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| How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by tunjilee003: 8:15pm On May 22, 2019 |
This year January I've just gain admission to study at kwara state polytechnic. Formerly, I was living in Lagos with my parents... My dad told me I'll be staying with his siblings including his grandmother in ilorin.... I wanted to reject the idea of staying with a relative but i had no option than to oblige to his decision.. Ever since I started staying with them they usually complain for no reason all the time.. A times they complain I eat food fastly or they Just bring things that are not idealistic.... Most of the time I'm always depressed, I don't like being a liability...I feel like moving out....i need freedom.... Pls help a brother, your advice is hereby welcome....... 11 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by nofuckz(m): 8:32pm On May 22, 2019 |
you need freedom, you need advice too @ same time a glutton? okay! 30 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by chii8(f): 8:35pm On May 22, 2019 |
Maybe your parents wants the relative to help keep an eye on you, try convincing your parents you are man enough. 18 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by DaniDani(m): 8:37pm On May 22, 2019 |
1. Talk to your dad to give you money for accommodation after stating your experience with the relatives. If he grant your request fine otherwise; 2. Talk to your coursemates(friends) to seek for squatting with them. Promise to pay a token and make sure you do that to anyone willing to help you. 3. Explore the environment where you are and see how you can earn legitimately when you are free from school. Earn and free yourself from their endless nagging. 97 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by crackhaus: 8:38pm On May 22, 2019 |
Do your relatives live close to the campus or what exactly? 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by tunjilee003: 8:50pm On May 22, 2019 |
nofuckz:i don't need criticism i only need your say 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by tunjilee003: 8:52pm On May 22, 2019 |
crackhaus:yeah it's close to school |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by tunjilee003: 8:52pm On May 22, 2019 |
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| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by tunjilee003: 8:52pm On May 22, 2019 |
crackhaus:yeah it's nearer to the school |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by crackhaus: 8:58pm On May 22, 2019 |
tunjilee003:If that's the case, then I don't expect it will be easy convincing your dad to pay for alternative accommodation. You can either try to hustle out accommodation on your own, or just put up with whatever is going on with your relatives. Doesn't mean you shouldn't try talking to your dad. 8 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by armyofone(m): 9:29pm On May 22, 2019 |
Your parents should provide for your upkeeping and expenses...that way you are catering for yourself as a student. Not depending on them in anyway. They are indirectly saying you cost them more. You know Nigerians like leaving responsibilities for "my brother, my sister" 14 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by Richy4(m): 10:17pm On May 22, 2019 |
Reading between the line, the way u described them shows you were not interested in them being your relatives. I might be wrong though.... According to U, U said his grandmother..(meaning your great grandma right? )... His siblings.. (meaning your aunts and uncles correct? ) ... if u wanna be living there why not try to accept them expecially when they were giving you food that u never worked for.. However, I will suggest that you try and make friends with reasonable course mate that are living off campus .. with that u can visit them twice in a week, u can even study with them during the weekend but make sure they are OK with u being around...so that u don't overstay your welcome. nothing is as embarrassing as being in a place that u were not needed ...Your relatives are looking for their space.. By staying away a little, u will be giving them what they wanted.. Also try and work it out with your dad..Tell him u can't study there the way u wanted ... That u are about to fail if u continue to stay in a place that is not conducive for learning.. let him assist you with a little money so u can share a room with someone 18 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by babythug(f): 11:36am On May 23, 2019 |
Sometimes deciding to be positive no matter what can make all the difference! You have to stay there for now it is what it is. Look beyond all that has happened so far! Be a man, ensure your going and coming is within reasonable periods. Pick one chore- ensuring there’s water, washing the car, sweeping living room etc just pick it and get it done religiously! In other words earn your keep. Avoid engaging and joining in thier chatter/gossip/idle discussions. Over familiarity can breed contempt. Keep your distance and maintain your dignity at the same time blend in to avoid being termed as proud and so on! You can figure that out. Make concerted efforts- raising your own accommodation fees or getting your folks to set you up in your own place However ensure to keep the peace , you’re family you all need each other Good luck 32 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by piroux(f): 1:07pm On May 23, 2019 |
