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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by TANID(m): 3:47pm On Jul 07
Deicide:
Person way fit kill innocent life, her own child fit kill you undecided
Don't Think In That Way Sir.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by Lionessza6: 4:03pm On Jul 07
I believe there are somethings that are better left in the closet or unsaid, and this would qualify as one of them for me , unless ofcourse it's really affecting me psychologically and/or physically . In as much as I'm a big fan of heart to hearts, openness and playfulness in a relationship , there are still things I would rather not know about my partner's private escapades with his previous lover grin.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by ThothHermes: 4:41pm On Jul 07
Fountainofyouth:



Op said psychological virgins should stay away angry





Immature peeps should also stay away undecided
Abortionists will be pained grin
Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by Fountainofyouth(f): 4:42pm On Jul 07
ThothHermes:
Abortionists will be pained grin


Diick hoppers feeling like psychological virgins grin
Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by Deepfeel(m): 4:48pm On Jul 07
AwkaetitiBabe:
Has any woman aborted for u? grin
No o never
Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by pryme(m): 5:19pm On Jul 07
I would have been an issue 20 years ago, but am wiser and older now.
So it won't change anything.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by kunleweb: 6:30pm On Jul 07
Joromi12:
Dont tell unless it has damaged ur womb . My ex had 1 that almost cost her life . She is married now with twins. The husband never knew


Wow
Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by vivalavida(m): 6:31pm On Jul 07
I remember how that changed my relationship with One Mary Jane. Babe looked so holy and pious till the day she dropped the shocker. Told me she has had three abortions. That truth changed everything about us.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by kunleweb: 6:33pm On Jul 07
MissRaine69:
Would your perception of her change or would you rather not know? Women would you tell him? If you are a psychological virgin this post is not for you.


Funny enough I as going to hook my nest buddy with a babe that recently did abortion. I was so downcast cause I knew they both would be perfect for one another because they shared similar characteristics. I gave up on hooking them upnwith one another. Guess what, he called me recently asking why I didn't introduce the chick to him again. After I told him and explained the circumstance , he said he understood and he's still going to court/marry her, that anything from me is good with him. Can you beat that? It depends on individual, for me its a no no.


What do you mean by psychological virgin plz

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by kunleweb: 6:34pm On Jul 07
vivalavida:
I remember how that changed my relationship with One Mary Jane. Babe looked so holy and pious till the day she dropped the shocker. Told me she has had three abortions. That truth changed everything about us.



Did you break up immediately?
Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by Dracoe(m): 6:50pm On Jul 07
I have trust issues ,asking that kinda question will just breach the trust I have in her ,so asking is a no no for me.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by MissRaine69(f): 7:07pm On Jul 07
kunleweb:



Funny enough I as going to hook my nest buddy with a babe that recently did abortion. I was so downcast cause I knew they both would be perfect for one another because they shared similar characteristics. I gave up on hooking them upnwith one another. Guess what, he called me recently asking why I didn't introduce the chick to him again. After I told him and explained the circumstance , he said he understood and he's still going to court/marry her, that anything from me is good with him. Can you beat that? It depends on individual, for me its a no no.


What do you mean by psychological virgin plz
The sanctimonious crew that litter this forum. They are virgins in their minds only!
Now back to your story. You judged her unfairly I might say. You potentially could have deprived your friend of a soulmate based on your perceptions of her actions. Women make decisions due to circumstances being forced on them sometimes. I live in a country where abortions are legal so women don’t have to resort to methods that could kill them or cause permanent damage.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by MissRaine69(f): 7:11pm On Jul 07
Dracoe:
I have trust issues ,asking that kinda question will just breach the trust I have in her ,so asking is a no no for me.
May I ask a bold question? If you have had unprotected sex at some point in your life how do you know there is a woman out there who might have done the same where you are the father? Secondly your trust issues are a reflection of you and your personality traits if she lies and you find out later would that not exacerbate matters more?

