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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by Lexusgs430: 9:00am On Jun 14, 2019
He broke Rule 1 of money remittances............ NEVER trust anyone at home...... NEVER EVER......

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by Babaken(m): 9:07am On Jun 14, 2019
Exactly the same thing my landlord did to his Jr brother that went to Europe through the hard way for years keep on sending money for his senior brother to build house for him the senior bro use the money to build hospital for himself cause the senior brother is a medical doctor it happen at upper lawani in Benin city. The guy run mad instantly he is still under medication before i left Benin.

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by Sterope(f): 9:10am On Jun 14, 2019
Increase your bank account limit
Send your savings to your bank account
Get a reputable lawyer
Buy your land when you are home. Cement your ownership before you leave
Don't leave your title documents with any family members. Take it with you or deposit it for safekeeping in a bank etc
Develop your land only when you are home. Even if it is for a day, manage to get a block on that foundation.
Always have your workers/civil engineer on standby


This may mean you don't have much to ball around withyou will proud of yourself.

The above may be hard for the illegals though.

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by King44(m): 9:10am On Jun 14, 2019
Altern8:
This why it’s better to buy houses from developers. If your family member chop your money, nothing you fit do. Highest na to call family meeting. All the elders go beg you last last.

If you don’t have money to buy at once, contract reputable construction companies.

But Nigerians sha. You’re not even sure your contractor isn’t cheating you.
take them to court they would definitely pay and pay for damages, if that wan no work bring soldiers to evacuate them and destroy their houses with bulldozer and arrest them join just settle police well the next day I fly out of the country and disown them

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by sharpwriter(m): 9:11am On Jun 14, 2019

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by Cardozzo(m): 9:11am On Jun 14, 2019
Uyi168:
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U think it's easy to be flying up and down abii
you dey mind the mumu... moreover whats the big deal in trusting your blood 96% of people trust their blood relatives which is right to do...

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by mosallah(m): 9:12am On Jun 14, 2019
Nbote:
He's not serious himself... If he flies back home for even a couple of days na crime?
make dem tie him down abi
Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by ekitimanalways: 9:12am On Jun 14, 2019
youngsahito:
he should take over all his families house instead
They will not give up the property without a good fight. He must find a way within the laws of Nigeria to bind them...
Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by Indispensable85: 9:14am On Jun 14, 2019
This thing is just everywhere this days. I know a lady who was given similar treatment by her family.She had sent about 12million naira home for her building project, only to come home and discovered there was nothing on ground.The elder brother was buying cars and carrying women in Nigeria with her sister's sweat. When he heard about his sister's return to the country, he ran to Europe with the remaining change. Unfortunately the girl couldn't handle the shock,she started behaving strange and was rushed to psychiatric hospital in uselu, Benin. She's mad today in Benin, i ran into her when i came to town for last year's yuletide.
My inlaw in Japan got a similar treatment from his elder brother too. He was lucky not to have sent too much money to him before he got the information that there was nothing on ground. He wept when he came to see for himself, he had to stay back to build his house himself before returning to Japan.

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by Bheewhy(m): 9:15am On Jun 14, 2019
Another bitter life experience. The pathetic side of it is that the man should thread carefully because the heart of a man is desperate. They might get him killed or hurt if they perceive his trouble as too much or a threat to their lives. Noted!

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by gypsey(m): 9:16am On Jun 14, 2019
Wiseandtrue:
Some family members can be a real pain in the butt!!!

If the guy no send anything now, na that Sound Sultan Area (acoustic) lyrics (How I wish say I fit reach u anywhere u dey, u dey. Far away .. na him them go dey sing!!!

The guy should come to terms with it (not easy, take his time) that he's back to square one!!! He did it before, he will do it again!!!

He should let go cause the guy cannot produce the money again!!! And he might result to diabolical means, someone who could do that will not hesitate

He should learn a lesson and move on and watch how he prospers again!!!
Absolutely! it would not be easy but that's what i did, i am grateful to my Onyibo wife, for all her support and Advice, if not i would have done something i would have regretted. Now, i am have bounced back big time. my step brother did the samething to me. 40 million naira!! i lost.

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by pillarmaria(m): 9:17am On Jun 14, 2019
armyofone:
Village people used his hard work, labor and sweat to enjoy themselves grin. Tell them to pitch their tent for the west where them dey them no go hear. They will panel beat him join his sorrows sef and hire edo boys on him soon...misplaced priority!

what are you insinuating ma?
Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by mrZENographer: 9:17am On Jun 14, 2019
blackaxe78:
Painful


He is not himself

But at a time, what goes around, comes around

You have messed up peoples life with the substances you sell and now, someone else has messed up your own life too


He should thank God he didnt get messed up by death. Could have been killed before even asking for the house

Please just stop posting this gibberish. Bad things happen to both good and bad people. He doesn't have to be wicked for his family member to be wicked.

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by olas24u(f): 9:19am On Jun 14, 2019
Mcslize:


That's the problem. Family will cheat you, even if you decide to give it to reputable contractors, how reputable will they be? They will still siphon and cheat you once they know you are based abroad.

Buying will be too cost to building from scratch. The beauty of building from scratch is that, you can build it to your taste.

Sending money to family to build for you can be dangerous "cuz everyone eyes dey shook for money in this Nigeria o."

Nothing like this is my brother he can't do such to me. They will flex the money or use it to buy lands for themselves and nothing one will do as a person.

This has been my major concern. How do we go about building our own houses here in Nigeria when living abroad?

Should it be that one should use his annual leave period of 4 weeks to rush down to Nigeria and start his project himself and the contractor continue from there while updating him with videos and pictures of the progress of the project?

