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Re: Was I Wrong??. by BronzeMajik(f): 8:04am On Mar 25, 2019
PrimadonnaO:



Please, don't make excuses for your boyfriend. Suffering a heartbreak isn't novelty. That colleague of his is simply a no-gooder. Why run to a man to give you succour? Your boyfriend, on his part, was wrong to have offered her a shoulder to cry on. Things escalate quickly. Doesn't this colleague have sisters or friends? Why did it have to be a colleague who's in a relationship?

Nonsense is nonsense. Stop excusing your boyfriend's actions. He decided to court trouble the day he started indulging her. You did no wrong! You didn't overreact.
kiss thank you very much ma'am, I'm not trying to excuse my boyfriends actions it's the other way round, I knew she was trying to worm her way into his heart with the closeness love texts and all, he was just too sympathetic to tell her off. my worries right now are she might try harder when he goes back to work and I won't be there to put her in her place, I want to be able to focus on my work without getting worked up, I'm seriously thinking of letting him go.

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Re: Was I Wrong??. by BronzeMajik(f): 8:10am On Mar 25, 2019
PrimadonnaO:


Oh, dear... if he had handled it himself, they'd have ended up f*cking.

His telling you became some sort of check...accountability.
Hmmm, from your perspective, I think you're on point.

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Re: Was I Wrong??. by PrimadonnaO(f): 8:37am On Mar 25, 2019
BronzeMajik:
kiss thank you very much ma'am, I'm not trying to excuse my boyfriends actions it's the other way round, I knew she was trying to worm her way into his heart with the closeness love texts and all, he was just too sympathetic to tell her off. my worries right now are she might try harder when he goes back to work and I won't be there to put her in her place, I want to be able to focus on my work without getting worked up, I'm seriously thinking of letting him go.

Rather than just let him go... give him a chance to prove he's trustworthy. Don't monitor him... face your work and whatever else...carry on as though everything is fine. But it you smell anything fishy, then you're justified to take a walk. By then you'd have known that he isn't worth breaking a sweat over, if he can be so easily stolen.
Re: Was I Wrong??. by WisdomHunter(m): 8:41am On Mar 25, 2019
You did nothing wrong dear, yoh nigga is not telling you the truth he have feelings for her that's why he's not letting her go easily >: angry grin grin

Re: Was I Wrong??. by Nobody: 8:57am On Mar 25, 2019
BronzeMajik:
Hmmm, from your perspective, I think you're on point.
You did the right thing. Off course that won't stop her from further seducing your boyfriend and them hitting the sack. Bronze to b safe, keep an open mind. This one u saying you invested so much don't mean he'll be yours... So just b ready incase of anything to prevent sifia heartbreak and probably suicide. Distance in a relationship is a no-gooder. If he's truly yours, no biitch will steal him away and if he ain't,... wink
Re: Was I Wrong??. by BronzeMajik(f): 10:58am On Mar 25, 2019
PrimadonnaO:


Rather than just let him go... give him a chance to prove he's trustworthy. Don't monitor him... face your work and whatever else...carry on as though everything is fine. But it you smell anything fishy, then you're justified to take a walk. By then you'd have known that he isn't worth breaking a sweat over, if he can be so easily stolen.
thank you so much, I appreciate your input.

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Re: Was I Wrong??. by BronzeMajik(f): 10:59am On Mar 25, 2019
WisdomHunter:
You did nothing wrong dear, yoh nigga is not telling you the truth he have feelings for her that's why he's not letting her go easily >: angry grin grin
lol, bia have I offended you before?
Re: Was I Wrong??. by BronzeMajik(f): 10:59am On Mar 25, 2019
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
You did the right thing. Off course that won't stop her from further seducing your boyfriend and them hitting the sack. Bronze to b safe, keep an open mind. This one u saying you invested so much don't mean he'll be yours... So just b ready incase of anything to prevent sifia heartbreak and probably suicide. Distance in a relationship is a no-gooder. If he's truly yours, no biitch will steal him away and if he ain't,... wink
right, thanks a lot.
Re: Was I Wrong??. by WisdomHunter(m): 11:07am On Mar 25, 2019
BronzeMajik:
lol, bia have I offended you before?

None Maka Gini zi? Am just telling you guys code
Re: Was I Wrong??. by DZTech: 3:14pm On Mar 25, 2019
BronzeMajik:
lol thank you very much.
she already knew he has a girlfriend, my boyfriend and I talk on phone all the time during office hours, all his colleagues know about it, I only insisted he tell her incase she was turning a blind eye, she was laying it on just too thick.
1. u both need a heart to heart. tell him it may hurt, but u give ur blessing if he prefers her to u. (if u love someone, set dem free).
2. if ur then both serious, it's time to make plans for d future.
3. if u guys already have, start planning introduction with him- even if it's still over a year or two away.
4. r both ur folks in d know about ur relationship? time to start alternate visits to his and ur siblings/parents.
5. take over d consolation from him- just in case d lady really needs help. after all, everyone is vulnerable to the rebound guy/girl.
6. in d end, na do or die? make una prioritize wetin important. unnecessary delays go cos 'see finish'.
God bless.

