saying I was special and all that pep talk. He wanted to see me and I agreed to see him. Guess what? He wanted another sex romp. 3 consecutive times and I refused him. The funniest act he displayed was, anytime I leave his place to my house, he doesn't bother to call to know if I arrived safely or not..

Now he has returned and communication has stopped. Can u imagine that. I knew it wasn't real but was just giving him benefits of doubt.


Now I am becoming more and more withdrawn than ever.
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Cathyblinks: 12:59am On Feb 18, 2019
Nyerhovwo101:
Sincere guys are hard to come by and if u restrict ur choice of men to just tech gurus trust me u may just be complicating issues. I will advise if a cool guy comes around who does not necessarily have to be a tech guru come by u should give him the chance.
Being an introvert sometimes has disadvantages....get urself loosed from this shackles....join unit in ur church preferably ushering (trust me this unit puts u in a hot-spot) n take Time to mingle with friends. As for what u do as a freelancer I have seen people that earn very well with the kind of skill u got... Just keep developing on urself n promoting ur gigs

Thanks for the advice. I really do appreciate.
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by PMBuhariGCFR: 1:00am On Feb 18, 2019
Vote for me on Saturday or you die single. Thankyou.
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Cathyblinks: 1:02am On Feb 18, 2019
[quote author=PMBuhariGCFR post=75841570]Vote for me on Saturday or you die single. Thankyou.[/quote
Dude get sense na!
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by zeestone99(m): 1:16am On Feb 18, 2019
Cathyblinks:



Honestly, I do have that mindset. This is because 98% of them if not all of them who have approached me drive towards that direction.

I had an experience here on nairaland. A few years ago, I just wanted to mingle and got connected with a nairalander here. We got talking and I really thought he was serious only for him to vanish into thing air after we had sex... Cos he is not based here. No calls, nothing at all after 3 years, he surfaced again, saying I was special and all that pep talk. He wanted to see me and I agreed to see him. Guess what? He wanted another sex romp. 3 consecutive times and I refused him. The funniest act he displayed was, anytime I leave his place to my house, he doesn't bother to call to know if I arrived safely or not..

Now he has returned and communication has stopped. Can u imagine that. I knew it wasn't real but was just giving him benefits of doubt.


Now I am becoming more and more withdrawn than ever.

Sori babe, jst broaden ur choices, dnt consider only tech.
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Slynation(m): 1:18am On Feb 18, 2019
Cathyblinks:



Honestly, I do have that mindset. This is because 98% of them if not all of them who have approached me drive towards that direction.

I had an experience here on nairaland. A few years ago, I just wanted to mingle and got connected with a nairalander here. We got talking and I really thought he was serious only for him to vanish into thing air after we had sex... Cos he is not based here. No calls, nothing at all after 3 years, he surfaced again, saying I was special and all that pep talk. He wanted to see me and I agreed to see him. Guess what? He wanted another sex romp. 3 consecutive times and I refused him. The funniest act he displayed was, anytime I leave his place to my house, he doesn't bother to call to know if I arrived safely or not..

Now he has returned and communication has stopped. Can u imagine that. I knew it wasn't real but was just giving him benefits of doubt.


Now I am becoming more and more withdrawn than ever.
This is seriously serious.....!!
Men will always be men, I'm no exception, their is absolutely no manual on how to find a good man, just work on yourself, don't be too desperate, the right man will surely come, but u will need to expose yourself more to the environment...
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by unity004(m): 2:10am On Feb 18, 2019
grin that she is 29 and she is desperate to marry this year... am begining to think that is her football age, (u knw this ladies hiding there age, that is how i end up dating some one old enough to be my aunt)

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Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Cathyblinks: 3:20am On Feb 18, 2019
unity004:
grin that she is 29 and she is desperate to marry this year... am begining to think that is her football age, (u knw this ladies hiding there age, that is how i end up dating some one old enough to be my aunt)


What is wrong in being desperate to be married @ 29. You don't know how it feels to see your immediate younger sister get married before u.
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by SmartMindsFx: 4:44am On Feb 18, 2019
Cathyblinks:
Hello guys, please I need your help, this year I will be 29 and still single, worse still, is I do not have a steady job. I just do freelance website design.

I am also an introvert who hates going out so much... Problem is the kind of guys that approaches me are mostly sex freaks.
I want a guy who is a techie, a software designer or something close.