Very often, we say people nag a lot when we haven't found out that we ourselves have character flaws. I'm not saying stay there but chances are if you leave to squat with a friend despite your bad attitude, you will have the same problems. Check yourself first, are your relatives complaints valid? Seriously, sit down and evaluate yourself. Is it a case of a bad attitude or differences in upbringing and ideologies? If you're sure you are doing everything right, then you can look for alternatives. If your character is flawed though, you will just make enemies all around. And everyone will be glad to see you leave their house.  Just saying. 31 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by Nobody: 10:39pm On May 23, 2019 |
Have you told your parents how it is affecting you? |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by Lexusgs430: 10:42pm On May 23, 2019 |
tunjilee003: If you moved out, who would fund your accommodation?...  1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by GeneralPula: 10:43pm On May 23, 2019 |
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| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by Afolashade00(f): 10:43pm On May 23, 2019 |
Keep pushing, i repeat keep pushing  2 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by jaxxy(m): 10:45pm On May 23, 2019 |
Freedom to do what? Are u in captivity? The only freedom you need is freedom to read ur books. If it’s about food or ur upkeep tell ur dad to send u more money so u don’t disturb ur relatives much. 2 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by flowmama: 10:47pm On May 23, 2019 |
You need to be patient and understand the motive behind your parents' decisions to stay with your extended family. Maybe to properly monitor you Or based on the size of their pockets. But the only thing you can do is to be patient. See it as an avenue for you to be more tolerant. Do not misbehave, disrespect or insult them. If need be, spend more time in school with your studies than home.. Avoid thinking of "squatting" with your friends as your parents may not like the idea and you don't join bad eggs... In all, patient is key here as you would be done with your studies and you'll forget about all that within 2-3 years... Goodluck 7 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by faithfull18(f): 10:48pm On May 23, 2019 |
Just behave yourself, it isn't easy accomodating people. 4 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by Nobody: 10:50pm On May 23, 2019 |
Play more of PS4. Sex more and you'll be fine 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by Nobody: 10:51pm On May 23, 2019 |
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| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by grandstar(m): 10:52pm On May 23, 2019 |
tunjilee003: Try and tolerate the nagging etc. Eventually you should get used to it. A point may come when they start seeing you as a member of the household. Are you the lazy type or do you contribute to the house? Make yourself an indisposable asset and they will treasure you. Do they have young kids? Can you help them with their studies? Do you do work around the house (I'm no fan of housework  ) You can also buy snacks for the kids once in a while. It could be Inexpensive snacks like biscuits or wafers. 2 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by nairalee(m): 10:52pm On May 23, 2019 |
You sef stop rushing food naa. How u can your great grandma be hustling food wit you and you will still be rushing it? You wanna send her to her early grave? 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by nairalandankrah: 10:53pm On May 23, 2019 |
Haba when I go be ftc Anyway, just ignore it |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by oka4ugoo: 10:53pm On May 23, 2019 |
You need freedom! We know ur type. You need freedom to be messing around. You plans has failed oo! We no go allow you carry woman for sch. 7 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by nairalee(m): 10:54pm On May 23, 2019 |
nofuckz: Me sef I wonder o. He wants everything! He wants to finish the food before the poor great grandma has finished washing her hand. He wants to stay alone yet he wants to obey his father He wants to commit suicide yet want advice on nairaland 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by MadCow1: 10:55pm On May 23, 2019 |
TRANSLATION IN PIDGIN ENGLISH:: You don enter Uni now so you wan cut chain based on say you don be bigger boys... Abi no be so? 2 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Keep On Pushing With Nagging Relatives? by bukkysam(f): 11:02pm On May 23, 2019 |
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