Octopusssy:

Thanks dear.

You're welcome dear!

templeinyou:


Two things are involved, your husband cares and not sexually strong as you want and your sexual partner may be sexually strong and may not care, so, is choice

So, there's no complete package?

mabea:
It may be sweet now but I can assure you that you are on a highway to destruction if you don't discipline yourself. Besides you are already under a curse.

There's no curse for/of adultery. It only opens you up to spiritual attacks and you have your cover of protection removed.

The Jews, who stoned people to death were only applying the laws of Moses. Their mission was to stop pollution of the land, caused by having multiple sex partners.

It's this kind of things that makes one wary of marriage
If one knows the kind of stuffs the woman that cheat tell their lover.one would think twice about marriage.
A man feels the need to pamper his wife especially in the matte if love making,but the reality check is that women crave for wild sex.thwy prefer being tossed and rough handled when having sex.the problem is that they would not want to talk for fear of the man having doubt about the woman's fidelity,so they prefer to keep quiet.

The reality check is that it will be very very hard for the woman to stop the adultery,like it or not.that 'tossing' and rough handling would never leave her subconscious

DeeMain:


I don't like what I hate! What do you hope to achieve by posting this here?

This woman, Marbella003, is at least honest and good intentioned though she fell to sexual temptation, so let's cut her some slack please. She's already feeling guilty and haunted by her action though weak in the face of the temptation she is facing which is why she came here for advice. Please let's not add to her pain.

The Pharisees and the crucify-her gang should park one side abeg. She asked for help and advice not mobbing.

Nobody holy pass.

He/she that is without sin should cast the first stone. Marbella003, go home and sin no more. That's what Jesus told a woman caught in the act.

Ask God for mercy and strength. Forgive yourself too and get close to God.

See a good sex therapist on your sexual issues with your husband. There must be a middle ground.

Best wishes.

Oga please pray your wife doesn't fall into it oo.
Once she tastes another flavour of dixk,e Don finish be that o.
I have friends who sleep with married women,and the stories I hear are not pleasing to the ear.
Once tasted can not be untasted o

break the relationship you have with the other guy before he begins to black mail you and hope you guys didn't record yourselves while having sex

don't ever confess to your husband take the secret to the grave abg coz if you do it may cost you your marriage

One of the advantages of marrying a virgin...

Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

Which city are u dear?

renewa29:


There's no curse for/of adultery. It only opens you up to spiritual attacks and you have your cover of protection removed.

The Jews, who stoned people to death were only applying the laws of Moses. Their mission was to stop pollution of the land, caused by having multiple sex partners.

what is a curse really you can read deut 28 and gal 3:13

Those of us who have spiritual eyes and commune with the spirits have seen that:


This story is a fabricated tale aimed at achieving whatever aim the op desires to achieve!


Op, my spiritual eyes says that your story is false and that you're a male hiding under a female moniker to post this tale by moonlight.



Not that I'm not aware of things like this happening, but this very one is not true!


Thank you

Hm

Young lady, you have sinned against God, yourself, your husband, your kids and your immediate family members. All you need do first- is to repent in dust and ashes, confess your sins to God, accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Personal Saviour, forsake your sins, turn to righteousness and holiness.

Now having done that, seek the counsel of your pastor and pray for the grace of God to make restitution to your husband. With prayers and seeing your Godly virtues and a new person in you, he will forgive you and accept you much more than ever before. It will happen.

At present, you are still enjoying the sin and thus wish to go back to it. This means that repentance is still far and your feeling of guilty is fake. Note that if you die an adulterer, you will go to hell and without mercy.

Accept Jesus now and run for your dear life.

God bless you



reminiscence nostalgically

mabea:
what is a curse really you can read deut 28 and gal 3:13

Should I quote it for you,

Galatians 3.13 Christ has redeemed us from the curse of the law been made a curse for us because it is written: cursed is anyone who hangs on a tree, that the blessing of Abraham may come upon the gentiles and that they may receive the promise of the spirit through faith.

Deuteronomy 28 lists the first 14 verses of blessing for obeying the voice of God and the law, the rest were curses of disobedience if they did not hear, but not only that, they would also have to outdo the people they met in Canaan before they would experience this. So far the curse of the law which Jesus took upon himself though he had no sin, is the mystery of Christianity.

Don't heap curses on people based on half-knowledge, rather let them know that what they sow, they will reap. That was the covenant of the rainbow with Noah. What if the pattern of adultery is in the family line and she was just following a pattern, isn't that why Psalm 11.3 exists, do you know that David came from a line of bastards in the tribe of Judah, yet he received mercy, so talk about what the Bible says clearly, don't assume.

