She is over 30 years, and still single. Born-Again, gentle, a business lady. Approached for a marriage relationship, and do you know her response; I CAN'T MARRY YOU BECAUSE YOU CAN NOT CARRY MY LOAD.

My question: Is this kind of person really planning to settle in marriage?
What LOAD could she still be talking about in her mid thirties?
How can one help such a lady overcome this kind of mind-set?

Sincere advice are welcome.

She is not in her mid thirties my friend
dont think you are doing her a favour by marrying her because she is thirty

just like you she said, you cant carry the damn load

pls go, vamose and look for someone else

why didn't you ask her what she meant by 'load'?
na from my mouth you hear am abi?
Is the numerous problems of women something new to you?

@poster
bro, she was honest enough to tell you that you were not strong enough to handle such lady. pls quietly leave her alone unless you want to end up looking silly.
now that she has told you that, there is absolutely NO WAY you should continue pursuing her because she could ask you the most stupidest thing and, if you cant provide, she will make a mockery out of you.

poster: baby its your birthday soon, what would you like?!
damsel:  hhmm i think i would like a brand new Jeep for sundays at the beach.
poster: are you out of your mind?! i am already trying my best to satisfy you but you're always asking for more. take am easy.
damsel: foolish man, i told you before you couldnt handle me but you wouldnt listen. . . . .  now shut up, be a man and step up your game or let me go and find some REAL men to date!"

Yeah, i know that some of us may see this as another opportunity to dish out abuse and insult,
but what I am aiming at is how to correct this age long impression by SOME of our Big Girls/babes (btw 30 - 40 yrs),
who do often hurriedly conclude that because a man look either small in physiche, stature, or is not wealthy
it then means that he can not carry their LOAD.

^^^^^^
@ mrbrownjay

I appreciate ur post.

^^^^what you have to understand is that if a woman is not desperate to marry(and has been waiting patiently for MR right) then she will either stick to her guns until he comes along or settle with someone that can carry her load (financially strong).

the fact that you want to stubbornly "get to her" while she sees nothing in you is strange, to say the least. the kind of response she gave you is one that you will never be able to overcome because dating her would mean saying YES to her every demands.i doubt this is the kind of relationship you are looking for?

You're shielding already when no one has dissed you so far. Scared Potter.

Bros, she was speaking yoruba english to you ni o, "Oo le gbe eru mi", or better still, "eru yi le ju e lo" - basically saying, "you can't handle ALL of this" na yab oo  

Rocktation:

You're shielding already when no one has dissed you so far. Scared Potter.

not scared, i only wish the advice will be more that the 'shelling'

Ahem! Bros no vex o, was she just coming from the market with like a bag or something, or is she like VERY FAT   and with big front n back loads.

Pls 4give my innocence peeps,    cheezy lil moi.  Tehehehehe!

Poster,this lady really insulted you.I guess she has access you both physically and financially to determine the kind of person you are.Again,she might think about the spiritually aspect being that she's a born-again christian.I hope you should find out what she meant by that,that's if you are bold enough to approach her again.She might need a born-again christian man .

Poster, tell this to her also 'u cannot withstand my kpekus' *lips sealed*

Omolola1:

Poster, tell this to her also 'u cannot withstand my kpekus' *lips sealed*

haaa -- omololaaaaaaaaa - i thought you were one of the good ones? - Kpekus, lol

Poster,this lady really insulted you.I guess she has access you both physically and financially to determine the kind of person you are.Again,she might think about the spiritually aspect being that she's a born-again christian.I hope you should find out what she meant by that,that's if you are bold enough to approach her again.She might need a born-again christian man .

Have you ever wondered that she may have issues beyong the physical? That load can mean so many things.She don warn you, if you over do your eye go see wahala ooh.It may be more than financial.Maybe a medical problem

"Eru agba ni, ko she gbe fun omode" Even though it is an insult, she could be saying the truth. Move on.

^^^ Ma da OP loun, O fe je eran agba

What load, there goes a fustrated black sister again.

Invalidate this woman. Don't take this talk from any person, she is belittling you.

When a woman says you can't handle me or take my load, put her on the spot, make her feel embarrased.

Tell her next time, " are all women as greedy as you, gold digger!!?" Than change the topic and do not give her issue any more attention. You guide the dialogue about what you want.

Luap were r u from? Good one there

Omolola1:

Poster, tell this to her also 'u cannot withstand my kpekus' *lips sealed*

Lola kpekus na 4 women na,

(Grumblin) my baby don dey spoil~

@POSTER no level na im make the girl disco you

MOBO444:

What load, there goes a fustrated black sister again.

my broda, dat is exactly what I think. which load woman get wey no be man go carry am last
@poster, just   4 the babe. she fit no even get your type again.

luap:

Invalidate this woman.  Don't take this talk from any person, she is belittling you.

which has become a big mistake for many of them.

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
bro, she was honest enough to tell you that you were not strong enough to handle such lady. pls quietly leave her alone unless you want to end up looking silly.
now that she has told you that, there is absolutely NO WAY you should continue pursuing her because she could ask you the most stupidest thing and, if you cant provide, she will make a mockery out of you.

poster: baby its your birthday soon, what would you like?!
damsel:  hhmm i think i would like a brand new Jeep for sundays at the beach.
poster: are you out of your mind?! i am already trying my best to satisfy you but you're always asking for more. take am easy.
damsel: foolish man, i told you before you couldnt handle me but you wouldnt listen. . . . .  now shut up, be a man and step up your game or let me go and find some REAL men to date!"

LOL LOL LOL


@poster: Did this friend of your ever tell you that she wanted to get married or do you think you're just doing her a favor?

Inked_Nerd:

@poster: Did this friend of your ever tell you that she wanted to get married or do you think you're just doing her a favor?

that is the question. most of these ladies are not keen about marriage.

once met a lady too, just 38years old, and when approached for a marriage relationship, she said: I am not interested.
and on further questioning, she said responded: he is not my kind of person. he cant carry my load.

I told my guy He should move on, as for the lady, she may finally get who will be able to carry her load when she is 45/48yrs.

My advice: If a lady (young or old) is fortunate to come across a man who truly loves her but cannot carry her load, she should help him to carry the load now.

Ok so what load are we talking about here? was she referring to the front wheel or back axle?

Poster run away or stay trapped

Omolola1:

Poster, tell this to her also 'u cannot withstand my kpekus' *lips sealed*

lol! bad gyurl, why not perewinkle?

na by force to carry someone's load?

let her be nah.

at least she's honest.

lol, am a gud gurl o! infact i dont even know what it means, true! lol~