Last Sunday in church we learnt about Jacob and Esau,
Rebeca loved Jacob to the extent of sacrificing to take his curses.

My question is; Is it good to have a special love on one of your  children in the family?
Thanks

It's not ususally healthy for the family but it's usually inevitable.
It's not a planned thing. Even if a parent has a favourite, it's necessary not to make it conspicious otherwise, it will cause a lot of jelousy and trifts between siblings.

its possible
but not gud

I think u guys are correct,
even in the church when this same question was threw to the congregation,
85% of women confessed that they had special interest on a partcular child in the family

later, the question was:
WHAT CAN MAKE PARENTS TO LOVE A PARTICULAR CHILD?

Yes, It is possible and it happens.

Busta:

Yes, It is possible and it happens.

How??
Pls explain

rowlandwhy:

How??
Please explain

wat is there to explain?
Most parents tend to have a softer spot or favourite amongst their kids.

It is a proven fact.

Yes! But I will try my best not to show it so the others do not feel "unloved".

yes it is possible and wud continue to happen.its a very tricky situation that should be handled carefully and sensibly cos if the other ones find out,it might cause rift and problems in the family.its an unavoidable error !

As a good and godly parent it is possible to see that tendency of loving one child more than the others manifesting,
when you begin to notice such what you should do is to discipline your mind, you should not show it or demonstrate
your preference for the child openly to the extent that the rest of the children will perceive it.

Jacob had a special love for Joseph, he demonstrated this foolishly that he could not hide it and the moment the other
children discovered this, conspiracy mixed with outright hatred for Joseph started, Joseph would have been a dead man
if not for the intervention of Reuben, who later manouvered him for sale to slavery. The same thing happened when Jacob discovered that his father Isaac had the pleasure of blessing Esau, that could be out of segregational love also,
he devised a means to deceive his father and get the blessing ahead of his brother Esau.

From time immemorial this has been in practice but the end results had not been palatable so don't allow such in your home, it will promote hatred animousity and bitterness and this will ruin your dream for the children. My prayer is that may God give us the wisdom to train our children in the fear of God.

It is inevitable but one has to be discreet about it not to cause illfeeling among the children!

rowlandwhy:
My question is; Is it good to have a special love on one of your  children in the family?
Thanks

It is not good.... that is what the story of Jacob and Esau teaches. Rebekka was wrong to have connived with her son to deceive her husband and her other son.

Kobojunkie:
It is not good.... that is what the story of Jacob and Esau teaches. Rebekka was wrong to have connived with her son to deceive her husband and her other son.

Rebekah was just a tool.

She couldn’t help but prefer Jacob because he was the quiet one who probably ran errands for her.
Mothers usually prefer that child who’s more diligent.

Equal love is better

You can’t help it, in every family you will have daddy’s girl or daddy’s favorite and that’s the one everybody sends to daddy to make demands or ask on behalf of the family.
Sometimes the mother too uses dis style
“ go tell your daddy we need dis at home”.

But dis days Na d one wey resemble papa d most papa dey love d most
Because papa no get mind to do DNA.

First, parents can't love kids equally because no two children are identical.
Each child's individual personality fosters loving that is unique to him or her.
This can translate into the child's being the parent's favored or unfavored child.

Sometimes, parents prefer one child over another. Here are some reasons why.
A large proportion of parents consistently favor one child over another.
This favoritism can manifest in different ways: more time spent with one child, more affection given, more privileges, less discipline etc...

We Rise.

Jidemoo:
Equal love is better

So do the parents wish, but not so in most cases.

The truth is : many parents wish so..
The question isn't whether or not you have a favorite child, since it's pretty clear that many parents do. Typically, favoritism has little to do with loving one child more.
It is more about how your personality resonates with one child's personality more than the other's.

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Bitter truth is that....
No matter how hard you try or want to pretend, you can never have equal love to all your kids

There will always be that one that .....

rowlandwhy:
Last Sunday in church we learnt about Jacob and Esau,
Rebeca loved Jacob to the extent of sacrificing to take his curses.

My question is; Is it good to have a special love on one of your  children in the family?
Thanks

Recipe of disaster and disharmony in the family.
It's as bad as polygamy

it is normal. Even you love your right hand more than your left hand if you are a right-handed person. So, the point is to move on if you are loved-less and love more.

We can’t help it it’s natural but parents must try not to make it obvious

K

I think it is natural, but parents should be wise enough not to show this affection and love. At the end of the day it creates enmity among siblings.