Ferdinandu:
Somebody said why did you marry him when you were never attracted to her in the first. But Girl nobody has it all, you can marry a guy you are sexually attracted to but he will turn out to be a Jerk in keeping a family, that is the reality. Sex is good in marriage but for someone who really likes sex it doesn't take time to get bored with one partner. Everyone saying spice up your sex life do this, do that to make it more enjoyable after years of marriage is saying the truth in a way but they are obviously trying to downplay the obvious "Sex is always better with a new partner,it is simple as that.
But you are a human being not an animal, you don't go about craving for a new partner to satisfy your sexual urge every time you get bored with your current partner. Learn discipline in your life . People who tell you that they are still attracted to their partner after years of marriage are just plain lying,what they have learned is discipline. We all meet people who are more sexy, more dashing than our partners everyday because we have seen everything about them and nothing else intriguing about the partner.
Woman get back to your husband, my advice is hide the fact that you cheated once from him for you not to shatter the trust and love he had for you for life. It is damned too difficult to forgive a woman who cheated in our society except if you are not a Nigerian.
Don't scatter the stability in your family thereby the stability in your own life. If you like masturbate, watch porn discreetly if your hubby won't approve of that, if really you can't find a way of curtailing your craving for other men. Learn discipline or sexual passion will destroy you for good.

I have never had the patient to like a comment before because of the browser I use and am kinda use to that browser, but for this comment I give all the likes I have ever owed this media and I will ever give. this is maturity at its peak. I wish there were more people like u in the society

sisisioge:


No...the one who foqs another girl lovingly and wholeheartedly but adores his wife lovingly and wholeheartedly.

How does he "foqs another girl lovingly and wholeheartedly" and "adores his wife lovingly and wholeheartedly" at the same time? Does he have two hearts for the "wholeheartedly" and two more for the "adores" and "lovingly"?

He must good at multitasking. Or the wife and "another girl" place so little on their worth they have very low demands on him. I wonder what he'd say if he's wife were as skilled as he is.

holysaint1:
One of the advantages of marrying a virgin...

Yeah She remains a virgin forever

budaatum:

Yeah She remains a virgin forever

Every man to his own mindset bro...

JasonScoolari:
Dear Marbella003,

I don't advice cheats, infact, I hate cheats whether a Man or Woman.... You did not advice yourself when your pussy was itching you.

Now you seek our advice after cheating on a good man. And you still feel like offering your pussy to the guy as a useless sex slave.

What a promiscuous Dog.


Get Lost. Filthy animal.

I honestly still don't understand how you got so much likes for, judging, condemning, and crucifying a fellow human like though you'r perfect. pls dont get me wrong, I do frown at what she did and i admit it was wrong, but i believe there is some level of sympathy embedded in every human being that gives us the grace not to condemn when we ourselves fault our heavenly father constantly and yet get no condemnation from him. at least look at the fact that she feels some remorse for what she has done, telling you every truth of how she feels, seeking for a way to amend her ways. I can tell you are a victim of infidelity, I am as well, but it only takes a good heart to realise the evil they have done, otherwise u wont even be hearing this story in the first place. No one is saint bro.

"Promiscous dog"... haba, thats too harsh, she did it just once and with just one man na.

MrBrownJay1:


I am definitely not a saint, and will never try to pretend to be one, but that does not change the issue at hand.... Unless you would believe that because I am no saint, my woman CAN and/or SHOULD be deceitful/disrespectful/unfaithful, abi?
This woman has already lost her ways, lost her mind, lost her man, lost her marriage.... She is just wasting everyone's time in this story (hers, her lovers and her husbands)

The funniest part here is that, 110% sure that the man, who is feasting on her body at work, don't even want her as anything more than a part time office fling.



People don't get into depression because of strangers views, they get into depression because they did something WRONG that CANNOT be fixed.

I feel your pain and I can sense what you've been through. I'm indeed sorry about it. Get over it soon. You can be this pained if there's no history behind it.

rickyboss333:


I honestly still don't understand how you got so much likes for, judging, condemning, and crucifying a fellow human like though you'r perfect. pls dont get me wrong, I do frown at what she did and i admit it was wrong, but i believe there is some level of sympathy embedded in every human being that gives us the grace not to condemn when we ourselves fault our heavenly father constantly and yet get no condemnation from him. at least look at the fact that she feels some remorse for what she has done, telling you every truth of how she feels without, seeking for a way to amend her ways.

You quoted me the first time, I gave you a deserving reply, now you come again with another stupid question wanting to know how I got so much likes?