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by kunleweb: 7:12pm On Jul 07
MissRaine69:

The sanctimonious crew that litter this forum. They are virgins in their minds only!
Now back to your story. You judged her unfairly I might say. You potentially could have deprived your friend of a soulmate based on your perceptions of her actions. Women make decisions due to circumstances being forced on them sometimes. I live in a country where abortions are legal so women don’t have to resort to methods that could kill them or cause permanent damage.




To think that they're both photocopies of one another is scaring. I didn't judge her. I have expectations for her to be a decent lady. Doing that shii at 33 implies plain stupidity. If I follow through with this project, shell answer to me cheesy


I easily forgive mistakes but not deliberate actions. Doing this shii at 33 doesn't make sense. No lady above 22 should so cheaply babydump. What's not right isn't right.


I take my sperm very serious. It would require serious work to have my sperm. I place a premium on my self. So there's no one out there carrying my seed, cause even as a kid, I placed premium on my seed. This has been my mentality since as a teen


Missjoy29

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by MissRaine69(f): 7:14pm On Jul 07
kunleweb:




To think that they're both photocopies of one another is scaring. I didn't judge her. I have expectations for her to be a decent lady. Doing that shii at 33 implies plain stupidity. If I follow through with this project, shell answer to me cheesy
You looked at the surface a common mistake men make. At least let him decide autonomously to date or not. Most men are quite understanding of this issue.
Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by kunleweb: 7:16pm On Jul 07
MissRaine69:

You looked at the surface a common mistake men make. At least let him decide autonomously to date or not. Most men are quite understanding of this issue.


It goes beyond understanding. See I can marry a woman who was gan raped aborted and all, but a woman who willfully aborts has issues a lot, self love, lust, selfishness, greed all of which led to the abortion. Abortion is purely an indicator of ones character and I have to GI for the very best, it has little to nothing to do with mistakes. Even as men, we expressed caution, we expect more from women and its thus simple.



Its unlafy like to have wanton list as this generation exudes. A lady should be a queen and pride herself as such not open to any fly that perches around. If this was obeyed, there won't be abortion. Any Lady who commits an abortion above 22 is cheap my dear. Its not a mistake, its what it is, an unpaid wh.ore

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by MissRaine69(f): 7:24pm On Jul 07
kunleweb:



It goes beyond understanding. See I can marry a woman who was gan raped aborted and all, but a woman who willfully aborts has issues a lot, self love, lust, selfishness, greed all of which led to the abortion. Abortion is purely an indicator of ones character and I have to GI for the very best, it has little to nothing to do with mistakes. Even as men, we expressed caution, we expect more from women and its thus simple.



Its unlafy like to have wanton list as this generation exudes. A lady should be a queen and pride herself as such not open to any fly that perches around. If this was obeyed, there won't be abortion. Any Lady who commits an abortion above 22 is cheap my dear. Its not a mistake, its what it is, an unpaid wh.ore
You have a rigid dare I say a bit sanctimonious way of looking at life but I respect that so no vex
You have much to learn and experience that’s what i will say in parting.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by kunleweb: 7:27pm On Jul 07
MissRaine69:

You have a rigid dare I say a bit sanctimonious way of looking at life but I respect that so no vex
You have much to learn and experience that’s what i will say in parting.



Nah. Its a soft spot you have to alleviate the emotional trauma/shame attached with the act. I'm simply disscoaited from such shame hence can be bold and upfront without any neediness to play neutral. As kids, ladies were taught to treat their bodies with respect. Any it's purely the sign, a lady in such a scenario is cheap, doesn't place good value on herself,has poor esteem hence needed sex as an outlet and did not care about future relations during the act.


Sorry I'm blunt its what it is and doesn't alleviate the severity of such cases these days. If not for improved medicare, HIV and AIDS would have done much more damage.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by MissRaine69(f): 7:42pm On Jul 07
kunleweb:




Nah. Its a soft spot you have to alleviate the emotional trauma/shame attached with the act. I'm simply disscoaited from such shame hence can be bold and upfront without any neediness to play neutral. As kids, ladies were taught to treat their bodies with respect. Any it's purely the sign, a lady in such a scenario is cheap, doesn't place good value on herself,has poor esteem hence needed sex as an outlet and did not care about future relations during the act.


