Hi guys,
Pls i need your candid advice.
Ive been dating my boyfriend for about 3years most of which has been long distance. Recently i relocated barely an hour away from him to make the relationship work.
about 2 months ago, he started gushing about this young lady like 24/7.he takes her to work everyday and takes her home afterwards, they speak on phone averagely four times a day not to mention the numerous text messages which he instantly replies wit excitement. I told him i wasnt ok wit the relationship but he persisted sayin they are just friends.
To my annoyance he even calls her in my presence to find out how she is doing. Her name cant seem to leave his lips. I told him dat if he didnt end the friendship i would leave.
He says he will try and end it slowly but they are just friends.
Wat kind of friendship is this.? Pls advice me. Am i being paranoid? Wat should i do.

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Hi guys,
Pls i need your candid advice.
Ive been dating my boyfriend for about 3years most of which has been long distance. Recently i relocated barely an hour away from him to make the relationship work.
about 2 months ago, he started gushing about this young lady like 24/7.he takes her to work everyday and takes her home afterwards, they speak on phone averagely four times a day not to mention the numerous text messages which he instantly replies wit excitement. I told him i wasnt ok wit the relationship but he persisted sayin they are just friends.
To my annoyance he even calls her in my presence to find out how she is doing. Her name cant seem to leave his lips. I told him dat if he didnt end the friendship i would leave.
He says he will try and end it slowly but they are just friends.
Wat kind of friendship is this.? Pls advice me. Am i being paranoid? Wat should i do.

no man does all those things for no reason taking her to work etc her own boyfriend should be doing that has introduced you to her face to face ?

I know its hard 2 over look things lyk dat,jst try 2 do more of wat u do,get even more closer,he lyks it dat u r jealous n complainin

They might just be friends you know men have female frie,   nahhhhhh who am i kidding here. either he has a crush on her or they are hooking up we men hardly friend a girl without thinking that eventually she would be a good lay. Not trying to make you worry more but have him introduce you to her since they are just friends it shouldn't be a problem

After carefully going through ur thread,i must say that there r/ship is more than friendship.They fccukin each other 4 sure.
Com on dnt be naive.Callin her nt less than 4times a day n pickin/drop her 4rm work?haba!

I guess ur bf likes d lady but love u, but if u dot takecare he ll end up loving dis chick. See, ladies read meanin to things alot n lil things count to us, exp. Wen man calls n gv lot of attention. Der is nothing like end it slowly, if he his nt intrstd he shld end it nw.

Your Bf has a thing for the girl but doesn't know where it's going yet. So he is trying to male sure things will go well with the other lady before he dumps you.
Find yourself a toaster just in case. Did he ever introduce you to the girl as his official girlfriend? If not be careful

@poster,
Here are the facts
1-you are not as interesting as the other lady
2-She and your man share alot of common interest
3-His likeness for her will lead to either infatuation,Lust or Love.

On to speculation
1-The woman knows your man has a soft spot for her and she is willing to exploit it
2-They may/might have had sex but didn't intend to initially
3-They started as friends but will end up in Bed

Solution
1-upgrade yourself by improving on your intellectual capacity
2-Dress better to work(if u do but i strongly doubt cos u said ur man takes the babe 2 work and not you or maybe you've got ur own ride)
3-Pay suprise visits to his place of work at least 2wice a month and study his reaction/comfort level whenever u do that
4-Either you involve yourself in his business(learn 2 analyse sports if he likes sports, ) or you make him interested in yours(maybe teach a thing or two about fashion and how to please a woman).Just be interesting
5-Get busy, so Busy that ,
Best of luck

Are you guys having unnecessary arguements of late?
If yes,then you're on a long thing

He says that d girl is having problems wit her boyfriend so she turns to him for advice.
He says dat i act like i dont want to meet her so i told him that he shd bring her to meet me. She is just a corper. They work in d same place. But he has to drive back a distance everyday to pick her.
He now deletes his inbox, sent messages and call log from his phone. He says dat he has told her that he may not be able to pick her all d tym anymore bcoz of his exams.
He swears dat dey r just friends.
He gets all excited wen she calls. I neva really have a private moment wit him again as her calls or text keep cutting in. He says she is aware dat im his girlfriend but does dat change anything?

As stupid as it may sound, i guess i love dis guy dats y its hard 4 me to just up and leave, ive met his parents and siblings. We were planin to get married hence my decision to relocate. But dis girl speaks the same language as he does. They r both yoruba, mostly thats hw dey talk on phone now.
ive spoken 2 him twice now abt dis budding friendship wit dis girl but to no avail.
If he really loves me y cant he just end it once and for all. He has neva acted like dis b4. Im so shocked.
Im all cried out. I guess ive to be strong and make a decision quick. I dont want to be played.

Baby girl,come let us be that close friend may be he will be jealous.but in real sense try and make him jealous may be he will app. You

@poster:

Are you such a baby? Can't you see they are in love? They are making sweet love as i can see it from here,if you can't see.

All the scriptures world over,says that fire and butter don't go together,meaning there is nothing like friendship between a girl and a boy,once both are together SEX MUST BE INVOLVE,as women are FIRE while men are BUTTER.

look for another man, he is cheating on you and still have the power to lie to you in your beautiful face.

Im so sorry sweety but it doesnt sound good. You really need to meet her so she can see your face and you as a person. Dont know if that will help but it cant hurt. Maybe he sees it as friends but she may be trying to hook him. But it doesnt sound right.

You must MEET this gurl. Things are straying out of your controls fast. She's done a good number on your guy. The only thing standing between them right now is you. Make your incumbency count!

I guess they are both doing something behind ur back,

He calls her in front of you and tells you all about her.

He REALLY likes her. Maybe he doesn't know that he might have romantic feelings for her. He definitely likes being around her and likes to keep in touch with her. As THE woman in his life, you need to do something about that. Quickly.

Make him assure you he'll be with you, or if he feels he loves her more than he loves you, let him go and be with the woman of his dreams. There's not much you can do at this stage if your man doesn't know how close he should get to other women.