Tired of all of these testoterone driven men without visions or focus. I really want to be married this year.
One annoying thing is that, most men who gets attracted to me are married. It still baffles me why? Honestly, my early childhood its been like that. I just need help on what to do.
**please be nice.
can we get talking?
Wouldn't mind getting close.
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Michelle55: 7:33am On Feb 18, 2019
Relax babe.. Your kinda man will definitely waltz into your life sooner than you expect but before then try to go out and enjoy bliss and peace of mind by yourself. Getting a job should top your list now, your destined man will come along.
NOTE: there's no manual in keeping a man. Just love yourself and keep a neutral mind when it comes to relationships
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Cathyblinks: 8:34am On Feb 18, 2019
[quote author=Michelle55 post=75845057]Relax babe.. Your kinda man will definitely waltz into your life sooner than you expect but before then try to go out and enjoy bliss and peace of mind by yourself. Getting a job should top your list now, your destined man will come along.
NOTE: there's no manual in keeping a man. Just love yourself and keep a neutral mind when it comes to relationships[/quote

Thanks so much @michelle55 I really do appreciate your kind words.
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Michelle55: 9:12am On Feb 18, 2019
[quote author=Cathyblinks post=75846878][/quote]
You are welcome smiley Check your mail.

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Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by okwabayi(m): 10:23am On Feb 18, 2019
So if a man comes by, what difference will it make in your life?
My friend, hustle for a job.
Unserious element.

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Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by DateMynd44(m): 11:16am On Feb 18, 2019
Teaveapoet:
. please dress well and go out.... take your self out. please go out!!! if possible make your movement on the island.
so this is how u desperate hoes be frustrated to the point of just lookin attractive so as to trap rich guys into carrying ur misery and burdens.
E no go work for una this year.
Miserable hoes
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by DateMynd44(m): 11:21am On Feb 18, 2019
okwabayi:
So if a man comes by, what difference will it make in your life?
My friend, hustle for a job.
Unserious element.
she's a lazy hoe that wants to unleash all her burdens and misery to the unlucky guy that'll meet her

She can even go to the extent of using charms on the guy just to hypnotize him as frustrated as she is
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by DateMynd44(m): 11:24am On Feb 18, 2019
Cathyblinks:



What is wrong in being desperate to be married @ 29. You don't know how it feels to see your immediate younger sister get married before u.
shut up there my friend and go get a career and work towards being an independent woman before talking of setting down.
No man wants to settle down with a liability that's why the nairalander u met saw u as a sex object with nothing tangible to offer and he used that to gain undue advantage of u.

Cc apelike apelike1

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Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Cathyblinks: 11:35am On Feb 18, 2019
DateMynd44:
shut up there my friend and go get a career and work towards being an independent woman before talking of setting down.
No man wants to settle down with a liability that's why the nairalander u met saw u as a sex object with nothing tangible to offer and he used that to gain undue advantage of u.

Cc apelike apelike1

Bot: invalid comment.
Me: checked his moniker...
Not: ma'am, not worth your time.
Me: Why?
Bot: He is a slow-punk.
Me: Tell him to shove those words back in. He is spilling poo cause he didn't read the part I said, I do freelance website designs.
Bot: Yes Ma'am. Message delivered.

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Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by apelike1: 11:39am On Feb 18, 2019
DateMynd44:
shut up there my friend and go get a career and work towards being an independent woman before talking of setting down.
No man wants to settle down with a liability that's why the nairalander u met saw u as a sex object with nothing tangible to offer and he used that to gain undue advantage of u.

Cc apelike apelike1
I concur!

When there are Young, you will see them jumping from one diiiiick to another just Baboons but when time is not on there side you will see them in Desperado looking for who to dump there problem on!
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by DateMynd44(m): 11:46am On Feb 18, 2019
Cathyblinks:


