Staying sexually in sync with a long distance partner takes a bit of effort but it's so, so worth it.When you’re in a long-distance relationship, being apart sucks for a number of reasons, not least of which is that you’re missing out on that all important physical connection: holding hands, cuddling on the couch, kissing and, of course, having sex. “It’s normal to crave intimacy when you are apart but sometimes maintaining intimacy and keeping things spicy is not as easy as it seems.
These are the little tips to help you out if you are in a long distance relationship or you are intending to go into one.


First, make sure you’re on the same page about whether this will be a monogamous Long Distance Relationship and what constitutes cheating:
In order to prevent your significant other from feeling insecurity and jealousy, there needs to be frank and open discussion about what constitutes ‘betrayal.’ Set aside a time with your partner and talk in detail about what you each perceive as emotional and sexual infidelity. You might be surprised how your definition of infidelity might be different than your partner’s. We all have different thresholds about what is ‘OK’ and what is ‘not OK’ in the relationship.


Get comfortable talking about your feelings, needs and desires and listening to your partner’s, too:

Be open with your partner. The key to intimacy in Long distance relationship is open communication. Discuss the best ways to maintain intimacy with your partner. Don’t be shy to experiment with intimate activities that you both are comfortable doing. Communicate your sexual desires and be open to your partner’s desires, too.” 


Start with sexting:
This might sound awkward but for beginners, intimacy gadgets or video sex might be too much. I recommend sexting because it’s a great activity to maintain intimacy while you are physically apart ,not too direct for beginners, less awkward, and you can build up as you go along and get more comfortable.

Create a secret photo album where you can safely store your partner’s saucy selfies:

In the beginning of long-distance relationship, you should often sexting to keep the sexual spark alive in between trips to see each other. This would mostly be just writing, however, there should be a few cheeky pictures exchanged from time to time.

And always make sure you’re sending those sexy pics to the right recipient:
Just make sure you double-check you’re in the right phone conversation when you’re sending saucy messages or pictures I’ve made the mistake once. You best believe I tripled-checked every message after that.

Schedule regular times to connect via phone or Skype:
It’s important to schedule those times so you and your partner know that this is the designated time to connect. Also, it’s important to continue living your own life when your significant other is away. Continue to interact with friends, remain social and carry on as you normally would. If you start to give up your life in order to preserve your ongoing relationship, it could lead to resentment and frustration.

But don’t forget about old-school options like snail mail:
I still prefer the old-fashioned handwritten letter. With any method, people can still role-play. Create an alter ego, engage in cosplay, be willing to use your imagination and try something new.

Don’t just rely on your partner make sure you’re getting yourself off, too:
The reality of the long-distance relationship is that, in most cases, your partner will not be able to fulfill all your sexual needs. Therefore, it is important for you to take ownership of your sexual needs. It’s important for you to learn ways to enjoy solo sex; it may help you keep your sexual desires alive and present.

When you are together, use all that anticipation you’ve accumulated to your advantage:
When you don’t see each other for months at a time, things tend to get pretty spicy on their own. When you let the anticipation build for a while, it turns into a very powerful aphrodisiac and you don’t really have to think about how to keep it all fresh you’re just busy thinking about how to get your hands on your loved one, Being physically apart feels like torture, but once you’re reunited, the mutual attraction is just through the roof.

If you want to kick off a visit by having sex right out of the gates, go for it:
When together, it’s OK to have sex immediately to reduce the nerves. Then you can enjoy the rest of your time together. While sex is important, focusing on intimacy and romance can definitely keep the long-distance relationship alive.

This is the only solution if you don’t want to cheat on your partner

kudos to those guys that are into long distance relationships.
I seriously envy how u manage to hold konji for months