I will ignore you henceforth.

In another news...
https://www.nairaland.com/5164059/archbishop-dr-lanre-obenbe-passes

BananaTree:
I feel your pain and I can sense what you've been through. I'm indeed sorry about it. Get over it soon. You can be this pained if there's no history behind it.

I will never stand for cheating/cheaters and what they stand for...... And NO REASON under the sun can warrant for cheating. Any person who believes otherwise are probably cheating/deceitful people (like the OP)

Hypocrites that cheat but expect their partner to be faithful...
***spit on floor***

rickyboss333:


I honestly still don't understand how you got so much likes for, judging, condemning, and crucifying a fellow human like though you'r perfect. pls dont get me wrong, I do frown at what she did and i admit it was wrong, but i believe there is some level of sympathy embedded in every human being that gives us the grace not to condemn when we ourselves fault our heavenly father constantly and yet get no condemnation from him. at least look at the fact that she feels some remorse for what she has done, telling you every truth of how she feels, seeking for a way to amend her ways. I can tell you are a victim of infidelity, I am as well, but it only takes a good heart to realise the evil they have done, otherwise u wont even be hearing this story in the first place. No one is saint bro.

"Promiscous dog"... haba, thats too harsh, she did it just once and with just one man na.

One is a "victim of Infidelity" when ones assumed, or stated contract, regarding emotional and/or sexual exclusivity has been violated when one's partner cheats, strays, commits adultery, is unfaithful, or has an affair when married. Op is in no way the victim here but the assailant and attacker! And besides, she has no remorse. She "enjoyed it a lot" and wants to "do it again!"

We are not condemning and crucifying her, please, we don't even know her. We are just stating our opinion, and our words convict us too. There is a reason "thou shalt not commit adultery" is one of ten.

@ Renewa29 What do you mean by mystery of christianity? Besides the bible did not say they must outdo the canaanites before the curse becomes effective. The curse of the law is embedded in disobeying God's word. It is not a mystery.

I don't believe this story at all, because no woman will write like this. It's obvious that he is just trying to give women a devilish impression. I'm sure he's laughing at all the responses and loving the insults

mabea:
@ Renewa29 What do you mean by mystery of christianity? Besides the bible did not say they must outdo the canaanites before the curse becomes effective. The curse of the law is embedded in disobeying God's word. It is not a mystery.

Mystery because it is amazing, novel, and unique. The mystery of the 2nd Adam, and the serpent head smasher.

Have you read where someone was told that the cup of Amorites was not yet full in Genesis? There's a tipping scale and balance weighing the iniquity of nations. There was a precise instruction not to marry or serve the gods of the Canaanites. Which they did and they received swift recompense leading to the Judges before Samuel. The only curse you can identify is on whoever rebuilds Jericho.

The punishment for adultery because of the husband's anger is stoning to death. Nothing states that you are under a curse of the law. Death is the punishment for adultery and no curses from the law.

Katier00:
wait until you walk in her shoes. Yes she made the wrong choice but willing to amend her ways. You can't just leave her because of that singular act

The problem with modern day ppl is they commonize cheating in marriages to the point where alot of young women now feel it is ok...smh. Please it is a big deal and don't try to make it look like it is just a singular act.

your case is a simple one ,and that is death sentence,because it is a well known fact in most nigerian tribes ,adultery is a serious matter that can cause your dead,unless you confess to your husband and in time also

budaatum:


One is a "victim of Infidelity" when ones assumed or stated contract regarding emotional and/or sexual exclusivity has been violated when one's partner cheats, strays, commits adultery, is unfaithful, or has an affair when married. Op is in no way the victim here but the assailant and attacker! And besides, she has no remorse. She "enjoyed it a lot" and wants to "do it again!"

We are not condemning and crucifying her, please, we don't even know her. We are just stating our opinion, and our words convict us too. There is a reason "thou shalt not commit adultery" is one of ten.

u need not had wasted those lecture on infidelity if u hadnt rushed through my comment without proper understanding of what i said. I never referred to the op as a victim of infidelity, pls do not quote me wrongly.

secondly, are u saying because she has sinned she has no right to ask for advice? when u say "thou shall not commit adultery is one of the ten", did u trash forgiveness out of the equation? dont forget, she is in the process of trying to change, asking for your advice on how to go about it but what did u do? u "state your opinion" telling her she is not worthy of your advice, and calling her names. sorry, what do u call that if it isnt condemnation and crucifixion? there is no difference between what happen in d bible where an adulteress was about to be stoned to death and what is happening now, except your opinions are the stones use back then

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