Bot: invalid comment.
Me: checked his moniker...
Not: ma'am, not worth your time.
Me: Why?
Bot: He is a slow-punk.
Me: Tell him to shove those words back in. He is spilling poo cause he didn't read the part I said, I do freelance website designs.
Bot: Yes Ma'am. Message delivered.
while your thread title says "I'm 29 without a steady job"
That nairaland fraudster must have dealt u a huge blow chai guys wicked oh.
An advice for u, freelance web design isn't a skill, it's for jobless mofos like u.
go get a career or get a capital and start selling in the market or u go for farming, I think the former suits u better cos from my observation you're a low life.
You're not better than those village girls hustling at traffic lights.
Stop looking for a man to pour it misery on,
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by apelike1: 11:56am On Feb 18, 2019
Michelle55:
Relax babe.. Your kinda man will definitely waltz into your life sooner than you expect but before then try to go out and enjoy bliss and peace of mind by yourself. Getting a job should top your list now, your destined man will come along.
NOTE: there's no manual in keeping a man. Just love yourself and keep a neutral mind when it comes to relationships
just look at this one undecided
"Your kinda man will definitely waltz into your life" undecided
When she is busy fvvcking some other dude!

Let me tell you the truth! She and her kinds deserve nothing better in life because she has already give her destiny away!

You think you can runaway from karma?

Laughing in Spanish
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Cathyblinks: 11:57am On Feb 18, 2019
DateMynd44:
while your thread title says "I'm 29 without a steady job"
That nairaland fraudster must have dealt u a huge blow chai guys wicked oh.
An advice for u, freelance web design isn't a skill, it's for jobless mofos like u.
go get a career or get a capital and start selling in the market or u go for farming, I think the former suits u better cos from my observation you're a low life.
You're not better than those village girls hustling at traffic lights.
Stop looking for a man to pour it misery on,


Bot: Ma'am he just confirmed he is a slow punk.
Me: Disengage.
Bot: But Ma'am!
Me: Don't batter words with him.... You are a high tech machine. Don't! I repeat.
Bot: Sorry ma'am, can I send your portfolio to him.
Me: That will be lowering my standards. Go back and finish your eBook now. Time is of essence.
Bot: yes ma'am. Shutting Down.���
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by DateMynd44(m): 12:05pm On Feb 18, 2019
Cathyblinks:



Bot: Ma'am he just confirmed he is a slow punk.
Me: Disengage.
Bot: But Ma'am!
Me: Don't batter words with him.... You are a high tech machine. Don't! I repeat.
Bot: Sorry ma'am, can I send your portfolio to him.
Me: That will be lowering my standards. Go back and finish your eBook now. Time is of essence.
Bot: yes ma'am. Shutting Down.���
e pain am hehehe jobless Ijaw girl engaging in olosho runs in Abuja
Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by Michelle55: 12:27pm On Feb 18, 2019
apelike1:
just look at this one undecided
"Your kinda man will definitely waltz into your life" undecided
When she is busy fvvcking some other dude!

Let me tell you the truth! She and her kinds deserve nothing better in life because she has already give her destiny away!

You think you can runaway from karma?

Laughing in Spanish
Be laughing at your stupidity.
Oh because she made a mistake of sleeping with an irresponsible being makes her undesirable or what? Why blame her for a sin committed mutually by two people? Or did she sleep with herself? How was she to know that the idiot was nothing but a fvckboy?
You that is sooo righteous, why not be the first to cast the stone.
Mind you if your blood can't wash away her sin then you have no bleeping right to judge her.
Despite whatever decisions or mistakes she has made, she deserves every bit of happiness and a man who will really see her worth.
Now, if you ain't cool with my comment.. Kindly locate the nearest transformer and hug it.
Thank you!

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Re: Please Help! I'm 29 Without A Man Or Steady Job. by apelike1: 12:39pm On Feb 18, 2019
Michelle55:

Be laughing at your stupidity.
Oh because she made a mistake of sleeping with an irresponsible being makes her undesirable or what? Why blame her for a sin committed mutually by two people? Or did she sleep with herself? How was she to know that the idiot was nothing but a fvckboy?
You that is sooo righteous, why not be the first to cast the stone.
Mind you if your blood can't wash away her sin then you have no bleeping right to judge her.
Despite whatever decisions or mistakes she has made, she deserves every bit of happiness and a man who will really see her worth.
Now, if you ain't cool with my comment.. Kindly locate the nearest transformer and hug it.
Thank you!
look at them undecided
Daughter of Jezebel! Always trying to justify there wrong doing!

You are fornicating and engaging in sin but yet want the best things in Life! undecided

Your types achieve nothing meaningful in life! Keep living in your mental paradise

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