Erediauwa:
Sister don see mumu.

Erediauwa:
Sister don see mumu.

Josephilemona:
it's ok to assist, but don't expect anything in return else you get disappointed.

MJBOLT:

all these girls are manipulating you,the second one will turn you to father christmas,

CsRockefeller:


How do I cancel my earlier promise?

MariaLavina:
See as this one's brain dey roast on top girls matter .

MJBOLT:

tell her one story about how you had bad investments or yahoo boys wiped your account,i'm sure she wont even bother you again

Amakavula:
If you ask the first one well, you would be shock she had 5 other guys she had had sex with, the fifth one is currently giving her head on a daily.

None of those ladies have any feeling for you, dude leave them alone.

I pity you be forming Holy ghost there, they will finish you.

generationz:
@op for the first case , it is quite difficult to judge based on the few things you said about her if she is girlfriend worthy or not. Usually , observations like this on nairaland are usually one sided and don't throw enough light on the personality involved

It is very posssible for a man or lady to stay celibate till marriage.
Maybe the person didn't know a thing or two like they know now. Some people decide to get closer to God ( I mean fasting and prayer) and decide to stay away from premarital sex till they marry. I know men who did this( you know men don't lie about this things ) so if a guy can do it women too can definitely.

However knowing whether she will be faithful to you or not is definitely up to you, we can't judge the situation because we don't know her heart and we are not prophets .

It would take a lot of trust , communication and commitment to keep the relationship especially during this internet age .


As for the second girl if you want to help her don't give her monthly stipends. It might go a long way but after a while it still won't be enough. Instead empower her and watch her.

Students can use as low as 10k to sell eggs,pure water, beverages, sanitary towel and other necessities within the hostels.

If she's tall enough she can work as an usher . School is the best place to start a business ,fail at it , horn your skills and be set for life.

CsRockefeller:


Let me be very honest with you and everyone here.

I don't give a hoot, whether she is a virgin or not as long as its in her past. She is a very nice girl one who can be trusted.

However, my concern is with her Life goals, she is about 23, a hair dresser, her mum is late, her Dad is somewhere in Cotonou, her brothers are in Abeokuta, only her stays at Ota.

Right now, there is no plan for her to go to school, not even NCE or OND, she is fending for herself, which is very noble, but, I don't want to shoulder any heavy responsibility right now, If in d next 3 years, I want to settle down, where would she be career wise?

I don't want to use that as an excuse, so that she doesn't feel bad. So this sex thing can be my escape route. Tell her I can't be in a relationship without sex since she wants to abstain, then we all go our separate ways.

At least d Unilag girl has something going on for her. In 3 years time, she will be a graduate of Bio-Genetics, shes younger and smarter.

Even if we don't get to date, at least any investment on her (which wouldn't be high) would be worth it, to herself, her family and the society at large.

Ehn ehn op now you are talking

However judging from your post you got it all mixed up

I'll tell you why?

Spending on a student and sending a girl who isn't your wife yet to school isn't an investment . Its charity work.

anything can happen after four years. She will be more mature by then with better experience to choose and if she has no conscience, she would not waste time to discard you if a guy with better prospects comes along.

Economically in Nigeria , the hairdresser is has more prospects.

She already makes money, knows how difficult it is saving and might still have bigger goals. Meanwhile the student still has the mentality that when she is done with school a job will be waiting for her. You know how naija is based on that assertion.

If you play your cards well the hairdresser can have her business and still go back to school part time . All this will be from her pocket. You may not spend a dime. All you'll have to do is encourage her.

Theres a Lady on nairalanders who makes badass braided wigs she sells on the gram for as high as 20k or more
It depends on the marketing she doesn't need a shop

@wigmaniac_international check that out on Instagram.

If that girl is hardworking , you have a gem with you.

I suspect though that you are more in love with student and any advice we give here is of no use.

You can know a man in love when you observe where his money tilts towards.

generationz:


So,are you saying a lady can't be celibate after loosing her virginity?

BuddhaPalm:
1. It's people like you that make women pretend so much...

They can't be free around you because of your holier-than-thou outlook.

How about you?

You did "other stuff" while being a committed Christian. And you lied to her as well.

Girls are flesh and blood just like you and have powerful urges too.


2. Going by your unrealistic expectations of chastity, this second one that went straight to money talk will probably shock you.

Amakavula:
read between the lines here with me Sis, he is assuming her to be some kind of innocent bystander to the sex rather than an active participant.

That she made some mistake, rather than something she wanted and did and will still do, religion or not.

She might love to do it again and again but not with him. As he clearly doesn't attract her enough to give him, hence why she was was liberal about it