Sorry I'm blunt its what it is and doesn't alleviate the severity of such cases these days. If not for improved medicare, HIV and AIDS would have done much more damage.
Parallel lines that’s our end recourse adieu nice chat
Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by vivalavida(m): 7:56pm On Jul 07
kunleweb:




Did you break up immediately?

Not immediately

But gradually it went downhill

I always had that thought at the back ofmy mind

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by kunleweb: 8:00pm On Jul 07
vivalavida:


Not immediately

But gradually it went downhill

I always had that thought at the back ofmy mind



Good. Selfish beings. If they had humanity in them they would have considered their actions had consequences in those moments of burning passions

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by Dracoe(m): 8:37pm On Jul 07
MissRaine69:

May I ask a bold question? If you have had unprotected sex at some point in your life how do you know there is a woman out there who might have done the same where you are the father? Secondly your trust issues are a reflection of you and your personality traits if she lies and you find out later would that not exacerbate matters more?
Your first question; I would most probably never know, and I can’t direct any feelings or thoughts to something I have no knowledge of unless she tells me.
Your second question; that’s why I said I would never ask...asking is a no no for me.But if she tells me herself she has had an abortion,I would have my reservations at first then if I truly love her it wouldn’t change anything.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by izzou(m): 8:53pm On Jul 07
I once dated someone who has aborted before. It didn't bother me. We later broke up but not because of that reason

I detest abortions, but most times we are human and we are bound to make costly and grave mistakes. If you haven't made one in relationships, you sure would in business, in education...... In a particular sphere of your life, you will have made a costly mistake

And that's why I encourage ladies, especially in Africa to be smart. Our society is all about man. Don't get pregnant for a guy that isn't your husband.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by Obodo999(m): 8:59pm On Jul 07
MissRaine69:

The post above your original comment is a good example.

Why should he lowered his standards for a woman who had killed her unborn baby? Please don't blame him.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by Obodo999(m): 9:01pm On Jul 07
Dracoe:

Your first question; I would most probably never know, and I can’t direct any feelings or thoughts to something I have no knowledge of unless she tells me.
Your second question; that’s why I said I would never ask...asking is a no no for me.But if she tells me herself she has had an abortion,I would have my reservations at first then if I truly love her it wouldn’t change anything.

Don't let that feminist abortionist woman blackmail you.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by 2buffagain(m): 9:06pm On Jul 07
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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by 2buffagain(m): 9:10pm On Jul 07
Unless I specifically ask, I'd honestly rather not know.

If I ask, I expect the truth no matter how bad. If I'm the right mature man for her, I'll stick around. If I'm not, then she would be better served finding a more accepting man.

As to where I am right now in life, I feel like an abortion means she was letting a man who had not married her dick her RAW.

That's a scary thing....

Nobody said you should not enjoy dick as a spinster, but for heaven's sake, enjoy it with sense!

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by MissRaine69(f): 9:12pm On Jul 07
Obodo999:


Why should he lowered his standards for a woman who had killed her unborn baby? Please don't blame him.
How is his standards lowered? Because someone had a termination then that gages standards I am sure you are the same mofos who have issues with single mothers. Her body her choice your patriarchal view of perfection is skewed.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by Obodo999(m): 9:12pm On Jul 07
MissRaine69:

Parallel lines that’s our end recourse adieu nice chat

Is it because you don't want want to hear the truth he is saying?

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by Obodo999(m): 9:14pm On Jul 07
MissRaine69:

How is his standards lowered? Because someone had a termination then that gages standards I am sure you are the same mofos who have issues with single mothers. Her body her choice your patriarchal view of perfection is skewed.

You need to confess and repent if you have killed your unborn child.

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by MissRaine69(f): 9:16pm On Jul 07
Obodo999:


Don't let that feminist abortionist woman blackmail you.
When was the last time you saw someone smile because you entered a room?

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Re: If She Tells You She Had An Abortion by MissRaine69(f): 9:19pm On Jul 07
Obodo999:


You need to confess and repent if you have killed your unborn child.
The trouble ain't there is too many fools, but that the lightning ain't distributed right.....

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