Some people do that in the property section though. But I know the contractor will cheat them on a huge rate.
This has been going on for years,and s company was set up and build houses at that targeted market, Edo state.but so many Edo people in Europe are illiterates.
Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by sharpwriter(m): 9:20am On Jun 14, 2019
blowjohn:

One man like that they say settles land disputes in edo
Ok thanks... But are his judgments worthwhile? Abi na juju hin dey take judge?
Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by vikono(m): 9:20am On Jun 14, 2019
Let me give word of wisdom to our people living overseas

Pls if u want to build in nigeria,look for two relatives you knw very well are not in good terms with each other(we call them cat and rat relatives),
entrust your money to both of them.lets say if one buy sand and granite,the other will buy cement etc.

just relax where ever u are,the two of them will be check and balance to each other.they will monitor each other and once one of them discover an act of fraud from the other,he calls u and vice versa.

Infact you should be ready for periodic updates and complain from both parties,by this u get a clear picture of what is going on in your site
HOPE THIS HELP

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by gypsey(m): 9:20am On Jun 14, 2019
Indispensable85:
This thing is just everywhere this days. I know a lady who was given similar treatment by her family.She had sent about 12million naira home for her building project, only to come home and discovered there was nothing on ground.The elder brother was buying cars and carrying women in Nigeria with her sister's sweat. When he heard about his sister's return to the country, he ran to Europe with the remaining change. Unfortunately the girl couldn't handle the shock,she started behaving strange and was rushed to psychiatric hospital in uselu, Benin. She's mad today in Benin, i ran into her when i came to town for last year's yuletide.
Really? shocked very unfortunate, i didn't believe this stories until it happened to me too. if not because i am a lorry driver in England with Very good salary. if the woman is documented she can go back to Europe and start again, try to find out her status, if she can be helped back to europe.
Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by sharpwriter(m): 9:22am On Jun 14, 2019
Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by tunize(m): 9:22am On Jun 14, 2019
My family immediate or whatever classification can't even try it cos dem know the kind pikin dem get...jst for the topic per sey such happens to my if na my sibling or whoever, the person should just vanish. na two way tin na u get mind divert my funds after 13yrs and cause me pain, i go get mind go any length too case close.

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by TheKingIsHere: 9:22am On Jun 14, 2019
Houseofglam7:
This is almost funny

I pray that this situation if not worse happens to you so that we can find it almost funny
Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by gypsey(m): 9:24am On Jun 14, 2019
vikono:
Let me give word of wisdom to our people living overseas

Pls if u want to build in nigeria,look for two relatives you knw very well are not in good terms with each other(we call them cat and rat relatives),
entrust your money to both of them.lets say if one buy sand and granite,the other will buy cement etc.

just relax where ever u are,the two of them will be check and balance to each other.they will monitor each other and once one of them discover an act of fraud from the other,he calls u and vice versa.

Infact you should be ready for periodic updates and complain from both parties,by this u get a clear picture of what is going on in your site
HOPE THIS HELP
And what if the 2 of them team up together and steal the money? it is possible.

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by TheKingIsHere: 9:24am On Jun 14, 2019
daddytime:
And dude was most likely deported o. What evil.

Exactly, and if so it will be difficult for him to make such money again

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by sharpwriter(m): 9:24am On Jun 14, 2019
gypsey:
Nothing new, my step brother did the same to me.
we are still battling it in court, eventually he will pay me My 40 mili naira back, or.... angry

Lol... Gypsey, so you sef get 40m and you no remember your boy grin

You'd better let me help you with your projects... Ayam trustworthy wink

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by Uyi168(m): 9:25am On Jun 14, 2019
DelilahMakinde:


The bros didn't have papers in the first place smiley
.... Very likely..
Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by idokokadiri200: 9:25am On Jun 14, 2019
If he has evidence to show that he sent money...let him remove sentiment ..they should be probe like a normal criminals..legal action highly needed.

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by olas24u(f): 9:26am On Jun 14, 2019
vikono:
Let me give word of wisdom to our people living overseas

Pls if u want to build in nigeria,look for two relatives you knw very well are not in good terms with each other(we call them cat and rat relatives),
entrust your money to both of them.lets say if one buy sand and granite,the other will buy cement etc.

just relax where ever u are,the two of them will be check and balance to each other.they will monitor each other and once one of them discover an act of fraud from the other,he calls u and vice versa.

Infact you should be ready for periodic updates and complain from both parties,by this u get a clear picture of what is going on in your site
HOPE THIS HELP
One chance!money can bring two people together.lol!

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by Indispensable85: 9:29am On Jun 14, 2019
gypsey:
Really? shocked very unfortunate, i didn't believe this stories until it happened to me too. if not because i am a lorry driver in England with Very good salary. if the woman is documented she can go back to Europe and start again, try to find out her status, if she can be helped back to europe.


My brother, these people are demons! They can frustrate your life I swear!

The challenge is that she's not mentally stable right now!

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Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by Holluwhakemmy(f): 9:30am On Jun 14, 2019
Sorry dear , we estate developers are there for you patronise us we gives the best and pay professional fees which is 10%.
Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by MiaB(f): 9:32am On Jun 14, 2019
ReneeNuttall:
Something similar happened at Ugbor years back.after staying abroad for years and sending money steady to his brother,that one kept updating him with pictures from other peoples buildings .He came back and saw an empty land.Twas the odionwere DAT settled d matter
Re: Edo Man Finds Out His Family Didn’t Build Any House After 13 Years In Europe by MiaB(f): 9:33am On Jun 14, 2019
Altern8:
This why it’s better to buy houses from developers. If your family member chop your money, nothing you fit do. Highest na to call family meeting. All the elders go beg you last last.

If you don’t have money to buy at once, contract reputable construction companies.

But Nigerians sha. You’re not even sure your contractor isn’t cheating you.
I know right

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