*drops pen
Re: Was I Wrong??. by BronzeMajik(f): 9:38am On Mar 26, 2019
DZTech:
1. u both need a heart to heart. tell him it may hurt, but u give ur blessing if he prefers her to u. (if u love someone, set dem free).
2. if ur then both serious, it's time to make plans for d future.
3. if u guys already have, start planning introduction with him- even if it's still over a year or two away.
4. r both ur folks in d know about ur relationship? time to start alternate visits to his and ur siblings/parents.
5. take over d consolation from him- just in case d lady really needs help. after all, everyone is vulnerable to the rebound guy/girl.
6. in d end, na do or die? make una prioritize wetin important. unnecessary delays go cos 'see finish'.
God bless.

*drops pen
thank you very much, we're already planning towards the future.
Re: Was I Wrong??. by Rawhumper(m): 9:38am On Aug 31, 2020
To be honest, my perception about relationship has changed so i dont know what to say.

I dont give my heart away and i can also invest in my wife not gf to avoid this kind of situation like yours.
Does it really worth it? Dying because of someone who never knew u existed before, all in the name of love. Wake up mi lady and wise up!!!










BronzeMajik:
good evening house, your honest opinion is urgently needed, as I feel I went gone too far on this issue bothering me.

this is going to be a long read, apologies in advance.

I've been dating my boyfriend for the past 1 year, we're in love and have always conquered issues threatening our relationship together as a team. about six months into our relationship my boyfriend got transferred, though it wasn't funny we have stayed together through thick and thin.

I love him and he makes me very happy but someone in the guise of female colleague is threatening my happiness, about three months ago he told me about a colleague of his who was going through a messy breakup and confided in him, according to him he's been helping her through it and has been a support system to her, I wasn't comfortable with it and insisted he told her he's in a relationship to discourage any funny feelings arising of which he claimed she knows, a week ago my boyfriend came to my city and as usual we spent time together only to notice the lady just can't stop calling and texting, calling him all sorts of endearing names and love messages, to say my heart flew out of my chest is an understatement, I confronted him and he denied having any relationship with her, after the pleadings and all I decided to hear him out, it seems she's developing feelings for him and I had him call her and tell her to put a stop to it which he did, she apologized and promised to stop.

according to him she called to tell him she was going to block his number and whatnot, it doesn't make me feel any better, I had expected her to take it like an adult and see that she's trying to ruin my relationship.

I feel bad and confused, what do I please?
Re: Was I Wrong??. by BronzeMajik(f): 9:57am On Aug 31, 2020
Rawhumper:







To be honest, my perception about relationship has changed so i dont know what to say.

I dont give my heart away and i can also invest in my wife not gf to avoid this kind of situation like yours.
Does it really worth it? Dying because of someone who never knew u existed before, all in the name of love. Wake up mi lady and wise up!!!










thanks so much for your advice, relationships these days is something else, people no longer know what they want..
it's all water under the bridge now.. I'm wiser.

have a great day ahead ciao...
Re: Was I Wrong??. by Rawhumper(m): 11:06am On Aug 31, 2020
Thanks to technology and social decadence.

Most sex i have nowadays, are only based on physical attraction, thank God for the looks at least i dont sweat or promise heaven and earth to a girl to get laid.

Gracias senorita.










BronzeMajik:
thanks so much for your advice, relationships these days is something else, people no longer know what they want..
it's all water under the bridge now.. I'm wiser.

have a great day ahead ciao...
Re: Was I Wrong??. by BronzeMajik(f): 11:12am On Aug 31, 2020
Rawhumper:








Thanks to technology and social decadence.

Most sex i have nowadays, are only based on physical attraction, thank God for the looks at least i dont sweat or promise heaven and earth to a girl to get laid.

Gracias senorita.










lol.. there's no hope the single ones out there..
Re: Was I Wrong??. by Rawhumper(m): 2:38pm On Aug 31, 2020
There is hope, it depends on the individual and his or her experiences in life as well as personal attributes-all these play a major role in ones life.

I have dated a girl for 5years before without cheating on her but had to quit.
I have met girls that truly would make better wives(maybe), but its kinda late ,as far as am concerned marriage is a contract.

I despise guys or girls that commit suicide because of heartbreak, if i get to their graves i will spit on it.They are very stupid!

People shoukd try to boost their confidence, not leeching to somelse in the name of love.










BronzeMajik:
lol.. there's no hope the single ones out there..

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