No one likes being insulted, especially not your kids. Many times parents tend to insult their children when they get angry. This has a very bad effect on the children mentally as it tends to lower their self esteem a great deal.
Moreso, it weakens your relationship with them.

Insulting your kids constantly, drives them away farther from you. They get scared of telling you their secrets because they fear you might use it against them, thereby weakening and reducing the quality of your relationship with them.

I know who's mom told her that she doesn't have a brain and that she probably won't make it in life. She ended up committing suicide. Now tell me, who do you think is responsible for the death of that child.

The question you ask yourself then is, how do you correct them without hurting them(emotionally) or reducing their self esteem?
One thing that works most often is "one on one advice". If your kids make a mistake, you can talk to them and warn them not to do it again.
Personally, I don't believe beating a child with cane is always effective in changing their attitude, even though sometimes it works. Some kids are not bothered about being whipped.

Another way you can help your kids increase their self esteem, is by encouraging them more often. This works most of the time as they become more confident in themselves.

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children re d future leaders of 2morow,parent should build their babies in d way of d lord.it boast their self esteem n imcreases deir confidence any where. treat dem d way u love to b treated by pple

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Ur parent insult u n u dey complain my own dem dey beat me in advance for watin I neva do yet

some parents can never hear, the way they were treated or raised in an inhuman way are being passed to their children, which is very wrong

Tell them if u cruse ur children out of annoyance u curse ur self also becos if it is well wt them it well wt u also,parent also listen 2 ur children we r d future generation

rubish...go n tell my dad dat n he ll insult u [b][/b]

Those insults atimes tend to be curses which manifest in their lives. Be careful with words you say to your kids, though they(kids) can seriously get in the nerves.

In Africa its discipline while in d western world its child abuse

What kind of parent will insult a child?...sounds hard but true then...

is very preposterous

My dad constantly did that shit when we were younger and he is currently paying the price.

Best thread I've seen in many years.

Unfortunately, many Africans consider harsh treatments such as flogging, insulting, harassment, etc as the best form of discipline.

It is the most effective in the short term, but least effective in the long term.

reminds me of my dad. my old man needs to get an award for insulting his kids and blending it with koboko.but thank God sha! none of us committed suicide instead it made us great kids. Paale! you too much.

ighoosagie: Ur parent insult u n u dey complain my own dem dey beat me in advance for watin I neva do yet

Now this got me laughing so loud in public

faporori24:

Bleep you in the name of Uncle Boko Haram

Wareva. U are jealous u made the second position instead of sixth. Abi?? Hahahahaha.

As a kid whn i was grwng up. I had always bn an advocate of training a child wthot d sticks. Cuz frm my xperienc t afectd me a gr8deal. Now am an adult n my mid 30's,i hav a chld i bit her eachtime she does thns wrngly. And dis has degenartd 2 beatin her rgdless of d offence,weda big or smll. At d end of d day i feel remors 4 my offence and feel bad. Since i knw it wl push her away frm me. I thk wth dis thread i wl chng my bhavior 2wards her. God teach us all(as d yoruba ppl will say)hw 2 do t ritd.

what about calling them Antelope?

@OP - it requires dialogue... a real test of one's patience I must add. I personally need to build that too.

It's lack of education. Funny enough, most of these "disciplinarian" are not even better than the child.
You can with-hold the child's allowance or depriving him access to things he usually does.